50 Times We Walked Past You—Our Hair Not to Your Liking, But We Were Dying Inside
updated March 27, 2025
You saw our hair.
Not our fear.Not our exhaustion.Not our grief.Not our pain.
Just our hair.
You forme [...]
Your Discomfort and Confusion is Not More Important than Her Pain (audio/podcast)
When people express pain, shock, and grief; your confusion is not an emergency.And it is not more urgent than a woman’s grief.What we are [...]
Why You May Want to Unfollow People Who Willfully Turn a Blind Eye to Power Imbalance
As Big Brother Legend on X.com says, "I unfollow (Black) people who don't understand this."At this point in my life, I choose to disaffiliate with [...]
The Power of Healing Spaces: Why Race-Specific Healing Groups Are as Vital as Sex-Specific Ones (audio/podcast)
Healing is universal, but the paths we take to get there are not one-size-fits-all. In this compelling episode of We Survive Abuse, Tonya GJ Prince ta [...]
The Magic Trick: How Grooming Feels in the Beginning
They welcome you in with warmth, with open arms. They set the table with love, dignity, and safety—just long enough for you to believe it's real [...]
13 Alarming Global Signs Life is Getting More Dangerous for Women and Girls (Audio/Podcast)
For generations, women fought to move the line forward: toward safety, freedom, education, economic independence, bodily autonomy, and the right to mo [...]
When a Child’s Daily Life Is the First Warning
It is important to remember that in domestic violence relationships, children are victims too. Children, especially girl children, a [...]
🌿 Who Still Treats Women’s Safety as Sacred?
“When a woman says, ‘I don’t feel safe,’ she’s not creating a problem — she’s revealing one.”
There was a tim [...]
You Cannot Punish Women for Protecting Themselves from Male Violence Against Women
You cannot name male violence as a danger for one group and then punish another group for protecting [...]
❓ FAQ: What Do Terms Like Gaslighting, Emotional Abuse, Grooming, and Coercion Really Mean?
Language is power. Survivors often feel the harm long before they can name it. Having the right words is not j [...]
Celebrity Confirmation: For Women Autonomy Is Not Teflon Against Violence and Abuse
Autonomy is powerful. But it is not a shield. Not in this world.
A woman can know herself.She can have bounda [...]
Ignite Change: Affirmations to Amplify Women’s Rights Worldwide
When people finally take off the mask they wear to hide misogyny they may say things to women like:
Ugly/Unworthy
"You look like a man."
"No man [...]
What FGM and “Gender-Critical” Child Medicalization Have in Common
In the work of protecting children, hard truths often sit at the intersection of culture, medicine, and power. And in that intersection, those of us w [...]
Our Tongues Survived the Fire: The Story of Xhosa, Survival, and Respect
There are languages that carry the rhythm of a people’s soul.Languages that rise and fall like the breath of generations.
Xhosa is one of those langu [...]
You Shrink So Others Don’t Feel Threatened
But What Happens When You Stop?
The Sign:You minimize your gifts, your pain, your truth—because you’ve been told your full presence makes people unco [...]
When Parties Tell Women What to Want Instead of Listening
Political parties in the U.S. don’t seem to hear themselves.To many women, their voices aren’t raised for our dignity, our safety, or our futu [...]
How Abusers Across Time and Place Keep Saying ‘Yes’ to Harm
from WeSurviveAbuse.com
It’s almost uncanny.Different languages. Different continents.Different centuries. Different tools.
But the outcome?The same [...]
In Safety-Centered Spaces—Let’s Tell the Truth About Invasion
When it comes to women and girls, invasion looks like:
Forcing male presence into spaces where wome [...]
Stop Recasting Boundaries as Ignorance
With all my heart and soul I hate when men do this,
Too often, when women say “no”—especially i [...]
✊🏾 Women Deserve Safety Without Apology
It is not hateful to name a reality:The same laws that allow trans-identified males to enter women’s spaces [...]
🏛️ What Rural Women Need from Policymakers
My professional advocacy work in domestic and sexual violence began in racially and economically diverse rur [...]
Caution and Prevention is a Necessity for Women
Women (and really, all people who want to stay safe) have always had to use discernment when encountering others. Questioning motives is not about bei [...]
🎯Weaponized Hypotheticals Are Not Harmless — They’re Punishment for a Woman’s Freedom
updated from June 9 2025
Weaponized HypotheticalsDefinition: When people—often men—create imagined stories about a woman’s love life (“She probably [...]
How Many Vulnerable Men Will Be Placed in Women’s Prisons? (w/Statistics on Female Prisoners)
The issue is not that women are unknowable to the state. It’s that women are often known only in fragments that are usef [...]
🧱 You Don’t Have to Build the House to Set the Fire:
The Truth About Harm Within Oppressive Systems
Some people argue:“I didn’t build the system. So I can’t be responsible for the harm it ca [...]
When “Separation” Isn’t Safe: Why Women Need More Space, Not Less
A locked door matters more than a long explanation.
If a woman has to bargain, soften her voice, calculate moods, or time her [...]
Hello: 10 Issues Black Women Have Been Sounding the Alarm About for Decades
Across social media and public conversations, there is a pattern many Black women recognize immediately.Wh [...]
Black Women: Unshakable, Unstoppable, Undeniable
When people build entire campaigns against you, they recognize your power even if YOU do not.
Black womanhood [...]
Even in Progressive Spaces, Systems Still Fail Survivors
In many justice-minded communities, we say the right things:
🟩 Believe Survivors.🟩 Abolish harmful systems. [...]
If Women Are ‘Imagining It,’ Why Is Someone Making Money From It?
It’s wild how quickly the world silences women.The minute a woman says she’s uncomfortable, cautious, or afrai [...]
🌿 My Self-Soothe Journal
🌿 My Self-Soothe Journal
A Sacred Space to Tend to Your Spirit, Breath by Breath
There are moments when the world feels too loud… and your nervous [...]
🎯 General Categories Protect the Powerful, Not the Vulnerable
We are often told that broad categories are a sign of unity.That we should all just fall under one banner:
“Women.”
“People of color.” [...]
Only 2% “Owned” Slaves?” The Dangerous Game of Subtracting Context
We’ve all heard it: “Only 2% of white people "owned" slaves.”It’s a talking point tossed around to downplay history. But here’s the truth: it’s not th [...]
Where “Bidirectional Abuse” Comes From and Why It Can Mislead People About Black Women
I was astonished that in a season where we had a string of Black femicides and people were asserting "bidirectional violence" on dead women that they [...]
