Survivor Affirmations: Black History Month…. Lets Go!
Updated from January 28, 2024 Black History Month is not a highlight reel. It is a living inheritance. A remembering of courage carrie [...]
Stay Woke: When a Warning is Turned to a Punchline
Watching language warning about life or death flatten into a "trend".... is frustrating. “‘Stay woke’ began as a warning, not a trend. Thi [...]
Don’t Ignore the History and Connection of Accountability Evasion in Violence, Abuse, and Racism (w/ podcast episode)
So we have reached the place where the n-word is actually Black American people's fault. And that is part of the cycle of harm. Evading accountability [...]
Stop Debating Women Into Danger: Saying You Care Is Not the Same as Protecting Women
When men debate whether women deserve safety, they are not having a conversation.
They are auditioning for authority over women’s [...]
12 Unapologetic Truths: Your Rights as a Woman Are Unconditional (Audio/podcast)
Your rights as a woman are not up for debate. You don’t need permission, validation, or a committee vote to own your power. In this b [...]
💔 When Sisterhood Is a Silencer: Spotting the Wounds Behind the Smile
Some women walk with us in sisterhood—but not in solidarity.
They speak our language. Quote the affirmations. Light the candles. Clap at the empowerm [...]
📣 When Vulnerability Is Met with Violence: What the Numbers Refuse to Let Us Ignore
It amazes me that people call others "hateful" for speaking up for their right to safe boundaried spaces.
You have no idea what another individual's [...]
Dr. Angella Dorothea Ferguson: The Woman Who Refused to Let Sickle Cell Patients Be Forgotten
Calling Things by Their Proper Name: Honoring Dr. Angella Dorothea Ferguson
“The beginning of wisdom is to call things by their proper name.” — Co [...]
You Can’t Protect Survivors and Still Make Space for Predators
You must choose a side.
There are things we don’t say often enough—because saying them out loud means we can’t unhear them.
Here’s one of them: [...]
Women WILL Make a Scene When We Do Not Feel Calm When a Male Enters a Female Space
From the time we are little girls, the world trains us to keep the peace.To stay quiet.To stay pleasant.To nev [...]
‘Playing Victim’: How Racism Silences Black Voices and Blocks True Healing in America
Wherever there is harm—whether domestic violence, sexual violence, stalking, or racism—there is often the same [...]
The Neuroscience of Political Tribalism | Why You Can’t Think Straight
You saw it too. I was watching clips from Jesse Jackson's homegoing service. Then all of a sudden, people w [...]
“Not This Person” Is Old Reputation Management — And We’ve Fought This Before
Domestic violence advocates have been here before.
For decades, advocates fought a very specifi [...]
Red Flags: Why Am I Feeling Unseen Here? Clues Survivors Notice First.
To be clear: People are not going to always feel seen. This is a huge planet. We are specifically talking abou [...]
Don’t Ignore the History and Connection of Accountability Evasion in Violence, Abuse, and Racism (w/ podcast episode)
So we have reached the place where the n-word is actually Black American people's fault. And that is part of t [...]
🏛️ What Rural Women Need from Policymakers
My professional advocacy work in domestic and sexual violence began in racially and economically diverse rur [...]
🛑 We don’t negotiate safety
⚖️ Some Things Are Black and White
Yes means safety.No means protection.
Clear, certain, unapologetic bounda [...]
Why Does Society Make it Difficult for Survivors of Rape & Abuse to Come Forward? Part 1
I watched "Cosby: The Women Speak."
Actually, I recorded it.
This way, if I was [...]
We Warned You: The Deadly Price Black Women Pay for Social Justice Experiments by The Way She Came
One thing I have learned about life on this planet, people just act like it goes against everything that the [...]
Believe in What Believes in You.
Why spend your precious energy trying to prove your humanity to systems, circles, or people who have already d [...]
A Brief Timeline: Marital Rape Laws in the West
A tremendous amount of work went into giving spouses legal recourse if they are assaulted by their spouse. Pri [...]
🌿 My Self-Soothe Journal
🌿 My Self-Soothe Journal
A Sacred Space to Tend to Your Spirit, Breath by Breath
There are moments when the world feels too loud… and your nervous [...]
This Never Happens!: Sex Offenders in Plain Sight
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How to Bury Your Abusive Husband and the Laws That Shielded Him – YES! Magazine Solutions Journalism
Huge thanks to Brijana Prooker @BriProoker for shining a thoughtful spotlight on domestic violence in this informative piece. I'm [...]
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What About Your Friends and Domestic Violence: RIP to the Courageous Tyshika Askins
Eye-Opening Conversations So what is a friend to do when another friend is in a violent relationship? How far should she go?Obser [...]
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Unveiling the Dark History of Gynecology | Ill Will
In this eye-opening first episode of "Ill Will," host A.B. Burns-Tucker is joined by Dr. Keisha Ray to dive into the troubling history of gynecology's [...]
The Real Locker Room Talk: Men Don’t Need Cheerleaders—They Need Witnesses
Let’s stop dancing around what everybody can feel but few want to say: Men are not suffering because women won’t let them cry.They are sufferin [...]
What Literature Can Teach Us About Contemporary Self-identity
originally published 8/8/23The award-winning movie, "The Green Book" concerned the Black community. Here was a book that was designed for one pu [...]
🛑 Tokenism Is Not Liberation: Why Hate Groups Tokenize Black Women
Some groups want our rhythm, our language, our beauty—but not our justice.
They say they care about Black women.
They post our photos.Quote our hero [...]
When Disability and Blackness Meet: Over 25 Times When Grace Was Denied To Disabled Black People
There is a quiet cruelty that rarely gets named plainly. It lives in the space where Blackness and disability intersect. It shows up not only in drama [...]
🚩 When His Praise Requires Another Woman’s Demeaning: That’s Not a Compliment—That’s a Red Flag
At first, you felt flattered.He spoke highly of you. Said you were different. Said you were “better” than the women of his own race. Smarter. Softer. [...]
Stop Calling It Respect When It’s Really Silence
When children are trapped in abusive homes, they’re not just harmed by the acts themselves. They’re trained through language. Words become cages. The [...]
They Just Know: How Abusers Play by the Same Rules
There’s no secret clubhouse.No annual meeting.No formal initiation or online group chat.
And yet—somehow—they just know.
They know what to say.They [...]
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