The More You Heal, the More You Offend Those Who Don’t Want To
Healing is sacred work. And yet, it can come with surprising backlash—not just from strangers, but from people you once trusted with your [...]
Naming Ourselves: The Right of Women to Define Our Power and Purpose (audio/Podcast)
In this episode of the We Survive Abuse Podcast, host Tonya GJ Prince shares a personal story of reclaiming power in the face [...]
Difference Does Not Erase Consent: What Prince’s Refusal Teaches Us (w/audio story)
I've listened.
Far too many people within the LGBTQ+ community respond to Prince's response insist that he had no right to say no because he was per [...]
Why You May Want to Unfollow People Who Willfully Turn a Blind Eye to Power Imbalance
As Big Brother Legend on X.com says, "I unfollow (Black) people who don't understand this." At this point in my life, I choose to disaffiliate with [...]
Even Pain Has a Purpose: A Call to Men Who Have Lost Women They Love to Male Violence
The Transformative Power of PainMen, your pain over losing the women you love can be a transformative force. It’s not just personal — it’s polit [...]
The Healing Isn’t in the Headlines. It’s in the Listening
There is a rhythm that the media loves:Shock. Outrage. Silence.A Survivor comes forward.The story catches fire.It lands in headlines, hashtags, and tr [...]
When the Help Hurts: Understanding Institutional Betrayal
There is a special kind of pain that comes when the place you turned to for help becomes the source of another wound.That is institutional betrayal — [...]
Political Action Alert: Where Can Any of Us Afford to Go If Home is a Violent Space?
For years, people asked, “Why doesn’t she just leave?” That question is evaporating—not because we finally understand domestic violence, but be [...]
Sally Hemings: The Founding Father and the Silence He Bought.
Like every abused woman and child Black Americans reside in a county that pushes us to "move on", "get over i [...]
Don’t Share My Scars and Then Ask for My Help.
Let’s talk about something that happens all too often—especially to women, especially to Survivors.
Someone [...]
Boundaries Are Freedom in Disguise: Reclaiming What History Tried to Take
We talk about boundaries so often here because for women—especially Survivors—boundary setting is not just a l [...]
The Hidden Truth: Media Silence on Male Violence Against Women and Girls
image credit: weaveinc.org (💜) She is not a sex worker, she’s a victim of sex trafficking. The two [...]
Silenced Prey: Unsolved murders of Black women in Chicago leave puzzling pattern
https://wesurviveabuse.com/2025/03/betrayal-blindness-the-cost-of-ignoring-harm/ https://wesurviveabuse [...]
23 Common Excuses Used to Downplay Safety Risks for Women
IF we truly want to end violence against women, scapegoating women for male violence must end. You cannot sca [...]
Dignity Is Not Bitterness: Elder Women Deserve Safety, Too
Aging should not mean surrendering safety.Growing older should not mean losing the right to be heard, respec [...]
Her Name Was Nicole Beverly
And she should still be here, holding her son.
Nicole Beverly was a Black mother of four living in Detroit. S [...]
Joan Little: First Woman Acquitted of Murder for Defense Against Sexual Assault
updated 8/19/2025 I want to make this clear. There is no bragging in this post. No, "look the first wom [...]
“The Forgive and Overlook Habit”: Why the Crisis of Child Predators Isn’t Going Anywhere
The crisis of child predators isn’t going anywhere. Unless the adults change our harmful ways and change them [...]
Respect Without Surrender: When Rights Don’t Mean Access
The Foundation of True Respect
Respect is not ownership.And justice does not mean surrender.
We live in a wo [...]
The Question Was Safety—The Answer Was Shame
She didn’t ask for special treatment.She didn’t ask for a platform, a parade, or a prize.
She asked for saf [...]
🌿 My Self-Soothe Journal
🌿 My Self-Soothe Journal
A Sacred Space to Tend to Your Spirit, Breath by Breath
There are moments when the world feels too loud… and your nervous [...]
A Society That Centers Harmful Males Will Never Have Trust—And It Doesn’t Deserve It
Trust is not a gift.Trust is built.Earned.Sustained through action, protection, and accountability.
But what happens when a society build [...]
When Leaders Forget Autonomy: A Reminder from Survivors Who’ve Had Enough
For Survivors, who are used to having their autonomy taken or dismissed, this can feel particularly uncomfortable.Leaders — whether public f [...]
We Will Never Have a Safer World If We Don’t Treat Survivors with Respect
We keep saying we want a safer world. blah, blah, blahBut we will never get there until we demand that society do better and be better tow [...]
Your Opinion Is Not Protection
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Let’s get something straight:
Your opinion about how she should’ve escaped, how fast she should’ve healed, how she should’ve ta [...]
She Never Saw It Coming: The Danger of Assuming a Man Will Take Care of You for a Lifetime
No woman envisions herself needing the services of a domestic violence or rape advocate. No woman walks into a marriage or long-term relationship expe [...]
Leadership Failure: How Leaders Are Failing Women Who Ask for Safety
When Women Say, “I Don’t Feel Safe”
That’s not a threat.It’s an invitation to build something better.
But when leaders double down on silencing in [...]
Women Taint Nobody's Business Who You Choose to Love (audio)
Women Tain't Nobody's Business Who You Choose To Love [...]
We Called It Rape Culture for a Reason. And That Reason Still Exists
There was a time when we named things clearly.
We called it rape culture.
Not to be provocative. Not to shock. Not to divide.
But to survive.
We u [...]
Forced Sterilization Wasn’t a Mistake. It Was Misogyny and Racism Working Together.
"All they know about is slavery"
Do we? Or is that all you heard before you stopped listening so people stopped sharing with you? Because there is t [...]
Who’s Really Saying “Stop Harming Her”?
You want women to fight for men when those same men will not even say, “Stop doing that.”
Too often, when violence is committed against a woman, men [...]
A Society That Centers Harmful Males Will Never Have Trust—And It Doesn’t Deserve It
Trust is not a gift.Trust is built.Earned.Sustained through action, protection, and accountability.
But what happens when a society builds its laws [...]
Survivor Affirmations: Protecting MY Empathy, Protecting Me
People tend to treat Black women like our empathy is a faucet that you can turn on and off at will. When it doesn't work they actually complain like [...]
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