📵 Why So Many Social Media Platforms Are Against Naming Harm
Let’s tell the truth:Most major social media platforms are not safe spaces for truth-tellers.Especially when that truth involves naming a [...]
Girls Do Not Owe Anyone Sexual Reparations (audio)
Girls Do Not Owe Anyone Sexual Reparations (audio recording) [...]
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Survivor Affirmations: I Live an Authentic Life, Lessons from Big Mama Thornton (podcast episode)
In this compelling episode of the We Survive Abuse podcast, we dive into the powerful life and legacy of blues legend Big Mama Thornton. Jo [...]
How We Villainize Black Women Who Disagree with Males: C. Delores Tucker
How We Villainize Black Women Who Disagree with Males C Delores Tucker
When history talks about hip hop, C. Delores Tucker’s name oft [...]
By the Power of Self-Protection (podcast/audio)
In a world that often tells women to shrink, to please, and to ignore their instincts, self-protection is a revolutionary act.Join Tonya GJ Prince in [...]
Future-Proofing Your Mind in an Unpredictable World
From guest contributor Jonathan Garner/shamekills.info. This blog post contains affiliate links. If you click on these links and make a purchase, [...]
Safety in Isolated Spaces is Required for ALL Women and Children
Because women's and children's safety matters at all times. In every space that we occupy. Males who are [...]
How Climate Change is Making the Violence Against Women Epidemic Worse
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#IAmJada: She Spoke Fire Back Into Her Name
They called it scandal.
But it was sacrifice.
A young girl’s truth laid bare
on the altar of a watching [...]
Saying Yes When You Mean No Is a Silent Form of Self-Betrayal
They will keep coming backto your spirit, your softness, your giving hands—as long as you let them.
But you w [...]
12 Quiet Ways Self-Abandonment Shows Up
(And How to Come Home to Yourself)
Self-abandonment isn’t always loud. It often slips in quietly, disguised a [...]
A Mother Daughter Team Teaching Lessons on Teen Dating Violence: Carolyn Mosely and Ortralla Mosely (Resting in Power)
updated from 2/5/25
I exchanged emails with this mother, Carolyn Mosley, many years ago.
I don' [...]
You Deserve Safety—Even When You’re Just Trying to Keep Going
Some of us were never told that we deserved to feel safe.We were told to keep going.To be strong.To not make [...]
We Are Tired, Not Silent: Honoring the Lives, Holding the Line, and Learning to Carry This Together
Sometimes I feel weak and weary. Like today, and yesterday, and the day before that. This work—this wit [...]
The 5 Motivations of a Victim Shamer
A call-in to those ready to grow past it.
We don’t arrive in this world knowing how to shame Survivors.It is [...]
Leadership Failure: How Leaders Are Failing Women Who Ask for Safety
When Women Say, “I Don’t Feel Safe”
That’s not a threat.It’s an invitation to build something better.
But [...]
Her Name Was Nicole Beverly
And she should still be here, holding her son.
Nicole Beverly was a Black mother of four living in Detroit. S [...]
🌿 My Self-Soothe Journal
🌿 My Self-Soothe Journal
A Sacred Space to Tend to Your Spirit, Breath by Breath
There are moments when the world feels too loud… and your nervous [...]
📌 Allyship Is Not a Dating Obligation
Let’s make something abundantly clear:
Being an ally to a group, a cause, or a community does not require that women date anyon [...]
What the Church and People of Faith Can Do to Help Victims of Sexual and Domestic Violence
Updated 8 21 2025
original March 2016 About sixteen years ago, I was sitting in service while Pastor Lance Wat [...]
Stop Analyzing Her. Start Asking Why He’s Allowed to Harm Her.
Every time a woman is abused, here comes the chorus: “Why doesn’t she just leave?”“She must have low self-esteem.”“She picks the wrong [...]
12 Things Men Say “I’m Not Worried About” — While Treating Women’s Concerns as Silly
Men love to say it with a shrug, a smirk, sometimes even a laugh: “I’m not worried about that.”
The arrogance in that statement is thick enough to [...]
10 Facts about Missing & Murdered Indigenous Women & Girls
10 Facts About MMIWG by Tonya GJ Prince
Exploring the Dark Side of Festivals: Uncovering the Reali [...]
Misogyny Is Not a Virtue: When Harmful Attitudes Are Framed as “Values”
"Equality and kindness" do not require or justify
the abolition of women as a sex class
or the abrogation/appropriation of women's rights
to pri [...]
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Supporting Women: Tweeted Thoughts Post Bette Midler and Macy Gray Statements on Women’s Rights…. (updated)
I wrote this one ordinary day when men and women from all sides of the political aisle called for the death of Bette Midler and Macy Gray simply becau [...]
When White Women Say “Misogyny Is Older,” What’s Really Happening
That move is often about re-centering. When Black women name race and gender together, the response isn’t just disagreement—it’s [...]
Thread Made Iconic: A Love Letter to Our Bodies and the Women Who Sew Beauty Into the World
My Granny used to take us to the sewing shop, her eyes scanning the rows of threads, fabrics, and patterns like she was looking at a shelf of dreams.P [...]
When the Mask Matters More Than the Truth, Survivors Are Asked to Disappear
There is a reason people cling so tightly to labels when harm is exposed.
Often, it is not confusion.
It is fear. Fear of admitting they were mis [...]
The Kentler Project: When the German State Gave Children to Pedophiles
Yes, it is tragically true.
From the late 1960s through the 1990s, West Germany—specifically the government in West Berlin—knowingly placed vulnerabl [...]
10 Signs You’re Being Asked to Tolerate the Intolerable
adjusting.being understanding.keeping the peace.
repeat.
Your cheek muscles hurt from smiling so much to keep others "comfortable".
And then.....on [...]
