How to Know You’re Not Safe—Even If No One’s Hitting You
(And Why So Many Survivors Miss the Signs)
If you’ve ever wondered, “Is this really abuse?” or told yourself, “At least they’re not hitt [...]
Why You May Want to Unfollow People Who Willfully Turn a Blind Eye to Power Imbalance
As Big Brother Legend on X.com says, "I unfollow (Black) people who don't understand this."At this point in my life, I choose to disaffiliate with [...]
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My Health and Safety Matters Too: Why “Assigned Female at Birth” Sparks Backlash
Explore why women's rights groups argue that this phrase not only diminishes the lived experiences of women but also risks erasing the realities [...]
Don’t Ignore the History and Connection of Accountability Evasion in Violence, Abuse, and Racism (w/ podcast episode)
So we have reached the place where the n-word is actually Black American people's fault. And that is part of the cycle of harm. Evading accountability [...]
An Infographic Explanation of the Word “No” (infographic) w/ audio
🚩Because people who can't take "no" for an answer aren't known to be the safest people to keep company with.Teen Version Because grown men wh [...]
They Loved Ms. Foxy Just Fine -Until She Spoke Truth (podcast episode)
From WE Survive Abuse Podcast
They will celebrate you as long as you are palatable.As long as your strength entertains them.As long as your t [...]
You Are Not a Hero to Women for Teaching Men They are Entitled to Women’s Spaces (podcast episode)
What does it really mean to protect women? And who gets to decide when a woman's safety concerns are "serious enough" to matter?
In this epis [...]
When a Child’s Daily Life Is the First Warning
It is important to remember that in domestic violence relationships, children are victims too. Children, especially girl children, a [...]
They Got So Much Things To Say Right Now (But here’s what Survivors actually need to hear.)
When a domestic violence Survivor speaks out, everyone suddenly has something to say.“She should’ve left [...]
The Hidden Role of Women in Child Exploitation: Kenya’s “Madams”
SELF CARE ALERTThis one minute clip is difficult to watch. Please take care of yourself."They’r [...]
Privacy Is Not Prejudice. It’s Protection.
Somewhere along the way, somebody got bold enough to say it out loud:"That makes me uncomfortable."
She said [...]
Survivors Speak Truth: John Lewis Speaks Truth on Black America’s Fight for Justice
updated from September 20, 2025
Proverbs 12:19 puts it this way.....“Truthful lips endure forever, but a [...]
You Cannot Punish Women for Protecting Themselves from Male Violence Against Women
You cannot name male violence as a danger for one group and then punish another group for protecting themselves from the same danger. That i [...]
Why Does Society Make it Difficult for Survivors of Rape & Abuse to Come Forward? Part 1
I watched "Cosby: The Women Speak."
Actually, I recorded it.
This way, if I was triggered, I could watch it another time [...]
The Old Code of Chains: A Timeline of Control Over Women’s Privacy and Safety
Women who demand male free spaces are not hateful but have you explored the possibility that you may be? Are you carrying on the ancient global wi [...]
💔 When She Protects Herself, He Cries Harm
[wesurviveabuse.com]
There are men—too many—who believe that a woman harms them simply by refusing to be harmed by them.
She sets a boundary.She tel [...]
For Women: Thinking about Hate and Womanhood (Clarifying Journal Prompts)
Today on International Women's Day, it is important to reflect on your own thoughts and beliefs on womanhood? "Womanhood" has always been controversia [...]
When the Truth Ain’t Enough, They Spread Lies: How Rumors Were Used to Silence Civil Rights Women
They built movements.They led revolutions against wrongs, violence, and abuse they never should have to deal with.And when that wasn’t enough [...]
When He Stops Hiding the Harm, Start Protecting Your Life
When an abuser stops caring that people know, a restraint has fallen away. Shame is no longer holding him back [...]
What’s the Big Deal about Sex Tourism? (Infographic)
updated March 10 2024 The women behind the windows in Amsterdam’s red light districtFA [...]
How Abusers Across Time and Place Keep Saying ‘Yes’ to Harm
from WeSurviveAbuse.com
It’s almost uncanny.Different languages. Different continents.Different centuries. Di [...]
Domestic Violence Awareness Month: Expanding the Conversation to Cohabitation Spaces
October reminds us to shine light on the realities of domestic violence. Too often, our discussions focus na [...]
More Safe Spaces for Women Now: Even in the US, Women Are Dying in a System That Limits Their Escape
There are moments that should stop us. Not just emotionally, but structurally.As we reflect on the loss of women and children, the question is n [...]
When Someone Refuses to Leave You Alone: Understanding Forced Access
When Someone Refuses to Respect Distance
It's one thing to talk about the need for and importance of boundaries. We need to talk more about w [...]
Why domestic violence advocates say the best way to help survivors is to give them back control
Abusers control. That’s their No. 1 tactic to keep domestic abuse survivors simultaneously afraid of them and yet reluctant to leave them. Be it con [...]
Political Action Alert: Where Can Any of Us Afford to Go If Home is a Violent Space?
For years, people asked, “Why doesn’t she just leave?”That question is evaporating—not because we finally understand domestic violen [...]
Hip Hop’s Double Standard Around Gun Violence
#Hiphop this week: Earlier this week the community was mourning the death of Takeoff & the gun violence that snatched him away. The vide [...]
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Believing Everyone Plays Fair? Here’s How It Backfires (Infographic)
Believing everyone respects boundaries is a hopeful but dangerous assumption in a world where power dynamics, intent, and experiences [...]
Black Women: Crime Victims in the Midwest
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Bullies and Cowards: A Natural Alliance in the Abuse of Women and Vulnerable Adults
If there is one thing history, society, and personal experience have proven time and again, it’s that bullie [...]
No More Empty Promises: What It Really Means to Support Prostituted Persons
Supporting Prostituted Persons Means More Than Just Words
"Shaming women doesn't work because that is not t [...]
6 FAQ by Parents & Caretakers about Child Sexual Abuse
Today, I would like to speak to the parents and caretakers of children. I realize that some of them migh [...]
🌿 My Self-Soothe Journal
🌿 My Self-Soothe Journal
A Sacred Space to Tend to Your Spirit, Breath by Breath
There are moments when the world feels too loud… and your nervous [...]
When Our Words Teach Them What’s “Normal” About Violence
If we’re spending more time excusing violence—saying we “understand” or “forgive” men who hurt women—than we are affirming what love and safety look l [...]
The Mothers of Modern Gynecology: Anarcha, Lucy, and Betsey
The True Story Behind the Surgical Legacy Built on Black Women's Pain
Between 1845 and 1849, in Montgomery, Alabama, three young enslaved Black women [...]
🛑 You Can’t Build Something Sacred on Disrespect
Let’s speak truth—because Survivors on healthy authentic healing journeys know this better than anyone:
You cannot build healthy relationships with p [...]
