Truth Heals: Why Forcing Survivors to Lie About Identity is Harmful
Survivors Deserve to Speak the Truth
Survivors of abuse, assault, and violence have long been silenced—by shame, by fear, by systems t [...]
Silence Serves Predators: Listen to Your Inner Voice Before You Explain It Away (audio)
Have you ever had a feeling about someone and talked yourself out of it?
Not because nothing happened.
But because you could not explain it cleanly [...]
Rights at Risk: Unpacking the Erosion of Women’s Freedoms (podcast episode)
What is happening to the rights of women and girls when it comes to our decisions about our safety, well-being, dignity, and privacy?LINK [...]
How We Villainize Black Women Who Disagree with Males: C. Delores Tucker
How We Villainize Black Women Who Disagree with Males C Delores Tucker
When history talks about hip hop, C. Delores Tucker’s name oft [...]
Why I Believe Women When They Say They’re Afraid — And Why You May Want To Too (updated with podcast link)
updated from June 28, 2024 Listen to this blog post here There are mom [...]
Even Pain Has a Purpose: A Call to Men Who Have Lost Women They Love to Male Violence
The Transformative Power of PainMen, your pain over losing the women you love can be a transformative force. It’s not just personal — it’s polit [...]
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Why Doesn’t She Leave? Because Leaving Costs Money
Why doesn’t she leave? Because leaving costs money. She needs first and last month’s rent just to secure a place, plus moving expenses—a truck, de [...]
E. Lynn Harris: The Visionary Black Author Who Gave Us Stories We’d Never Seen—But Always Needed
Long before mainstream platforms embraced diverse stories, he was doing the work. Out of the trunk of his car. In beauty salons. With Black women as h [...]
Healing Alone Isn’t a Weakness—It’s a Sacred Survival Strategy
Some of us were raised in surveillance. Silence is sacred. Solitude is survival.
There’s a rush these days—to gather, to circle up, to "process" ever [...]
Injustice Trauma: When the Violence Isn’t the Only Wound
There is a kind of pain that cuts deeper than bruises.A wound that doesn't show up on x-rays or medical reports.It's called injustice trauma—and it ch [...]
💔 Why Didn’t I Leave Sooner?
Abuse is confusing.
It’s not constant — it shifts. Abusive people are not abusive all the time.
That’ [...]
Playing Victim or Using Wisdom to Protect Yourself? Why Wise Women Recognize the Pattern of Abuse Before Others
She told a friend once: “The first time he raised his voice again, I knew.” Her friend asked, “How cou [...]
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My Health and Safety Matters Too: Why “Assigned Female at Birth” Sparks Backlash
Explore why women's rights groups argue that this phrase not only diminishes the lived experiences of wo [...]
✋🏽 When Accountability Feels Like an Attack to Him
[WeSurviveAbuse.com]
Some men don’t fear the harm they cause.They fear the moment a woman finally says,“You w [...]
No One Hands Women Safety. We Claim It, Protect It, and Pass It Forward.
I'm sorry. People talk as if women’s safety is something governments eventually “figure out,” like a policy [...]
Your Self-Righteousness Will Not End Domestic Violence
So you were “right.”You “saw the signs.”You “told her he wasn’t good.”You “would’ve left sooner.”You “would ne [...]
Living in Hiding: Why Survivors Change Their Names to Stay Alive
For some women, "deadnaming" is a strange concept. Deadnaming is said to be when someone refers to a transgend [...]
🚨 Silence Isn’t Neutral. It’s Permission.
Let’s talk about the men who say:
“I don’t get involved in drama.”“That’s between them.”“Not all men are li [...]
12 Quiet Ways Self-Abandonment Shows Up
(And How to Come Home to Yourself)
Self-abandonment isn’t always loud. It often slips in quietly, disguised a [...]
Safe Father Figures: 5 Powerful Ways to Help Protect Children from Sexual Abuse
In a world where too many children face harm in silence, safe father figures—biological, step, chosen, [...]
Remembering the Women Silenced by Political Violence in America (w/womanist film recommendations)
💡 Pattern to Notice: Most of these women were killed not just for themselves but because they stood betwe [...]
🧨 Myth: “Abuse Survivors Are Just Broken People Who Pick Bad Partners”
Truth: No, they are not.[WeSurviveAbuse.com]
This one’s personal. This one’s painful. And this one gets rep [...]
🌿 My Self-Soothe Journal
🌿 My Self-Soothe Journal
A Sacred Space to Tend to Your Spirit, Breath by Breath
There are moments when the world feels too loud… and your nervous [...]
Here He Is! The Man Who Started the Man vs Bear Debate Speaks
The debate around whether or not women would rather face a strange man in the woods or a bear took on a life of its own and the men ar [...]
Not All Submission Looks Like Sunday School
Some women believe they've separated themselves from patriarchy because they don’t tell women to “submit to your husband.”
But submission d [...]
The Voices We Don’t Hear Are Still Speaking
In our fast-moving world, where everything from news to justice seems to depend on who has the loudest microphone, I want us to remember som [...]
Grooming by Environment: When the System Softens the Ground for Abuse
When most people hear the word grooming, they imagine a single predator targeting a person—saying the right things, isolating them, offering gifts, br [...]
✊🏾 When Policing Women Is Mistaken for Protecting Women
“When a woman goes hungry, more than her body suffers — her dignity, her power, her future are all at risk. Food justice is more than feeding; it’s fr [...]
Beliefs vs. Facts: A Roadblock to Women’s Rights
Belief vs. Fact — What’s the Difference?
1. What is a Belief?
Definition: A personal conviction, opinion, or interpretation that someone accep [...]
Don’t Share My Scars and Then Ask for My Help.
Let’s talk about something that happens all too often—especially to women, especially to Survivors.
Someone insults us.Mocks us.Lies about us.Disre [...]
Jim Crow Had Graves Attached to It
"I was excluded, so this is like Jim Crow." Jim Crow was not simply “I feel unwelcome."
Jim Crow was an entire machinery of racial domination, bac [...]
Revisting the Silencing of Silenced Women and Girls: R Kelly
When the groundbreaking documentary Surviving RKelly (produced by Dream Hampton) came out, people were amazed.
How did this go on [...]
Beliefs vs. Facts: A Roadblock to Women’s Rights
Belief vs. Fact — What’s the Difference?
1. What is a Belief?
Definition: A personal conviction, opinion, or interpretation that someone accep [...]
Injustice Trauma: When the Violence Isn’t the Only Wound
There is a kind of pain that cuts deeper than bruises.A wound that doesn't show up on x-rays or medical reports.It's called injustice trauma—and it ch [...]
The Pain They Tell You to Swallow: On Disrespect, Dehumanization, and the Lie of Strength
They say, “Now’s not the time.”They say, “It’s not that serious.”They say, “Be the bigger person.”They say, “Other people have it worse.”
And just li [...]
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