Why Do People Call Gender-Critical Women “Extremists” When We’re Just Talking About Safety?
Survivor advocacy has always required naming what endangers women and children — even when it’s unpopular.This isn’t the kind of work [...]
“Lead with Love” Includes Women and Girls Safety Too (short audio message)
Lead with LoveThat's what they say.And when they do, never let anyone tell you that leading with love doesn't include women and girls and our [...]
Called Out of Our Names: When Did Respect Become Too Much to Ask? (audio ep)
***"Relax. It's just a word."In this episode, please notice that while people may be telling you to "lean back" and accept every bit of fool [...]
Even Pain Has a Purpose: A Call to Men Who Have Lost Women They Love to Male Violence
The Transformative Power of PainMen, your pain over losing the women you love can be a transformative force. It’s not just personal — it’s polit [...]
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My Health and Safety Matters Too: Why “Assigned Female at Birth” Sparks Backlash
Explore why women's rights groups argue that this phrase not only diminishes the lived experiences of women but also risks erasing the realities [...]
You Are Not a Hero to Women for Teaching Men They are Entitled to Women’s Spaces (podcast episode)
What does it really mean to protect women? And who gets to decide when a woman's safety concerns are "serious enough" to matter?
In this epis [...]
Your Discomfort and Confusion is Not More Important than Her Pain (audio/podcast)
When people express pain, shock, and grief; your confusion is not an emergency.And it is not more urgent than a woman’s grief.What we are [...]
How Changing Language Around Sex is Used to Undermine Women in Courtrooms
We live in an age of shifting language.A time when even the most basic truths—like what it means to be a woman—are being rewritten, not by science or [...]
7 Things to Know About María Elena Moyano, the Afro-Peruvian Woman Who Organized Women and Refused to Surrender to Fear
Sometimes history gives us a woman whose life makes the word courage feel too small.María Elena Moyano was born in Lima, Peru, in 1958. She would [...]
Deanna’s Law: 12 Systemic Failures That Changed 911 Response
The tragedy of Deanna Cook is a painful, textbook study in how a broken safety net can fail a woman who did everything right. The [...]
The Old Code of Chains: A Timeline of Control Over Women’s Privacy and Safety
Women who demand male free spaces are not hateful but have you explored the possibility that you may be? Are you carrying on the ancient global wi [...]
🌸 Trusting Yourself Again After Abuse: A Return to Your Inner Knowing
When you’ve survived abuse — especially the kind that twists your reality, shames your feelings, or calls your [...]
Why Do So Many Lies Feel True? The Hidden Psychology No One Talks About
There is a moment in every soul’s journey when the world begins to whisper:
“This must be the truth—everyone [...]
How Abusers Across Time and Place Keep Saying ‘Yes’ to Harm
from WeSurviveAbuse.com
It’s almost uncanny.Different languages. Different continents.Different centuries. Di [...]
When Cruelty Pretends to Be Care: The Lie Behind ‘I Was Just Teaching You a Lesson
All of this, "we didn't do the right thing to to teach you a lesson." Yeah, that's bs. They want control. Over [...]
The “Helper” Mandate is Hurting Us
It whispers to Black people—especially Black women —that we are here to help.To soothe.To teach.To forgive.To make the world softer for others, even w [...]
When Leaders Forget Autonomy: A Reminder from Survivors Who’ve Had Enough
For Survivors, who are used to having their autonomy taken or dismissed, this can feel particularly uncomfortable.Leaders — whether public figures, ad [...]
When Disability and Blackness Meet: Over 25 Times When Grace Was Denied To Disabled Black People
There is a quiet cruelty that rarely gets named plainly. It lives in the space where Blackness and disability intersect. It shows up not only in drama [...]
The Tender Hands the World Must Never Forget
The Richard Speck murders had a deep and lasting impact on how America viewed women’s safety, personal securi [...]
It’s Not About What You Told Her. It’s About What She Can Teach You.
So many rush to say:“I told her.”“She didn’t listen.”“She should’ve known better.”But this isn’t t [...]
✊🏾 First, We Fight for Our Safety.
Then, We Fight for Our Story.(And We Are Tired.)
She survived.That should be enough.But it never is.
Because [...]
Gynophobia Is Not New—We’ve Just Been Taught to Ignore It
The word gynophobia—meaning fear or hatred of women—has existed for centuries. But while misogyny [...]
They Know What They’re Doing: Why Abusers Target Neurodivergent People—Especially in Love
Let’s talk about something that far too often stays in the shadows:
Abusers know what they’re doing.And many of them actively seek out people they [...]
Costumes of Control: How Some Male Murderers Used Disguise to Harm Women
Throughout history, some of the most dangerous predators have worn masks—not just metaphorical ones, but literal disguises used to deceive, confuse, [...]
Black Women’s Safety Is Not Optional: It’s a Justice Issue
1. We Are Often the First to Speak Up—and the Last to Be Protected
Black women are frequently the ones raising the alarm about injustice. Yet when it [...]
She Lied to Herself First: How Women Protect Harmful Men—And Turn on Other Women
updated from June 7, 2025
There’s a quiet lie that echoes through many women’s lives.A lie whispered in silence. Repeated in prayer. Spo [...]
Don’t Say You’re in Our Corner—Fight Like It
“What we’re fighting for is not a privilege. It is a right.” – Fannie Lou Hamer
Don’t say you’re in my corner—fight like it.Don’t post sl [...]
When Girls’ Boundaries Are Rebranded as “Hate” (featuring Boundary Setting video from Dr. Tracey Marks)
updated from November 5, 2022
"You know good and well that a boundary never did a damn thing to you.
But a male has every potential to AN [...]
When Niceness Becomes a Trap: Why Women Deserve the Bottom Line, Not Confusion
Women are often encouraged to be kind, accommodating, flexible, and understanding — even when our safety is at [...]
Only 2% “Owned” Slaves?”: Slavery and Slaveholding in the United States Facts (Part 3)
Why “The Last Recorded Lynching” IS NOT the Same As “The Last Lynching”Slavery and Slaveholding in the [...]
Rethinking ‘Capitalist’: Point It Toward Human Traffickers, Not Black Communities
For the love of money.......
Some of us grew up knowing what capitalist meant.It wasn’t a cheap clapback.It [...]
RECANT: She Just Wanted Her Life Back
There is a lot going on in the world. But the pain of sexual violence, and the complicated aftermath that fo [...]
Don’t Share My Scars and Then Ask for My Help.
Let’s talk about something that happens all too often—especially to women, especially to Survivors.
Someone insults us.Mocks us.Lies about us.Disre [...]
⚖️ How Alternative Justice Can Mimic Harmful Forgiveness Pressure
Just try to understand that if a victim decides against your option that doesn't make them "carceral." They are trying to deal with harm, safety, and [...]
You Can’t Reason With People Who See Facts as a Personal Attack
One of life’s hardest lessons is this: you cannot reason with people who treat facts and reality as a personal attack. No matter how carefully you exp [...]
🌿 My Self-Soothe Journal
🌿 My Self-Soothe Journal
A Sacred Space to Tend to Your Spirit, Breath by Breath
There are moments when the world feels too loud… and your nervous [...]
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