She Who Prioritizes Her Own Safety Is Strong (audio/video)
Watch your speaker levelShe Who Prioritizes Her Own Safety is Strong by Tonya GJ Prince [...]
Women Taint Nobody's Business Who You Choose to Love (audio)
Women Tain't Nobody's Business Who You Choose To Love [...]
Don’t Ignore the History and Connection of Accountability Evasion in Violence, Abuse, and Racism (w/ podcast episode)
So we have reached the place where the n-word is actually Black American people's fault. And that is part of the cycle of harm. Evading accountability [...]
She Burned Her Writing for J.D. Salinger: Claire Douglas and the Cost of Disappearing for Love (podcast ep)
Before Claire Douglas became J.D. Salinger’s twenty-one-year-old wife, she was a Radcliffe student with writing of her own—short stories, plays and es [...]
Why You May Want to Unfollow People Who Willfully Turn a Blind Eye to Power Imbalance
As Big Brother Legend on X.com says, "I unfollow (Black) people who don't understand this."At this point in my life, I choose to disaffiliate with [...]
The Gift of Access to YOU (audio/podcast)
This episode unpacks how those lessons of survival can linger into adulthood, making us feel like we owe access to anyone who asks.....How often [...]
I Will Survive: How Survivor Gloria Gaynor Keeps Inspiring Decades After the Release of Grammy Winning Song
originally published 2/8/ 2016At First I Was Afraid... When we have been wounded we must heal. To do that, I think we all use a combination of&n [...]
🛡️ Survival Required Specificity
🛡️ Survival Required Specificity
We don’t survive by blending in.We survive by knowing who we are,what harmed us,and what helps us heal.
Oppressive [...]
Unraveling Control: The Legacy of Policing Women’s Fashion and Clothing Choices
Did you know that when high-profile prosecutor Kelly Siegler prosecuted Susan Wright for stabbing her husband Jeff Wright, she had to get permission t [...]
✊🏾 Women Deserve Safety Without Apology
It is not hateful to name a reality:The same laws that allow trans-identified males to enter women’s spaces also open the door for any man—including [...]
This Moment Is Teaching Us
🖤 WeSurviveAbuse.com
A young Black woman—famous, talented, in the public eye—is harmed in plain view.She find [...]
🚩 Red Flags: When “Allies” Are Really Just Bullies
In advocacy, passion often draws people in—it can light up a room, stir emotions, and rally attention. But not [...]
They Know Exactly Who They Are
We like to believe—many of us—that if people only knew the truth about someone…
…that they’re abusive.…that [...]
Why Some Voices Are Punished for Asking the Right Questions-Even By Fellow Women
Updated from June 3, 2025
Speaking of a harmed woman's word is never good enough........ We WILL NOT be for [...]
You Were Never Meant to Carry What He Refused to Unpack
For the woman who’s been told her standards are too high—stand taller.
Sister,Let’s tell the truth today.
They say:“That’s just how men are.”“ [...]
After Abuse: How to Know Whether You Need a Coach or a Counselor
While coaching and counseling can both support Survivors, they are not the same service.
Counseling is usually clinical mental health support. It is [...]
Black Women Are Not the Mules of the World—Not Then, Not Now, Not Ever
Black women said "no" and the burning crosses came out in force. Social media was lit up! Holding the torches were males of all 'identities'. Who ev [...]
💔 When She Protects Herself, He Cries Harm
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There are men—too many—who believe that a woman harms them simply by refusing to be harm [...]
When It’s Not Pride: 11 Ways Violence Against Black Women Hides Behind “Black Pride”
We lift up Black pride as sacred—a celebration of survival, brilliance, resilience, and the sacredness of ou [...]
I uncovered the DARK TRUTH about my grandparents… | The Moth
Growing up, Angela loved spending time with her grandfather who became a widower at a young age. But when he p [...]
Please Say Something to Help End Black Femicide
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Why a Woman’s “No” Is Not Oppression: A Womanist Perspective on Consent and Boundaries
Whether or not a woman on this planet has read feminist authors or understands what others mean by terms like "intersectionality" or the difference be [...]
✊🏾 Teaching Before the Harm: The Difference Between Comfort and Safety
“We learn too late because no one taught us soon enough.
Let this be the generation that teaches before the harm.”
Comfort feels nice.
Safety keeps [...]
The Door Is Still Open: Building Ethical Innovation for Survivors Together
Innovation Does Not Have to Mean Erasure
We are living in a moment where new technologies are touching medicine, justice, education, safety, art, and [...]
Why Listening to Women’s Pain Feels Hard—And Why It Matters More Than We Admit
I was confused by my own exhaustion.
I had spent years doing what some people think is the hardest part of advocacy.
Helping women [...]
Using Michelle Obama’s Image to Justify White Supremacy Is a Self-Own—And a Betrayal
If you don’t get out there and define yourself, you’ll be quickly and inaccurately defined by others.
-Michelle Obama
(Why [...]
Calling Women “Hateful” for Wanting Safety Is Abuse Dressed in Decorum
updated from June 3 2025
Let’s name this for what it is:
When politicians, media figures, or public influencers call women “hateful” for [...]
She Reported the Rapes. A Jury Convicted Him. Then the Judge Told Her to Forgive Him.
Some people are taught to believe the justice system will be waiting for them.If somebody hurts you, tell. [...]
When It’s Not Pride: 11 Ways Violence Against Black Women Hides Behind “Black Pride”
We lift up Black pride as sacred—a celebration of survival, brilliance, resilience, and the sacredness of ou [...]
Zainab Jama Is the Voice So Many Girls Have Been Waiting For
Zainab Jama, Miss World Somalia 2025, is not just a beauty queen—She is a truth-teller.A torchbearer.A fierc [...]
We Must Unlearn the Misplaced Blame We Inherited
I am a Black woman.I was raised as a Black woman in the United States of America.Raised to be stro [...]
They Stopped Speaking to You: Navigating Religious Disconnection
Many faith communities, traditions, or denominations—across the world—have practices of disaffiliation or shunning, especially when someone is seen as [...]
It Is Not Women Who Should Be Shamed for Protecting Themselves.
Society has done an awful, weak, and half-hearted job of protecting women and children. Too often, when a woman sets boundaries or takes steps to safe [...]
🎭 The Enforcer in the Room: When Women Police Other Women for Abusers
"I will give you something to cry out about"
There is something few people want to talk about—but every Survivor knows it.
In systems of abuse and e [...]
🌿 My Self-Soothe Journal
🌿 My Self-Soothe Journal
A Sacred Space to Tend to Your Spirit, Breath by Breath
There are moments when the world feels too loud… and your nervous [...]
