🌺 Believing Yourself First: A Return to the Oldest Wisdom You Have
Before the world taught you to doubt yourself,before people gaslit you into second-guessing your own heartbeat,you knew.
You knew what y [...]
Can White Women Deny Black Women Womanhood? (audio)
Womanhood is about character, lessons, wisdom, & journey but there is a troubling social assertion that white women denying Black women woma [...]
How to Really Let Go of Past Mistakes and Heal (audio)
How to Really Let Go of Past Mistakes and Heal [...]
Even Pain Has a Purpose: A Call to Men Who Have Lost Women They Love to Male Violence
The Transformative Power of PainMen, your pain over losing the women you love can be a transformative force. It’s not just personal — it’s polit [...]
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Autonomy in Dating and Partner Selection is Our Birthright (audio/podcast)
Autonomy in Dating and Partner Selection is Our Birthright" explores the powerful intersection of history and empowerment. In this episode [...]
When Someone Else’s Path Becomes a Rulebook for All Women
This audio recording took me back. It took me back to the much larger circle of people I socialized with in my 20's. I'm grateful it was full offor t [...]
The Fable of the Flame that Would Not Bow: The Importance of Help Seeking Language in Troubled Times
Discouragement is part of the battle. It always has been. But defeatist language can become dangerous when it stops people from seeking help, making p [...]
Unburdened: Breaking the Chains of Servitude and Reclaiming Rest for Black Women
Breaking these chains requires a multi-layered approach that includes self-liberation, community support, and cultural shifts. Black women can break [...]
When HR Doesn’t Protect You: What Survivors Deserve to Know
Human Resources (HR) is often unreliable for sexual harassment victims—especially in systems where protecting the organization takes priority over pro [...]
When Women Excuse Violence, Everyone Pays: The High Cost of Ignoring Abuse
In politics, too many women of privilege in America give violent men a pass.
They vote for them.
They praise them.
They scold other women for not l [...]
6 FAQ by Parents & Caretakers about Child Sexual Abuse
Today, I would like to speak to the parents and caretakers of children. I realize that some of them might be a bit concerned. When someone [...]
What Happens When the People Stop Listening to Women
These stories are unsettling. I do hope that male podcasters, influencers, and journalists are covering these [...]
The Real Exclusion Happens When We Refuse to Face the Truth: Male on Male Violence
It is not women who are being exclusionary when we protect our spaces.It is not women who are the barrier to r [...]
We Do Not Have the Privilege of Forgetting. But the World Wants Us To.
Every single day, women are surviving things that many refuse to name.Small things. Quiet things. Daily things [...]
Respect Without Surrender: When Rights Don’t Mean Access
The Foundation of True Respect
Respect is not ownership.And justice does not mean surrender.
We live in a wo [...]
The Cage Looks Different, But It’s Still a Cage
Some men enforce gender roles by pushing women into cages:
Be obedient. Be soft. Be nurturing. Be silent. [...]
Exploring the Link Between Enmeshment and Male Violence: Breaking Unhealthy Cycles
"You see one, you see the other."It is so hard to intervene because, by the time people outs [...]
From Michael Harriot: How a City Ignored the (Systemic) Rape, Murder and Terrorism of Black Women for Four Decades
updated from December 4, 2024 "Not everything that is faced can be changed, but nothing can be changed unti [...]
Truth Heals: Why Forcing Survivors to Lie About Identity is Harmful
Survivors Deserve to Speak the Truth
Survivors of abuse, assault, and violence have long been silenced—by s [...]
⚠️ Trigger Warning: Child Sexual Abuse, Victim-Blaming
Updated for 2025 Updated from 2016: I was watching one of my favorite shows—Greenleaf on [...]
🛑 They Hate Questions. That’s the Red Flag.
Manipulators. Abusers. Tyrants.They don’t like questions.They don’t like debate. They do not want to be c [...]
Grief That Echoes: Honoring the Women Amiri Baraka Lost to Violence
There are wounds that don’t stop bleeding just because the headlines fade.There are names that deserve to be [...]
“Why Are Women Still Told to Have Faith in Men Who ‘Rebrand’ Themselves?”
“If his change requires your suffering to prove it, it isn’t change — it’s another performance.”
— WeSurviv [...]
🌿 My Self-Soothe Journal
🌿 My Self-Soothe Journal
A Sacred Space to Tend to Your Spirit, Breath by Breath
There are moments when the world feels too loud… and your nervous [...]
✨ Survivor Affirmations for the Women Who’ve Held Their Tongue Far Too Long
Let’s be honest.
The people who critique dark-skinned Black women’s beauty?Often have deep gaps in their own appearance, character, and s [...]
10 Reasons Men Invading Women’s Spaces—No Matter How They Identify—Is Abusive, Misogynistic, Gynophobic, and Sexist
Women’s spaces exist for safety, healing, solidarity, and empowerment—yet, men demanding access to these spaces is a continuation of male en [...]
Our Rights Are Not Disposable
Women's rights are not up for elimination.Not now. Not ever.
Our rights are not conditional based on someone else's discomfort.They are not [...]
If the Silencing Isn’t for Women or Children… Then Who Is It For?
Silence is powerful.
It can be sacred. Healing. Necessary for rest, prayer, and wisdom.
But when silence is demanded—not chosen—when it’s forced upo [...]
💔 What Is Breadcrumbing? A Survivor’s Guide to Emotional Manipulation Disguised as “Hope” (w/playlist)
You may know this tactic by another name. Maybe "stringing you along."
It has been a major theme in classic novels like, The Great Gatsby and even [...]
We Don’t Close Doors Around Here: When Women’s Privacy Becomes Negotiable, Women Are in Danger (w/affirmations)
Living in the West is not what makes a woman safe. Privacy is not modesty theater. It is part of bodily safety. It is shield. We do not give th [...]
Pam Taught Us Some Things: Why Tichina Arnold Always Deserves Our Love
I grew up in a generation that was outside. Young people watching Stranger Things still ask: "Were 80s kids really outside like that?" Yesssssss. [...]
May We Never Forget the Battles: When Pregnancy Was a Fireable Offense
It has gotten to the point where many of us in the West were not there in the days when a woman could be fired because she was pregnant. Society has a [...]
Myth: “Women Are Safe as Long as There Are Good Men Around”
Reality: Women Are Only as Safe as the Boundaries and Protections We Demand
One of the most misleading and harmful ideas about women’s safety is the [...]
Using Michelle Obama’s Image to Justify White Supremacy Is a Self-Own—And a Betrayal
(Why Black women must speak for ourselves, gatekeep our image, and protect our humanity)
Every so often-too often- I see it again:A meme, a tweet, or [...]
You Shrink So Others Don’t Feel Threatened
But What Happens When You Stop?
The Sign:You minimize your gifts, your pain, your truth—because you’ve been told your full presence makes people unco [...]
Not All Submission Looks Like Sunday School
Some women believe they've separated themselves from patriarchy because they don’t tell women to “submit to your husband.”
But submission doesn’t alw [...]
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