Misogyny Is Not a Virtue: When Harmful Attitudes Are Framed as “Values”
"Equality and kindness" do not require or justify
the abolition of women as a sex class
or the abrogation/appropriation of women's ri [...]
The Bench at Maple and Ninth: When Men Decide Whether Women Get Boundaries (audio)
In this episode of We Survive Abuse, we step into a modern fable about a simple bench, a tired woman, and a town that does not realize it is [...]
When Survivors See Through Lies, We Refuse to Pretend (audio/podcast)
In her career, Tonya GJ Prince has had the honor of encountering thousands of bold and courageous Survivors. With discretion, she shares one of [...]
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Big Mama Thornton: I Stand Up for Myself For As Long As I Can
Big Mama Thornton, who originally recorded the classic song "Hound Dog", was a pioneering artist who broke barriers and demanded respect in a ma [...]
Why I Believe Women When They Say They’re Afraid — And Why You May Want To Too (updated with podcast link)
updated from June 28, 2024 Listen to this blog post here There are mom [...]
What Women Are Still Waiting to Hear (podcast episode)
Why won't they say our names?In an era when nearly every issue has a spokesperson, why do so many women and girls feel u [...]
19 James Baldwin Truths and Affirmations That Still Strengthen the Human Spirit (on audio)
Latest episode of WESurviveAbusePodcast.com
19 James Baldwin Truths and Affirmations That Still Strengthen the Human Spirit [...]
If the Mind Believes What It Hears Most — What Are We Teaching It About Safety?
There’s a reason children learn the alphabet through songs.There’s a reason faith traditions chant.
There’s a reason we remember “I have a dream. [...]
Why a Woman’s “No” Is Not Oppression: A Womanist Perspective on Consent and Boundaries
Whether or not a woman on this planet has read feminist authors or understands what others mean by terms like [...]
Why “The Last RECORDED Lynching” IS NOT the Same As “The LAST Lynching”
White Americans desire to be free from a past they do not want to remember,
while Black Americans remain bou [...]
The Real Exclusion Happens When We Refuse to Face the Truth: Male on Male Violence
It is not women who are being exclusionary when we protect our spaces.It is not women who are the barrier to r [...]
The Truth About Catfishing: It’s Not Harmless. It’s Harm.
Catfishing isn’t just a little lie or a “lonely person trying to connect.” It’s deception wrapped in manipulat [...]
🕯️ No Screening? No Safety.
“There is no screening process for the males who are allowed into women’s spaces. That silence is the policy.”
🌾 1. The Hidden RealityAcross gyms [...]
⚡ Trust Yourself — Without Apology
“They may call you hateful. But what they won’t call you is gone — because you trusted yourself.”
Ignore the noise of people who do not know better. [...]
We Called It Rape Culture for a Reason. And That Reason Still Exists
There was a time when we named things clearly.
We called it rape culture.
Not to be provocative. Not to shock. Not to divide.
But to survive.
We u [...]
She Deserved Help: What Kitty Genovese’s Story Still Teaches Us About Silence, Judgment, and the Cost of Looking Away
I saw a video of a very young woman getting flipped into the pool yesterday. She was young, carefree, wearing a bikini and dancing with a young man. A [...]
The Four Pillars of Oppression: Misogyny, Gynophobia, Sexism, and Patriarchy
Women do not suffer oppression by accident. The systems that harm us—misogyny, gynophobia, sexism, and patriarchy—are built into society, shaping the [...]
12 Similarities Between Josephine Baker and Megan Thee Stallion
Make your own choices. Live your own life. But when women see patterns through other women's lives, our eyesight becomes so much [...]
Collusion Without Conversation: The Code of Abuse
They’ve never met.
Different backgrounds.Different languages.Different cultures.Different religions.Some in s [...]
12 Things Men Say “I’m Not Worried About” — While Treating Women’s Concerns as Silly
Men love to say it with a shrug, a smirk, sometimes even a laugh: “I’m not worried about that.”
The arrogan [...]
The Gish Gallop: When Overload Becomes a Weapon Against Survivors
There’s a tactic that shows up in debates, politics, in online videos, and—far too often—in the lives of Survi [...]
She Never Saw It Coming: The Danger of Assuming a Man Will Take Care of You for a Lifetime
No woman envisions herself needing the services of a domestic violence or rape advocate. No woman walks into a [...]
Stop Analyzing Her. Start Asking Why He’s Allowed to Harm Her.
Every time a woman is abused, here comes the chorus:“Why doesn’t she just leave?”“She must have low self-esteem.”“She picks the wrong men.”“She’ [...]
“Can an AI Aunt Teach Humanity the Compassion It Forgot?”
In South Africa, a woman built an AI “Aunt” — a digital guide designed to support women facing violence. It’s a beautiful innovation born from heartbr [...]
Red Flags in Relationships: Recognizing Silent Signals of Control
updated from January 12 2025Here is when I knew.
I was riding in the car with my date. Our first date.
He picked me up.
He brought me a si [...]
When Propaganda is Used Against Abuse Survivors
Propaganda isn’t just for politics or war; it’s a powerful tool that gets used to control narratives about abuse survivors, shape public per [...]
“Can an AI Aunt Teach Humanity the Compassion It Forgot?”
In South Africa, a woman built an AI “Aunt” — a digital guide designed to support women facing violence. It’s a beautiful innovation born fr [...]
The Question Was Safety—The Answer Was Shame
She didn’t ask for special treatment.She didn’t ask for a platform, a parade, or a prize.
She asked for safety.That’s it. That’s all.
Bu [...]
Why Don’t We Talk About Black Men Who Survived Childhood Abuse?
There are stories we rarely let breathe.The stories of Black men who were once Black boys — [...]
The Cost of Agreeability: How We Uphold the Barriers We Think We Are Fighting
I've served the women who responded to violence and were facing harsher punishment than any man would have for [...]
Child Abuse: Avoid Confusing ‘Familiar’ with ‘Known’ when Describing Perpetrator-Victim Relationships
I think most adults have at least the first step of the "grooming process" well understood. To review:&nb [...]
Putting an End to Useless Debate: Listening to the Voices of Violence Survivors
Over the years, society has been engaged in countless debates surrounding issues such as violence, abuse, and [...]
🌿 My Self-Soothe Journal
🌿 My Self-Soothe Journal
A Sacred Space to Tend to Your Spirit, Breath by Breath
There are moments when the world feels too loud… and your nervous [...]
When Women Forget We Are Women
When women stop listening to other women about safety—when you say, “That never happens,” or “Who cares?”—you hand over our collective protection.
Yo [...]
RECANT: She Just Wanted Her Life Back
There is a lot going on in the world. But the pain of sexual violence, and the complicated aftermath that follows, never hits “pause.” It doesn’t wa [...]
🧨 The Dangerous Oversight in Some “Alternative Justice” Conversations
In the push for restorative or alternative justice, one painful reality is too often left behind:
👉🏾 Victims have a right to safety.
Not imagined [...]
