Lucy Diggs Slowe: She Protected Us in Silence So We Could One Day Speak
“Because boundaried spaces don’t build themselves—someone has to brave the silence first.”[WeSurviveAbuse.com]
Most people will [...]
Crossover: When Harm Happens But the Apology Does Not (audio/video)
Apologies are part of recognizing that you are a human being and that others are too. We live in a world with other human beings that doesn't recogniz [...]
Stay Woke: When a Warning is Turned to a Punchline
Watching language warning about life or death flatten into a "trend".... is frustrating. “‘Stay woke’ began as a warning, not a trend. Thi [...]
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Why I Believe Women When They Say They’re Afraid — And Why You May Want To Too (updated with podcast link)
updated from June 28, 2024 Listen to this blog post here There are mom [...]
The Fable of the Flame that Would Not Bow: The Importance of Help Seeking Language in Troubled Times
Discouragement is part of the battle. It always has been. But defeatist language can become dangerous when it stops people from seeking help, making p [...]
Women Are Fed UP with Having Our Own Womanhood Mansplained At Us (w/TikTok creators)
We keep doing that thing that we have always done. We are not listening to women and girls. And when we do hear pieces of what they are saying here an [...]
Truth-Telling Is Not “Race Talk.” It’s Course Correction.
Saying “Black woman” is not race discourse.It’s not divisive.It’s not inflammatory.It’s accuracy i [...]
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Justice for the Victims of the Freeway Phantom
Between between April 1971 and September 1972 five Black girls and Black woman was murdered by a still yet uni [...]
🚨 Silence Isn’t Neutral. It’s Permission.
Let’s talk about the men who say:
“I don’t get involved in drama.”“That’s between them.”“Not all men are li [...]
Survivor Affirmation: I Will NOT Shrink Truth to Comfort Those Who Fear Boundaries
Boundaries are love not hate.
They are love in action — love for your peace, your time, your healing, and you [...]
When They Say Speaking About Racism is the Problem: The Same Old Victim-Blaming Playbook
There is a pattern.
A Survivor of abuse speaks up, and the world responds:"Why now?"
"You’re just being divisive."
"Talking about it [...]
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Embracing Your Own Worth: The Power of Self-Validation (with Affirmations)
"It costs you nothing to just validate another person."I can think of at least a couple of Grands (grandparents) who would respond: "Doesn' [...]
No More Empty Promises: What It Really Means to Support Prostituted Persons
Supporting Prostituted Persons Means More Than Just Words
"Shaming women doesn't work because that is not the root of the problem." -Tonya GJ Princ [...]
Predators: Reviled serial killer Dana Sue Gray bares all about her ‘terrifying and disgusting’ sex attack at the hands of her trans prison cellmate
Story Link ***Reminder: Level up support for Tomeika JohnsonAll this alleged "care & concern" for the peopl [...]
Unless He Says So
From X.comA woman or girl can say no to a man in her space. Unless he refuses to admit that he is a man.A woman or girl can say no to men in bath [...]
She Deserved Help: What Kitty Genovese’s Story Still Teaches Us About Silence, Judgment, and the Cost of Looking Away
I saw a video of a very young woman getting flipped into the pool yesterday. She was young, carefree, wearing a bikini and dancing with a young man. A [...]
💜 20 Ways to Support Celebrity Women Who Protect Themselves from Abuse
Before we cheer for progress, we must reckon with our past.Tina Turner was not just a legend—she was a Survi [...]
24 Facts About Genocide: How Women Across Generations and Nations Have Been Targeted in Genocide
When a group has been treated as property, their boundaries are never automatically recognized
—they have to [...]
It’s Not About What You Told Her. It’s About What She Can Teach You.
So many rush to say:“I told her.”“She didn’t listen.”“She should’ve known better.”But this isn’t t [...]
Gynophobia Is Not New—We’ve Just Been Taught to Ignore It
The word gynophobia—meaning fear or hatred of women—has existed for centuries. But while misogyny [...]
Why Leaders Who Excuse Abuse Can’t Build Safety—They Recreate Harm
When someone dismisses violence, mocks Survivors, or excuses abuse, they’re not neutral.
They’re signaling the kind of safety they intend to build—on [...]
12 Ways Women Carry Unequal Legal Burdens in Brazil
Beautiful Brazil. A country that, like many others, has a long way to go when it comes to how it treats the women and girls who are its citizens.
Wo [...]
Women Healing Among One Another is Not Hate (audio short)
Can human rights organizations protect multiple groups without asking women and girls to disappear?It truly bothered me that Amnesty took aim at a [...]
When Power Aligns Against a Black Woman: Why Megan’s Case Still Matters for Every Survivor
There are times in this work where you have to resist the urge to cuss everybody clean out. Just tell people the truth with no filter.
Tha [...]
Why ‘Being Loyal’ Shouldn’t Cost You Your Safety, Dignity, or Peace
One of my all-time favorite jazz tunes is "My Man."“My Man” is, in many ways, a love song about endurance, not just devotion.Billie Hol [...]
Male Access Supremacy: When Entitlement Disguises Itself as Equality
updated from July 31, 2025The Space Was Never the Argument. The Entitlement Was.
Survivor Affirmation
Every wo [...]
Columbus Day: As Long as You Know What You Are Celebrating
A letter from Michele de Cuneo, Columbus’ shipmate during his second voyage, talks about [...]
Pregnancy, Panic, and the Past: Supporting Survivors Through the Miracle of Birth
*Updated for 2025
When a close relative—let’s call her Morgan—announced her pregnancy, our entire fam [...]
When the Harm Comes from Another Child: Why We Must Take Intra-Child Sexual Abuse Seriously
Updated from Oct 2016.....
Sexual violence at the hands of children is just as destructive as any violation [...]
⚠️ Trigger Warning: Child Sexual Abuse, Victim-Blaming
Updated for 2025Updated from 2016: I was watching one of my favorite shows—Greenleaf on [...]
🌿 My Self-Soothe Journal
🌿 My Self-Soothe Journal
A Sacred Space to Tend to Your Spirit, Breath by Breath
There are moments when the world feels too loud… and your nervous [...]
Scapegoats Are Chosen, Not Found: How Harm Protects Itself by Blaming the Innocent
2026 marks 100 years of celebrating Black History month in the US. When people do evil, they rarely call it by its name.
Evil is not brave l [...]
When Did You Decide That Female Human Beings Are Not Even Worthy of Having a Word to Describe Themselves?
For your consideration:
Female erasure is hardly a new concept. It is estimated that nearly due to female infanticide and sex-selective [...]
Why We Must Stop Centering Discomfort Over Male-on-Male Sexual Violence
When a male accuses another male of sexual harassment or assault, what do we often hear first?“The worst part is people are going to call him ga [...]
