What Do People Mean When They Say “Misogyny Comes First”?
All women are not necessarily living the same patriarchal reality.
This phrase comes up a lot in feminist discussions.It usually mea [...]
They Loved Ms. Foxy Just Fine -Until She Spoke Truth (podcast episode)
From WE Survive Abuse Podcast
They will celebrate you as long as you are palatable.As long as your strength entertains them.As long as [...]
Survivor Affirmations: My Female Existence is Sacred and Worthy of Unapologetic Self-Care (podcast)
Survivor Affirmations: I Deserve Peac from Within by Tonya GJ Prince [...]
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The Power of Healing Spaces: Why Race-Specific Healing Groups Are as Vital as Sex-Specific Ones (audio/podcast)
Healing is universal, but the paths we take to get there are not one-size-fits-all. In this compelling episode of We Survive Abuse, Tonya GJ Prince ta [...]
Why You May Want to Unfollow People Who Willfully Turn a Blind Eye to Power Imbalance
As Big Brother Legend on X.com says, "I unfollow (Black) people who don't understand this."At this point in my life, I choose to disaffiliate with [...]
Why I Believe Women When They Say They’re Afraid — And Why You May Want To Too (updated with podcast link)
updated from June 28, 2024 Listen to this blog post here There are mom [...]
Why Do People Call Gender-Critical Women “Extremists” When We’re Just Talking About Safety?
Survivor advocacy has always required naming what endangers women and children — even when it’s unpopular.This isn’t the kind of work that earns a [...]
Not Like Us: The Black Freedom Legacy Was Not Built on Unquestioning Institutional Compliance
There is a pattern that deserves daylight.Some movements wrap themselves in the language, symbolism, and moral authority of the Black American fre [...]
When Parties Tell Women What to Want Instead of Listening
Political parties in the U.S. don’t seem to hear themselves.To many women, their voices aren’t raised for our dignity, our safety, or our futu [...]
Women Will Not Wait for Your Permission to Tell Our Own Stories
When they first came out with the term "birthing people” I remember questioning it among other women including on the Twitter app. How did we fe [...]
For Some People, Staying Grounded in Reality Is a Daily Act of Strength
For Some People, Staying Grounded in Reality Is a Daily Act of StrengthFor many people, “reality” is s [...]
Women’s History Month Closing Affirmations: Speak Truth, Name Harm, Keep Going
We close this month with clear eyes. Not just looking back, but looking forward with intention.We honor ho [...]
📺 “You Look Fine on TV…”How Media Representation Became a Distraction from Real Black Struggle
"You looked fine."
"I saw you on television."
But what if that wasn't me?What if I wasn't on television?
Ma [...]
Is Face ID a Danger for Women in Abusive Relationships?
“Convenience shouldn’t cost you your safety.”We don’t always talk about this, but we should:
Face ID (and [...]
I Will Survive: How Survivor Gloria Gaynor Keeps Inspiring Decades After the Release of Grammy Winning Song
originally published 2/8/ 2016At First I Was Afraid... When we have been wounded we must heal. To do that, I think we all use a combination of&n [...]
The Shifting Burden of Safety — And Who’s Carrying It Now
In recent years, the responsibility for keeping peace, avoiding danger, and anticipating harm has landed—again—squarely on women’s shoulders. Not beca [...]
Your Voice Was Never the Problem—Their Comfort with Harm Was
They told you to lower your voice.To be more careful.To stop "bringing it up."To let it go.
But let’s name what was really happening:
Your voice was [...]
🛑 We don’t negotiate safety
⚖️ Some Things Are Black and White
Yes means safety.No means protection.
Clear, certain, unapologetic bounda [...]
The Tender Hands the World Must Never Forget
The Richard Speck murders had a deep and lasting impact on how America viewed women’s safety, personal securi [...]
Women Are Losing Ground: 13 Alarming Signs Life Is Getting More Dangerous for Women and Girls (w TikTok video)
There is wisdom in women noticing when something is changing before everyone else is willing to name it.
Th [...]
✂️ Unlearning the Lie: When “Being a Good Person” Means Upholding Harm
Some of us were taught that being a “good person” meant keeping quiet.Smoothing things over.Soften the blow.Pr [...]
You Are Not a Hero to Women for Teaching Men They are Entitled to Women’s Spaces (podcast episode)
What does it really mean to protect women? And who gets to decide when a woman's safety concerns are "serious enough" to matter?
In this epis [...]
The Neuroscience of Political Tribalism | Why You Can’t Think Straight
You saw it too.I was watching clips from Jesse Jackson's homegoing service. Then all of a sudden, people who openly despised this man and ALL that [...]
12 Ways That We Rob Women—Then Judge Their Survival
It is a contradiction to restrict women's opportunities, safety, or autonomy and then criticize the ways women adapt. If we want different outcomes, w [...]
💣 Beauty as a Battlefield: When We Compete, They Win
Let’s tell the truth:This world wants women to be at war with each other.
Not over justice.Not over safety.But over aesthetics.
It’s no [...]
She Burned Her Writing for J.D. Salinger: Claire Douglas and the Cost of Disappearing for Love (podcast ep)
Before Claire Douglas became J.D. Salinger’s twenty-one-year-old wife, she was a Radcliffe student with writing of her own—short stories, pl [...]
Released From Jail But Still a Danger to Women and Girls
@carloswins #torreymoore #maryland #foryou #fyp ♬ original sound - Carlos
Reminder: Males who are released from prison may still pose [...]
How Women’s Pain Is Minimized to Keep Men Comfortable
If there were no men in the room,no men in the equation,no men to protect or appease—
would anyone ever look [...]
There is a Difference Between: “I Want This and I Do Not Want This”
updated from July 31 2016
Consensual sex and sexual violence are not the same.
They are not close.They ar [...]
There Is No Bad Day to Tell the Truth
To every Survivor who has ever hesitated, second-guessed, or swallowed the truth to protect someone else's com [...]
The Lie She Tells Herself: When Women Protect the Men Who Harm
"I'd lie for you. I'd die for you. Ride or die for you"- a woman or girl for a a man she admires/likes/loves
[...]
Boundaries: The Blueprint of Personal Power (featuring video from Alonna Elaine)
updated from May 4 2025
They will call it selfish.They will call it rude.They will call it unnecessary.But you know better.
Boundaries are not wal [...]
When Chaos Is a Weapon: How Some Partners Use Crisis to Control You
And why you’re not “mean” for wanting peaceIt starts with a bad decision.Maybe a DUI.Maybe losing another job.Maybe a fight with the [...]
🌿 My Self-Soothe Journal
🌿 My Self-Soothe Journal
A Sacred Space to Tend to Your Spirit, Breath by Breath
There are moments when the world feels too loud… and your nervous [...]
