You Don’t Find Your People By What They Post—You Find Them By What They Protect
"I don’t want to hear you say, 'Honey, I’m behind you.' Well, move, I don’t want you back there because you could be 200 miles behind. [...]
Juneteenth Reminds Us: Delayed Truth Still Matters (audio)
Freedom has always had an important relationship with truth.On Juneteenth, we remember a painful reality. Freedom had already been dec [...]
Stop Telling Black Women to Be Silent—Our Bodies Are Paying the Price. (podcast episode)
Black women are not “overreacting”—we are responding to what our bodies have been forced to carry for generations. The pressure to ignore racism, to s [...]
Don’t Ignore the History and Connection of Accountability Evasion in Violence, Abuse, and Racism (w/ podcast episode)
So we have reached the place where the n-word is actually Black American people's fault. And that is part of the cycle of harm. Evading accountability [...]
From Objectified to Empowered: Women’s Rights in Medicine Inspired by Henrietta Lacks (podcast/audio)
Henrietta Lacks’ story is a stark reminder of the injustices women, [...]
You Are Worthy Now and You Were Then: Featuring Brielle Fowler (audio/podcast)
In this empowering episode of Survivor Affirmations, we emphasize the power of uplifting unheard voices and celebrate resilience. Join us as w [...]
Does Naming Ourselves Hurt Anyone? No. Erasing Us Does.
updated from November 18 2025
If the harm is sex-specific, the language has to be sex-specific.Especially for Black women.Especially in mater [...]
Consent Beyond the Bedroom: Women’s Autonomy in Dating and Relationships
Consent is not only the right to say yes. It is the freedom to say no without punishment, persuasion, or a cam [...]
Grief That Echoes: Honoring the Women Amiri Baraka Lost to Violence
There are wounds that don’t stop bleeding just because the headlines fade.There are names that des [...]
Keeping Girls Safe in a Dangerous World (ebook) 2025 UPDATE
In a world where girls face unique dangers and challenges, Keeping Girls Safe in a Dangerous World [...]
Stop Shaming Survivors. Start Shaming Abusers.
🖤 WeSurviveAbuse.com
Survivors should not be met with interrogation, suspicion, or scorn.They should not have [...]
Why Are Women Told to Stay Calm About Things That Should Horrify Everyone?
When women, girls, and children talk about boundaries, it’s not hate speaking. It’s concern. It’s exhaustion. It’s survival language.Too often, th [...]
Why Doesn’t She Leave? Because Leaving Costs Money
Why doesn’t she leave? Because leaving costs money.She needs first and last month’s rent just to secure a place, plus moving expenses—a truck, de [...]
Jingle Bells Too: When People Pretend the Story Ended at “Slavery Ended”
This isn't about a song but like most art, it offers life lessons.Jingle Bells” was written in 1857 by James Lord Pierpont, a white composer who w [...]
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Supporting Women: Tweeted Thoughts Post Bette Midler and Macy Gray Statements on Women’s Rights…. (updated)
I wrote this one ordinary day when men and women from all sides of the political aisle called for the death of Bette Midler and Macy Gray simply becau [...]
Before “Domestic Violence”: The History of How Women Finally Named Abuse
For generations, women endured violence that society treated as a private problem. This is the story of how finding the right words changed law, cultu [...]
Why They Call It Identity Politics When We’re Just Naming the Wound
The term “identity politics” has become almost like a lightning rod in modern conversation. But beneath the noise, the resistance to it reveals a deep [...]
She Never Saw It Coming: The Danger of Assuming a Man Will Take Care of You for a Lifetime
No woman envisions herself needing the services of a domestic violence or rape advocate. No woman walks into a [...]
Red Flag #1: If They Won’t Let You Have Privacy, They Don’t See You as Human
When Privacy Is Forbidden—It’s a Deadly Warning
Some people believe that their partners, children, or family [...]
Please Stop Telling Survivors, “Men Wouldn’t Go That Far.” History Says Otherwise.
updated from March 24 2025 Interesting fact:
Before his murders were discovered, Bundy did v [...]
“I Told Her” Is About You—Not the Victim
Let’s talk about it.
When a woman is harmed—physically, emotionally, spiritually—one of the most common thi [...]
💣 Beauty as a Battlefield: When We Compete, They Win
Let’s tell the truth:This world wants women to be at war with each other.
Not over justice.Not over safety.But over aesthetics.
It’s no accident t [...]
10 Lessons The Color Purple Teaches Women About Hope, Discernment, and Trusting What You See
updated from February 15 2026 One of the hardest lessons many women learn is this:Love does not require you to ignore what your e [...]
When Silence is Taught, Suffering is Inherited: How Childhood Conditioning Sets the Stage for Abuse
Some lessons aren’t written in books.Some are taught in the hush of a disappointed glance, a side eye when you spoke up, punishment for being a natura [...]
Gynophobia: The Fear That Shapes Our Stories and Our Lives
In a world full of contradictions, there is one fear that rarely gets named, but is woven into the seams of our cultures, systems, and sto [...]
Not So Good Reasons to Date a Person
Coercion: Women and Girls Do Not Owe You Access to Them | WE Survive AbuseTHIS is The TRUTH About Dating Preferences & Inclusion | [...]
Why It’s So Hard to Leave: The Hidden Barriers Survivors of Domestic Violence Face
“Why didn’t they just leave?”
It’s a question asked far too often and far too casually.But the real question is: Why do we keep asking th [...]
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Why “Not a [Insert Person]” Is Dangerous for Survivors
Let’s tell the truth:Adults have power. Children don’t.
Even the most vulnerable adult usually has more acces [...]
🚨 When Power Imbalances Are Ignored—and Victims Get Hurt
In schools, faith communities, workplaces, and even families, efforts to keep the peace often ignore the power [...]
There Is No Bad Day to Tell the Truth
To every Survivor who has ever hesitated, second-guessed, or swallowed the truth to protect someone else's com [...]
The Lost Secret of Child Sexual Abuse: I Love a Survivor, My Pain Has a Voice Too
ImagineImagine your loved one was a victim of child sexual violence. You wanted to help. You wanted to [...]
🌿 My Self-Soothe Journal
🌿 My Self-Soothe Journal
A Sacred Space to Tend to Your Spirit, Breath by Breath
There are moments when the world feels too loud… and your nervous [...]
When “Sisterhood” is a Setup: The Weaponization of Love Bombing to Enforce Male Violence
Watching this got me thinking....... Because at her lowest, a woman who seemed kind. Who seemed to be kind. Led her into a path of prostitution. Then [...]
The Hidden Role of Women in Child Exploitation: Kenya’s “Madams”
SELF CARE ALERTThis one minute clip is difficult to watch. Please take care of yourself."They’re still children, so it’s easy to manipu [...]
How Changing Language Around Sex is Used to Undermine Women in Courtrooms
We live in an age of shifting language.A time when even the most basic truths—like what it means to be a woman—are being rewritten, not by science or [...]
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