A Society That Centers Harmful Males Will Never Have Trust—And It Doesn’t Deserve It
Trust is not a gift.Trust is built.Earned.Sustained through action, protection, and accountability.
But what happens when a society bu [...]
As a Woman, You May Find It Challenging to Stand Up for Yourself If..(video & audio)
“I’m interested in women’s health because I’m a woman. I’d be a darn fool not to be on my own side.”
– Maya Angelou
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Women Taint Nobody's Business Who You Choose to Love (audio)
Women Tain't Nobody's Business Who You Choose To Love [...]
Spotting the Red Flags: Early Warning Signs of Manipulative and Abusive People (audio/podcast)
Manipulators don’t wear name tags, but their actions can reveal their true intentions. In this [...]
Survivor Affirmations: I Live an Authentic Life, Lessons from Big Mama Thornton (podcast episode)
In this compelling episode of the We Survive Abuse podcast, we dive into the powerful life and legacy of blues legend Big Mama Thornton. Jo [...]
The Hidden Law: Child Marriage is Still Legal in 37 U.S. States
Child marriage is often mistakenly viewed as an issue exclusive to the Global South, but it persists significantly across the West, including the Unit [...]
Who Will Find Missing Women and Girls?
updated from September 25, 2023
For over thirty years I have been dedicated to working to end violence against women and girls.
Along the way, I wor [...]
Safety Plan: National Alert
A Survivor of domestic violence contacted me today and asked that I remind other victims who may still be living at home with the person who is abusiv [...]
Honoring the Courage of James Ransone Who Walked in Truth
updated from December 22 2025
I'm hearing that James Ransone was left out of the Oscars "In Memoriam" segment on Sunday March 15, ceremony. Let's r [...]
Grooming by Environment: When the System Softens the Ground for Abuse
When most people hear the word grooming, they imagine a single predator targeting a person—saying the right things, isolating them, offering gifts, br [...]
Surviving Abuse: A History of Rape
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When Technology Becomes a Weapon: What You Need to Know About Cyberstalking and Deepfake Abuse
People like to be casual about it, but cyberstalking is a crime. Cyberstalking looks like: Following y [...]
The Weight of Invisible Pain: Why Fibromyalgia Leaves You Exhausted Before the Day Begins
Fibromyalgia and abuse are deeply intertwined in ways that medical science is only beginning to understand. Su [...]
Our Safety Isn’t a Punchline: Standing Strong Against Ridicule
Women’s safety isn’t a joke. Ain't a damn thing "funny" about it. Yet, whenever we gather the courage t [...]
Domestic Violence Awareness Month: Expanding the Conversation to Cohabitation Spaces
October reminds us to shine light on the realities of domestic violence. Too often, our discussions focus na [...]
⚖️ The Fight for Protection: What You Should Know About U.S. FGM Laws
In the United States, Female Genital Mutilation (FGM) is illegal under federal law.But it took decades of stru [...]
Your Self-Righteousness Will Not End Domestic Violence
So you were “right.”You “saw the signs.”You “told her he wasn’t good.”You “would’ve left sooner.”You “would ne [...]
Leaving Isn’t Just Courage. It’s Conditions.
They tell women:
“If it was bad enough, you would have left.” That sounds like truth. You don't have to be [...]
“Why Didn’t She Fight Back?”
I like how Apple Tree Yard explains it. The character seems to be speaking a language that he underst [...]
Explain Like I'm 5: What victims of domestic violence go through to get justice
I originally posted this on 9/3/15. On 5/16/2016 I aided a victim in DC and unfortunately this is still true.& [...]
Stephan Smerk Pleads Guilty in 1994 Slaying of Virginia Mother Robin Lawrence
*48Hours had a female FBI expert who shared valuable insight. In her opinion the murder was like [...]
Why ‘Being Loyal’ Shouldn’t Cost You Your Safety, Dignity, or Peace
One of my all-time favorite jazz tunes is "My Man." “My Man” is, in many ways, a love song about endurance [...]
🌿 My Self-Soothe Journal
🌿 My Self-Soothe Journal
A Sacred Space to Tend to Your Spirit, Breath by Breath
There are moments when the world feels too loud… and your nervous [...]
When Women Say No: Why Men Mocking Our Boundaries Is a New Low
We Are Protecting Our Bodies, Not Asking for Permission
There’s something deeply broken and dangerous happening in the public square.
Wome [...]
When Love Is a Lie: Understanding Grooming Beyond Childhood
Because grooming doesn’t stop at 18. It just gets harder to prove.
We are taught to see grooming as something that happens to children.But [...]
Weaponizing Fear: How the ‘Die Alone’ Myth Is Used to Control Women
“Fear is the tool of the tyrant and the weapon of the weak.”
— African Proverb Fear as a Tool of Control
Throughout h [...]
Celia: How an Enslaved Girl Continues to Inform Black Women’s Work to End Violence Against Women
Celia
updated from September 20 2023 1. (1855) Celia was a slave girl who was tried and executed for killing her enslaver after enduri [...]
Lessons from the Murder of Tonie Nicole: The Family Shares
I came across and compiled this years ago. I was struck by how the family members brought her to life for us....shared her with us. It saddens me that [...]
We Didn’t Come Here to Be Palatable
We did not come here to be pleasant.We did not come here to repeat what they taught us in fear.We did not come here to water down our wisdom so it c [...]
Survivor Affirmations: Encouragement to Women Everywhere (video/audio)
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Title IX: ‘Revolutionary’ legislation but inequalities still exist 50 years later | USA TODAY
original post 5/4/ 23We must keep fighting for women and girls to have expanded opportunities, awards, and sponsorships in sports. -TGJP Equality [...]
Forced Sterilization Never Ended — It Just Learned How to Hide (women’s present day stories through videos)
The thing about 'female exams' is that we have to make our bodies available to doctors, but we have no idea what they may be doing to our bodies.
&n [...]
Hello: 10 Issues Black Women Have Been Sounding the Alarm About for Decades
Across social media and public conversations, there is a pattern many Black women recognize immediately. When a crisis emerges somewhere in the wor [...]
10 Hard Truths About Men Who Have Been Violent in Relationships
Safety never comes from cruelty. One of the strongest predictors of future abuse is past abuse. Men who have harmed partners before are likely to re [...]
They Got So Much Things To Say Right Now (But here’s what Survivors actually need to hear.)
When a domestic violence Survivor speaks out, everyone suddenly has something to say. “She should’ve left.”“Why didn’t she tell anyone?”“What did [...]
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