Why Women Must Use Our Labor Wisely: From Survival to True Progress
In my early 30's I realized that I had three female conditions brewing inside me. And they had been there for a long time. In spite o [...]
Stop Debating Women Into Danger: Saying You Care Is Not the Same as Protecting Women
When men debate whether women deserve safety, they are not having a conversation.
They are auditioning for authority over women’s [...]
The Bench at Maple and Ninth: When Men Decide Whether Women Get Boundaries (audio)
In this episode of We Survive Abuse, we step into a modern fable about a simple bench, a tired woman, and a town that does not realize it is [...]
The Fable of the Man Who Changed His Coat Not His Character: How Harm Reinvents Itself
Some people do not grow, evolve, and change. They rebrand. In this episode of the We Survive Abuse Podcast, Tonya GJ Prince explor [...]
🎯Weaponized Hypotheticals Are Not Harmless — They’re Punishment for a Woman’s Freedom
updated from June 9 2025
Weaponized HypotheticalsDefinition: When people—often men—create imagined stories about a woman’s love life (“She probably [...]
People Locked the Door: Why the Voting Rights Act Should Still Exist Powerfully w/audio
Congressman John Lewis was beaten while fighting for voting rights.
On March 7, 1965, during the Selma voting rights march across the Edmund Pettus B [...]
The Power of Healing Spaces: Why Race-Specific Healing Groups Are as Vital as Sex-Specific Ones (audio/podcast)
Healing is universal, but the paths we take to get there are not one-size-fits-all. In this compelling episode of We Survive Abuse, Tonya GJ Prince ta [...]
🚨 Pregnancy Shouldn’t Be a Death Sentence
Let’s tell the truth—pregnancy should never be a death sentence.
But in the United States, the leading cause of death for pregnant and postpartum w [...]
Unlearning Loyalty to Those Who Ask You to Lie
“Power borrowed from fear never lasts"
There comes a time when your soul grows too heavy to carry the wei [...]
❌ If You Can’t Speak Your Truth Without Losing Love, You’re Not in a Relationship—You’re Under Rule
There are relationships that look like love on the outside.They may even feel like love—sometimes.
But if y [...]
The Truth From Pam and Aunt Esther: Naming the Disrespect Women Were Taught To Ignore
There are men who speak to women with deep disrespect — regularly.
And we rarely show it honestly.
Some folk [...]
🎭 The Enforcer in the Room: When Women Police Other Women for Abusers
"I will give you something to cry out about"
There is something few people want to talk about—but every Survi [...]
No More Empty Promises: What It Really Means to Support Prostituted Persons
Supporting Prostituted Persons Means More Than Just Words
"Shaming women doesn't work because that is not the root of the problem." -Tonya GJ Princ [...]
💔 They’ve Been Ignoring Our Pain for Generations. But We Still Feel It.
On yesterday there was a non-subtle outcry on at least one social media application calling for Black people to go to Los Angeles, California and ge [...]
Why People Should Stop Asking Survivors of Abuse “Why Now?”
Let's get in the habit of allowing people to survive the impact of harm first.- Tonya GJ Prince
When it comes to domestic and sexual violence, mo [...]
We Survive Abuse: Robbing Girls of Opportunities That Women Fought For is Hella Shameful
As we move from Black History Month to Women's History Month ...the bullying & snatching opportunities from girls under the guise of "empath [...]
Women Should Try Being Kind to Other Women Too
“There is a special place in hell for women who don't help other women."
― Madeleine Albright
Since we are doing throw back comparisons these days, [...]
💔 When She Protects Herself, He Cries Harm
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There are men—too many—who believe that a woman harms them simply by refusing to be harmed by them.
She sets a boundary.She tel [...]
‘Playing Victim’: How Racism Silences Black Voices and Blocks True Healing in America
Wherever there is harm—whether domestic violence, sexual violence, stalking, or racism—there is often the same [...]
Boundary Blur Bingo: The Games People Play with Women’s Safety
Some people do not attack women’s boundaries directly.
They fog them.
They turn a woman’s “no” into [...]
Women Are Not a Feeling. We Are Not Yours to Define.
There is a dangerous lie being whispered and shouted in this world:That a woman is a feeling.That our existe [...]
When Love Becomes a Warning: The Forgotten Conversation About Parricide and Estrangement
There’s a growing trend across online spaces where people—especially younger adults—discuss estrangement from [...]
10 Ways Faux Concern About Cheek Swabs in Sports Does Not Protect Black Women—It Exploits Us
updated from March 27, 2025
It is an age-old, exhausting pattern: expecting Black women to absorb the impact, soothe, cushion, and hold space for m [...]
Lessons from the Murder of Tonie Nicole: The Family Shares
I came across and compiled this years ago. I was struck by how the family members brought her to life for us....shared her with us. It saddens me that [...]
Why Women Can’t Override Another Woman’s “No” Using Gender as a Justification
No woman—no matter how wise, how wounded, how experienced, or how loud—has the right to override another woman’s boundaries.
Not now. Not ever.Being [...]
Self-Care Includes Recognizing the Adult Bullies Around You
Part of self-care means monitoring how you are being treated by those around you. To make sure that you aren't feeling silenced or mistreate [...]
RED FLAG:🚩 Quick Love Can Be a Cage
When Fast Turns to Fear: What We’re Not Talking About Enough
They came on strong.Said all the right things.Made you feel seen, heard, ado [...]
The Question Was Safety—The Answer Was Shame
She didn’t ask for special treatment.She didn’t ask for a platform, a parade, or a prize.
She asked for safety.That’s it. That’s all.
Bu [...]
Her Name Was Nicole Beverly
And she should still be here, holding her son.
Nicole Beverly was a Black mother of four living in Detroit. S [...]
Jingle Bells Too: When People Pretend the Story Ended at “Slavery Ended”
This isn't about a song but like most art, it offers life lessons.Jingle Bells” was written in 1857 by Jam [...]
Familiarity Doesn’t Make Stranger Abuse Irrelevant
There’s a manipulation tactic that keeps slipping into our public conversations—one that says:“Most pe [...]
The Book I Avoided—Until I Couldn’t Anymore
By a Survivor Who Now Understands Why the Caged Bird Sings
I’ve always been a voracious reader.
Since [...]
🌿 My Self-Soothe Journal
🌿 My Self-Soothe Journal
A Sacred Space to Tend to Your Spirit, Breath by Breath
There are moments when the world feels too loud… and your nervous [...]
10 Hard Truths About Men Who Have Been Violent in Relationships
Safety never comes from cruelty. One of the strongest predictors of future abuse is past abuse. Men who have harmed partners before are likely to re [...]
The Shifting Burden of Safety — And Who’s Carrying It Now
In recent years, the responsibility for keeping peace, avoiding danger, and anticipating harm has landed—again—squarely on women’s shoulders. Not beca [...]
Telling the Truth Is Not Blame: Responsibility, Survival, and Complicity in a World That Harms Women
“America has the laws and the material resources it takes to insure justice for all its people.
What it lacks is the heart, the humanity.”
~ Shirl [...]
