Stay Woke: When a Warning is Turned to a Punchline
Watching language warning about life or death flatten into a "trend".... is frustrating. “‘Stay woke’ began as a warning, not a trend. Thi [...]
Why I Believe Women When They Say They’re Afraid — And Why You May Want To Too (updated with podcast link)
updated from June 28, 2024 Listen to this blog post here There are mom [...]
You Are Worthy Now and You Were Then: Featuring Brielle Fowler (audio/podcast)
In this empowering episode of Survivor Affirmations, we emphasize the power of uplifting unheard voices and celebrate resilience. Join us as w [...]
19 James Baldwin Truths and Affirmations That Still Strengthen the Human Spirit (on audio)
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Survivor Affirmation: I Will NOT Shrink Truth to Comfort Those Who Fear Boundaries
Boundaries are love not hate.
They are love in action — love for your peace, your time, your healing, and your future. Saying “no” is not crue [...]
Who Really Benefits from DEI? It’s Not Just Who You Think
One of my clients as an Independent Living Coordinator was a young white teenager working his very first job. His loving, protective, and attentive f [...]
Facing Reality: Identity Does Not Erase Patterns of Male Violence
We cannot fix what we refuse to face. And when it comes to the safety of women and girls, sidestepping truth in favor of comfort serves no one. There [...]
🚫 Where the Real Toxicity Lies: Boundaries, Consent, and Culture
In recent years, we’ve seen debates play out over whether actors—or anyone in the public eye—should agree to certain scenes, roles, or performances. [...]
Weaponizing Fear: How the ‘Die Alone’ Myth Is Used to Control Women
“Fear is the tool of the tyrant and the weapon of the weak.”
— African Proverb Fear as a [...]
10 Ways Faux Concern About Cheek Swabs in Sports Does Not Protect Black Women—It Exploits Us
There’s been a growing outcry that cheek swabs to confirm male and female categories in sports will harm Bla [...]
🎯 Pattern Denial: The Sinister Art of Pretending Not to Know
Some truths are not too complex to understand—they're just too inconvenient to admit.
Even toddlers can ident [...]
Pornography Didn’t Start the Fire: A Clear Look at History, Power, and Violence
With war, comes murder and rape
Pornography is often blamed as the reason violence—especially violence agains [...]
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Women’s History: Victories and Setbacks in the War on Women
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Red Flags in Relationships: Recognizing Silent Signals of Control
updated from January 12 2025 Here is when I knew.
I was riding in the car with my date. Our first date [...]
✊🏾 When Policing Women Is Mistaken for Protecting Women
“When a woman goes hungry, more than her body suffers — her dignity, her power, her future are all at risk. Fo [...]
Stop Recasting Boundaries as Ignorance
With all my heart and soul I hate when men do this,
Too often, when women say “no”—especially i [...]
When DEI Disappears, So Do the Safeguards for Victims and Survivors
The Tech Transparency Project reports that Google removed 58 nonprofit organizations from a public list of tho [...]
Coercion in Disguise: When Love Asks You to Lie
When someone pressures a woman to lie, to go against her beliefs, her conscience, her values, her faith, or [...]
🕯️ No Screening? No Safety.
“There is no screening process for the males who are allowed into women’s spaces. That silence is the policy.” [...]
When Belonging Breaks: Surviving in Truth When Cultures Defends Abusers
I get when some groups defend some aspects of abusers. I've slipped (more than once) and done it too. I'm a h [...]
🌿 My Self-Soothe Journal
🌿 My Self-Soothe Journal
A Sacred Space to Tend to Your Spirit, Breath by Breath
There are moments when the world feels too loud… and your nervous [...]
📵 Why So Many Social Media Platforms Are Against Naming Harm
Let’s tell the truth:Most major social media platforms are not safe spaces for truth-tellers.Especially when that truth involves naming abus [...]
When the World Misunderstands the Roots of “Choice”: A Survivor-Centered Look at Abuse, Neglect, and Prostitution
Too often, when the topic of prostitution or “sex work” comes up, the first question is: “Why did she choose that?”But I’ve been walking bes [...]
Maybe They Never Hit You… But Maybe They Do This.
Some of us were taught to only watch for bruises.
But there are people who will never lift a hand—and still tear your spirit down piece b [...]
Why ‘Being Loyal’ Shouldn’t Cost You Your Safety, Dignity, or Peace
One of my all-time favorite jazz tunes is "My Man." “My Man” is, in many ways, a love song about endurance, not just devotion.Billie Holiday, the [...]
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Washington Nurse Reveals Horrific Jail Conditions for Women Housed with Violent Men
It is insane AND inhumane to house women in confined spaces with males, especially men convicted of violent crimes. What is wrong with US?! [...]
A Checklist for Anyone Claiming to Care About Women and Children’s Safety
No matter how you identify, if you continuously show up only to argue that women shouldn’t fight for our own health, opportunity, and safety, then the [...]
Beyond the Theory: Why We Still Need Audre Lorde, Our Warrior Poet
There are moments that reveal to you exactly who you are and why you better be clear about it all.
There is a specific kind of exhaustion that comes [...]
Dear Ladies: Your Vote is Your Voice
As a domestic violence advocate for people in unsafe relationships, this election I am concerned for women. At first, I think I underestima [...]
When Women’s Murders Are Hijacked: How Race, Politics, and Silence Derail the Fight Against Male Violence
Too often, when a woman is murdered, the conversation shifts quickly away from her life, her safety, and the systemic failures that left her vulnera [...]
If You Have Nothing Healing to Say to Survivors, You Can Be Silent
In the early days of healing, Survivors are doing sacred, difficult work.
They are not “just leaving.”They are grieving.They are remembering.They are [...]
The Algorithms Are Watching Him, Too: When Coercive Control Targets Men and Boys
Shame is a prison. Silence is the lock. Technology is the new weapon.
There’s a myth that keeps far too many men trapped:“If you’re a man, it’s not a [...]
She Didn’t Stay Because She Didn’t Know. She Stayed Because She Did.
People assume she stayed because she didn’t know.
Didn’t know her worth.Didn’t know what he was doing to her.Didn’t know what love is supposed to l [...]
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