10 Signs You Can’t Reason With Someone
Reasonable conversations require honesty, humility, and respect. But sometimes, you run into people who treat reality like an enemy. They [...]
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Don’t Ignore the History and Connection of Accountability Evasion in Violence, Abuse, and Racism (w/ podcast episode)
So we have reached the place where the n-word is actually Black American people's fault. And that is part of the cycle of harm. Evading accountability [...]
You Are Not a Hero to Women for Teaching Men They are Entitled to Women’s Spaces (podcast episode)
What does it really mean to protect women? And who gets to decide when a woman's safety concerns are "serious enough" to matter?
In this epis [...]
🎯Weaponized Hypotheticals Are Not Harmless — They’re Punishment for a Woman’s Freedom
updated from June 9 2025
Weaponized HypotheticalsDefinition: When people—often men—create imagined stories about a woman’s love life (“She probably [...]
Girls Do Not Owe Anyone Sexual Reparations (audio)
Girls Do Not Owe Anyone Sexual Reparations (audio recording) [...]
FAQ About Trauma, Abuse, & Violence with Gary Jones LCSW (audio)
FAQ About Trauma, Abuse, and Violence With GaryJones LCSW [...]
🛑 Tokenism Is Not Liberation: Why Hate Groups Tokenize Black Women
Some groups want our rhythm, our language, our beauty—but not our justice.
They say they care about Black women.
They post our photos.Quote our hero [...]
Dr. Tracey Marks: What is Delusional disorder? How Is It Different From Schizophrenia?
Some Survivors are people who have escaped being stalked relentlessly by someone with delusional disorder. Som [...]
She Lied to Herself First: How Women Protect Harmful Men—And Turn on Other Women
There’s a quiet lie that echoes through many women’s lives.A lie whispered in silence. Repeated in prayer. S [...]
Stop Calling It “Race Baiting”: Black Maternal Death Is a Life-or-Death Reality (podcast episode)
Black women speaking about maternal death are not “race baiting.” This is a call-out of minimization, [...]
🌿 Who Still Treats Women’s Safety as Sacred?
“When a woman says, ‘I don’t feel safe,’ she’s not creating a problem — she’s revealing one.”
There was a tim [...]
“Is It Toxic or Is It Abuse?” — When You’re Trying to Name What’s Happening
She sat in her parked car for 32 minutes before going inside.
She wasn't avoiding anyone—he wasn't even home.
She just… didn’t want to walk into her [...]
How Men Who Respect Women Can Show It Every Day
About the So-Called "Male Loneliness Epidemic"I do not think that men who value women and treat women well have ever heard of this so-called male lone [...]
Black Women’s Safety Is Not Optional: It’s a Justice Issue
1. We Are Often the First to Speak Up—and the Last to Be Protected
Black women are frequently the ones raising the alarm about injustice. Yet when it [...]
💔 When She Protects Herself, He Cries Harm
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There are men—too many—who believe that a woman harms them simply by refusing to be harmed by them.
She sets a boundary.She tel [...]
When Parties Tell Women What to Want Instead of Listening
Political parties in the U.S. don’t seem to hear themselves.To many women, their voices aren’t raised for our dignity, our safety, or our futu [...]
They Called It Victimhood. I Call It Rising.
After abuse, it’s common to be met with silence when you’re hurting — and then judgment when you begin to glow.
They did not think this part through [...]
Changing Restrooms, Changing Questions: What You Should Know
How come they can build these things that bring men in closer proximity to women and children but not more h [...]
Risk Doesn’t Rise by Accident—What Happens When Care is Uneven for Black Women
Risk for harm grows where care is uneven.And for Black women, care has never been evenly given.Health [...]
I uncovered the DARK TRUTH about my grandparents… | The Moth
Growing up, Angela loved spending time with her grandfather who became a widower at a young age. But when he p [...]
Respect Is Supposed to Be Mutual—But Women Know Better
Respect is supposed to be mutual.But you wouldn’t know that if you listened to today’s men speak.
Somehow, wo [...]
Visibility Isn’t Safety. And Representation Isn’t Protection.
We were told more women in power would mean more safety for all women.We were told that when women rise, we all rise.But too many of us are still in [...]
Red Flags in Relationships: Recognizing Silent Signals of Control
updated from January 12 2025Here is when I knew.
I was riding in the car with my date. Our first date.
He picked me up.
He brought me a si [...]
This Is Not Just a Relationship. It’s a Campaign of Control.
Some people still think abuse is about losing tempers.Or that it's a relationship that just got too intense.Or two people who need to learn how to c [...]
Book Shelf: Finding Purpose in the Pain: Devotions for Victims of Parental Alienation
I received a link to the book below and it put it on my heart to think about parental alienation. May this book and resourc [...]
Some Truths We’re Not Supposed to Say Out Loud- But We Will
We see you.Not with malice.Not with envy.But with ancient knowing.
We know when something in the milk ain't cleanWe know when a movement ca [...]
Why Sexual Orientation Has Nothing to Do with School Shootings
So after yesterday's tragic shooting in Minneapolis, Minnesota-which took the lives of two innocent children, injured 18 others, and traumat [...]
Weaponized Moralism: The Silence That Screams
They call it compassion.But only when it protects male access.
They call it justice.But only when women are a [...]
Black Women Have Always Spoken Truth to Power — and We Still Will
In the end anti-black, anti-female, and all forms of discrimination are
equivalent to the same thing: anti-h [...]
Letter from an Angry Survivor of Sexual Violence about this Bill Cosby Tragedy
7/7/2015Tonight I am angry.
That isn't my default setting though. Usually, I smile so much that I [...]
How to Get the Truth Around Obstacles of Myths, Lies, & Distraction: Infographics
Let Me Tell ItI once worked as the sexual assault Outreach Advocate for the state of Virginia. Here [...]
🌿 My Self-Soothe Journal
🌿 My Self-Soothe Journal
A Sacred Space to Tend to Your Spirit, Breath by Breath
There are moments when the world feels too loud… and your nervous [...]
15 Reasons a Woman’s Silence Does Not Mean She Is Comfortable
One of the most dangerous assumptions in the world is believing that if a woman does not openly object, she must be okay with what is [...]
🧨 Myth-Busting the “Racial Harmony” Era: What We Weren’t Supposed to Say
Many believe the 1980s to early 2000s were a time of racial harmony in America, especially within the women's movement to end violence. But for Black, [...]
We Don’t Owe Our Endurance to Racism
They say:“Now is not the time.”“We’re all suffering right now.”“Don’t make it about race.”
But racism doesn’t take a break during a crisis.So why a [...]
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