Beautiful Before Anyone Gave Permission: Remembering Victoria Santa Cruz
I went to grade school with a girl who might put you on the mind of the loveliness of Nina Simone or Victoria Santa Cruz. People were ext [...]
The Bench at Maple and Ninth: When Men Decide Whether Women Get Boundaries (audio)
In this episode of We Survive Abuse, we step into a modern fable about a simple bench, a tired woman, and a town that does not realize it is [...]
By the Power of Self-Protection (podcast/audio)
In a world that often tells women to shrink, to please, and to ignore their instincts, self-protection is a revolutionary act.Join Tonya GJ Prince in [...]
They Loved Ms. Foxy Just Fine -Until She Spoke Truth (podcast episode)
From WE Survive Abuse Podcast
They will celebrate you as long as you are palatable.As long as your strength entertains them.As long as [...]
FAQ About Trauma, Abuse, & Violence with Gary Jones LCSW (audio)
FAQ About Trauma, Abuse, and Violence With GaryJones LCSW [...]
Naming Ourselves: The Right of Women to Define Our Power and Purpose (audio/Podcast)
In this episode of the We Survive Abuse Podcast, host Tonya GJ Prince shares a personal story of reclaiming power in the face [...]
Who Protects the Women Whose Stories Don’t Trend
The work of women's safety, women's rights, women's liberation and women's healing is not a music and entertainment battle.When our movements turn [...]
7 Ways People Manipulate: Recognizing and Resisting Control
Ain't nothing new under the sun.Manipulation is one of the oldest tools of contr [...]
🖤 Why Would Anyone Be Against Your Empowerment?
If someone has a problem with you being empowered, you have to ask: why?Why would anyone be against a [...]
How to Support Lesbian Friends in Abusive Relationships
As an advocate, you become familiar with the careful way that a woman tells you her story. She's testing you [...]
🛑 What Is a Boundary? (And Why It’s Not a Punishment)
A boundary is not a wall to keep people out.It is a door that you control.You decide who gets to come in, how [...]
Why Must We Carry Everyone? The Heavy Expectation Placed on Black Women’s Healing
She wasn’t just expected to heal. She was expected to heal everyone around her too—without flinching, without resting, without breaking.”Why i [...]
Stop Shaming Women for Protecting Themselves
Too often, when a woman dares to speak up about her own safety needs, she is shamed. Other women tell her she’s “overreacting,” “paranoid,” or “making [...]
Survivor Affirmation: I LOVE Myself for my Uniqueness
I love myself for my uniqueness.I value myself because I am different.I am exactly as I am meant to be. Only I can make my own unique contributions to [...]
When Is a Woman’s “No” Not Considered a Form of Hate?
Her name was Marzieh Nieri. She was 23 years old.Marzieh said she fought back when a man attempted to sexually assault her. The man died from his [...]
The Women Behind the Victorious Montgomery Bus Boycott
I get it when women say:
"I'm so discouraged"
"I'm tired"
"I'm scared"
I get it and I feel this way too sometimes.
What h [...]
From Michael Harriot: How a City Ignored the (Systemic) Rape, Murder and Terrorism of Black Women for Four Decades
updated from December 4, 2024"Not everything that is faced can be changed, but nothing can be changed until it is faced."
-James BaldwinSi [...]
Red Flag #1: If They Won’t Let You Have Privacy, They Don’t See You as Human
When Privacy Is Forbidden—It’s a Deadly Warning
Some people believe that their partners, children, or family [...]
Motherhood in the Shadow of Violence
Motherhood has often been romanticized in myths and sentiment, yet the brutal reality remains: for many women [...]
Male Violence Against Women: Males with Disabilities #RIP Yazmen Williams
We will never end male violence against women if we continue to give cover to males the general populati [...]
No One Hands Women Safety. We Claim It, Protect It, and Pass It Forward.
I'm sorry.People talk as if women’s safety is something governments eventually “figure out,” like a policy [...]
When Disability and Blackness Meet: Over 25 Times When Grace Was Denied To Disabled Black People
There is a quiet cruelty that rarely gets named plainly. It lives in the space where Blackness and disability intersect. It shows up not only in drama [...]
How We Villainize Black Women Who Disagree with Males, Violence, & Abuse: C. Delores Tucker
How We Villainize Black Women Who Disagree with Males C Delores Tucker
updated from March 21 2022 Th [...]
A Spell Too Far: Protect Children or Leave Them Alone
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IF “We” Are Standing Against the Killing of Children, Women Would Like to See That Principle Everywhere
Sometimes men speak as though women are surprised when men take a strong moral position about the death of children, particularly in convers [...]
When Black Women Say No: The Punishment Is Public
"If I can’t have her love, I’ll go to war against her peace"
Some men don’t just move on when Black women say no.They retaliate.
They do [...]
Her VOICE is Terrifying But Not His Violence?
Some men (and women) don’t define harm as what they’ve done.They define harm as a woman’s refusal to keep quiet about it.
In this upside-do [...]
No One Hands Women Safety. We Claim It, Protect It, and Pass It Forward.
I'm sorry.People talk as if women’s safety is something governments eventually “figure out,” like a policy [...]
RECANT: She Just Wanted Her Life Back
There is a lot going on in the world. But the pain of sexual violence, and the complicated aftermath that fo [...]
It’s Not About What You Told Her. It’s About What She Can Teach You.
So many rush to say:“I told her.”“She didn’t listen.”“She should’ve known better.”But this isn’t t [...]
✨ When Male Gentleness Is Assumed: Expanding Our Ears, Expanding Our Understanding
updated from December 11 2025
Myth: Straight men are the only danger to women.
**Shayla told me about the ma [...]
🌿 My Self-Soothe Journal
🌿 My Self-Soothe Journal
A Sacred Space to Tend to Your Spirit, Breath by Breath
There are moments when the world feels too loud… and your nervous [...]
Living in Hiding: Why Survivors Change Their Names to Stay Alive
For some women, "deadnaming" is a strange concept. Deadnaming is said to be when someone refers to a transgender person by their birth name (the name [...]
🖤 It Isn’t Discipline. It’s Domination Disguised as a Lesson.
(Inspired by “How Abusers Place Themselves Above Accountability” — WeSurviveAbuse.com)
Racism often hides inside the language of lessons.It calls con [...]
7 Lessons from Gina’s “Push” Scene on Martin: Setting Boundaries & Demanding Respect
When this Martin episode dropped, Black Gen Xers were tuned in heavy like we did every week. We knew Tisha Campbell didn’t need help singing a note—he [...]
