A Lesson From Survivors: The Experiences of Others
I view the experiences of others as life lessons for myself.I always consider the experiences of others to be opportunities to carve out [...]
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Why You May Want to Unfollow People Who Willfully Turn a Blind Eye to Power Imbalance
As Big Brother Legend on X.com says, "I unfollow (Black) people who don't understand this." At this point in my life, I choose to disaffiliate with [...]
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My Health and Safety Matters Too: Why “Assigned Female at Birth” Sparks Backlash
Explore why women's rights groups argue that this phrase not only diminishes the lived experiences of women but also risks erasing the realities [...]
Survivor Affirmations: I Live an Authentic Life, Lessons from Big Mama Thornton (podcast episode)
In this compelling episode of the We Survive Abuse podcast, we dive into the powerful life and legacy of blues legend Big Mama Thornton. Jo [...]
🎯Weaponized Hypotheticals Are Not Harmless — They’re Punishment for a Woman’s Freedom
updated from June 9 2025
Weaponized HypotheticalsDefinition: When people—often men—create imagined stories about a woman’s love life (“She probably [...]
Your Vocal Power: Podcast Selections for Survivors this Week
From WE Survive Abuse podcast. Stories of inspiration for Survivors of powerful women including: Sonya Ivanoff, Harriet Tubman, Marilyn Van [...]
You Call It Staying. She Calls It Surviving.
You look at her and ask, “Why did she stay?”
But you don’t know the whole story.
You saw a snapshot.She’s been living the full movie.
To you, it [...]
Dance Is a Weapon, a Womb, a Way Back to Ourselves
They tried to bury us, but they didn’t know we were seeds. And we dance where they tried to end us.”
Across time and across oceans, African peoples [...]
You Can Love People and Still Set Firm, Protective Boundaries
They’ll tell you that love means saying "yes".That love means flexibility.That love never closes a door.
But love without boundaries?That’s not love. [...]
Silencing Is Always the First Strike
Survivors of violence—whether in war zones or in personal life—often face silencing first.
Before the bruise,before the strike,before the world sees [...]
More Safe Spaces for Women Now: Even in the US, Women Are Dying in a System That Limits Their Escape
There are moments that should stop us. Not just emotionally, but structurally. As we reflect on the loss [...]
Black American History Lesson: What Happened to the First Private Black School for Girls in Connecticut?
I hope that these last few weeks have taught us to take history as a tool for learning lessons .....for everyo [...]
Alleged “Male Loneliness” is Causing Men to Come Up With Bizarre Ideas
Women, start flipping tables everywhere you go. How hard is it to just stop being violent and abusive? How [...]
The Warrior Women from History
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In Safety-Centered Spaces—Let’s Tell the Truth About Invasion
When it comes to women and girls, invasion looks like:
Forcing male presence into spaces where wome [...]
When the Mourning Is Selective: A Reflection on Silence, Justice, and Sacred Courage(audio version included)
updated from 2022 LISTEN HERE Black women also experience significantly higher rates of psychological [...]
🚨 Pregnancy Shouldn’t Be a Death Sentence
Let’s tell the truth—pregnancy should never be a death sentence.
But in the United States, the leading caus [...]
The Numbers Do Not Lie, So Stop Asking Women to Accept Less Safety (UPDATE)
Organizations around the world have been distracted. Consumed with chastising women and pushing us to "be [...]
The Book I Avoided—Until I Couldn’t Anymore
By a Survivor Who Now Understands Why the Caged Bird Sings
I’ve always been a voracious reader.
Since [...]
We Called It Rape Culture for a Reason. And That Reason Still Exists
There was a time when we named things clearly.
We called it rape culture.
Not to be provocative. Not to shoc [...]
Even in Progressive Spaces, Systems Still Fail Survivors
In many justice-minded communities, we say the right things:
🟩 Believe Survivors.🟩 Abolish harmful systems. [...]
Only 2% “Owned” Slaves?”: Slavery and Slaveholding in the United States Facts (Part 3)
Why “The Last Recorded Lynching” IS NOT the Same As “The Last Lynching” Slavery and Slaveholding in the [...]
🌿 My Self-Soothe Journal
🌿 My Self-Soothe Journal
A Sacred Space to Tend to Your Spirit, Breath by Breath
There are moments when the world feels too loud… and your nervous [...]
E. Lynn Harris: The Visionary Black Author Who Gave Us Stories We’d Never Seen—But Always Needed
Long before mainstream platforms embraced diverse stories, he was doing the work. Out of the trunk of his car. In beauty salons. With Black [...]
Self-Care Includes Recognizing the Adult Bullies Around You
Part of self-care means monitoring how you are being treated by those around you. To make sure that you aren't feeling silenced or mistreate [...]
Playing Victim or Using Wisdom to Protect Yourself? Why Wise Women Recognize the Pattern of Abuse Before Others
She told a friend once: “The first time he raised his voice again, I knew.” Her friend asked, “How could you know? Maybe he was just [...]
6 Common Behaviors of Female Enablers of Abusive Males (infographic)
When a woman stands up for herself and her rights,
be a good person and get the hell out of her way.
This world puts a lot of obstacles in front [...]
The “Dying Alone” Myth: A Fear Tactic to Control Women
One of the most persistent, tired myths used to scare women into compliance is the idea that if we follow feminism, womanism, or choose to remain un [...]
She Lied to Herself First: How Women Protect Harmful Men—And Turn on Other Women
There’s a quiet lie that echoes through many women’s lives.A lie whispered in silence. Repeated in prayer. Spoken with eyes closed tight.
It goes s [...]
No One is Like Us. Women Fight Differently
Women fight differently.
When the Taliban ordered Afghan women not to sing,they sang anyway.Soft, loud, hidden, public — they sang their existence [...]
Be Kind to Women and Girls (calendar)
It is crystal clear that leaders, organizations, corporations, educational institutions, and average individuals have forgotten how to be kind t [...]
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Societal Expectations and Assumptions That Burden Women and Girls
MOOD BOARD: Women's Choices in Relationships (video) | WE Survive AbuseYour OWN Reflections on Womanhood and Manhood | WE Survive AbuseNovember 2022: [...]
Feminism Can No Longer Afford to Be Generalized
Feminism can no longer afford to live in generalizations.When it does, it leaves too much room for people to hide intent, to blur goals, to claim the [...]
🚨 When Power Imbalances Are Ignored—and Victims Get Hurt
In schools, faith communities, workplaces, and even families, efforts to keep the peace often ignore the power imbalance between abusers and Survivors [...]
Master Manipulators: 10 Disturbing Tactics They Use to Control and Confuse You
They rarely come in screaming.They don’t wear signs.They don’t always raise their voice or raise their hand.But what they raise is doubt—in you, in yo [...]
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