Unhindered female choice in relationships is still relatively new, even in the US. In the 1970's..not all American women even have acc...
Unhindered female choice in relationships is still relatively new, even in the US.
In the 1970's..not all American women even have access to:
- credit,
- property ownership,
- certain jobs,
- & dating/marrying who *you* want to be with for their own reasons.
Some chains do tend to remain on minds for a while.
40 Basic Rights Women Did NOT Have Until the 1970s
fact-check-9-things-women-couldnt-do-1971-
msmagazine.com/2013/05/28/10-things-that-american-women-could-not-do-before-the-1970s
https://www.nerdwallet.com/article/credit-cards/women-credit-decades-70s
While a person who was born in the 1990's may be used to having certain rights, they were still raised in homes, families, neighborhoods, schools, and faith communities where the autonomy of female human beings was not embraced.
We know from American slavery (and other places all around the world) that just because a hard fought-for law or policy grants a group the freedoms that should have always been available to them, it is a lot harder to change minds, behaviors, and systems.
None of our communities are in the habit of respecting female choices in relationships. Even the communities in the Western world. Yep, even the United States.
You will hear/see people continue to challenge women's rights.
You will hear/see people continue to challenge whether women should have ever been given the rights we fought for since the beginning of time in the first place.
You will hear/see people challenge whether women "really" know what's good for them.
You will hear/see people challenge whether women know what we are doing when we make relationship choices that serve our current needs/wants.
You will hear/see people challenge whether women should be "allowed" to meet & travel alone without some sort of male supervision or accompaniment.
You will hear/see people express resentment, ridicule, and even violence at the very idea that women can make educational, financial, family planning, and/or relationship choices .....all by our powerful selves.
Some folks are still annoyed about women winning those battles. A LOT of folks.
Still bitter. Still mad. Still pouting.
It gets annoying. It gets weird. It gets on your nerves.
Please engage in self-care.
In the meantime, also, be loyal to yourself & your future.
They will catch up or............ they won't.
Final notes:
*Lots of different types of people exist on this planet. In 2020, there were approximately 7.753 billion.
All of the 7.753 billion living & breathing people "exist".
And, there are more on the way.
You are under no obligation to date all 7.753 billion people or even just those interested in dating you.
Judge.
Be selective.
Be choosy.
You must.
Clarify your wants and needs, for yourself.
Dating/marriage can be challenging under the most optimal conditions.
Dating (or getting dates you like/love) is a challenge for most people who exist (read: live).
Real-life and the "dating" we see on television, in film, in songs, and on social media have a lot of dis-similarities.
ALL dating/marrying choices are about preferences.
Each & every single one.
ALL dating/marrying choices include some sort of individual preferred characteristics, status, temperament, interests etc...
Even the most open-minded, "give everybody a chance", "free love" person.......has preferences (stuff they like & don't like).
Women are allowed to have them too.
*P.S. There will always be people who disagree with your choices.
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