Women Tell Us Why They Didn’t Report Their Sexual Assault

Align:start I was 22 when I was raped I was 19 I was I was 22 when I was raped I was 19 I was I was 22 when I was raped I was 19 I was 20 I didn't rep

Align:start I was 22 when I was raped I was 19 I was I was 22 when I was raped I was 19 I was I was 22 when I was raped I was 19 I was 20 I didn’t report it for you know a 20 I didn’t report it for you know a 20 I didn’t report it for you know a thousand reasons a million reasons it thousand reasons a million reasons it thousand reasons a million reasons it was somebody I was involved with it was was somebody I was involved with it was was somebody I was involved with it was a friend of a friend my drug dealer met a friend of a friend my drug dealer met a friend of a friend my drug dealer met this photographer by myself I got very this photographer by myself I got very this photographer by myself I got very drunk I met some guy in this bar he drunk I met some guy in this bar he drunk I met some guy in this bar he started trying to kiss me and and I said started trying to kiss me and and I said started trying to kiss me and and I said no he takes my left leg and raises it on no he takes my left leg and raises it on no he takes my left leg and raises it on his shoulder he went to put his hand in his shoulder he went to put his hand in his shoulder he went to put his hand in my panties and I tried to kind of my panties and I tried to kind of my panties and I tried to kind of deflect his hand and that’s when he deflect his hand and that’s when he deflect his hand and that’s when he slapped my hand away I blacked out I was slapped my hand away I blacked out I was slapped my hand away I blacked out I was fighting like pretty hard at this point fighting like pretty hard at this point fighting like pretty hard at this point you’re saying no please don’t please you’re saying no please don’t please you’re saying no please don’t please don’t don’t don’t I came to internally I was shaking I was I came to internally I was shaking I was I came to internally I was shaking I was really trying to look as calm as really trying to look as calm as really trying to look as calm as possible and I could tell that something possible and I could tell that something possible and I could tell that something that I hadn’t wanted to happen happened that I hadn’t wanted to happen happened that I hadn’t wanted to happen happened he just he held me down and he forced he just he held me down and he forced he just he held me down and he forced himself inside me I was being pleasant himself inside me I was being pleasant himself inside me I was being pleasant and nice just so I could remain safe and and nice just so I could remain safe and and nice just so I could remain safe and get out of there and I kind of just ran get out of there and I kind of just ran get out of there and I kind of just ran out into the street with like my pants out into the street with like my pants out into the street with like my pants on inside out and my shoes off and he on inside out and my shoes off and he on inside out and my shoes off and he sat up and he looked at me and that was sat up and he looked at me and that was sat up and he looked at me and that was I guess the scariest moment for me I guess the scariest moment for me I guess the scariest moment for me because I could tell he was deciding because I could tell he was deciding because I could tell he was deciding whether he was actually going to stop or whether he was actually going to stop or whether he was actually going to stop or not and that was the moment that I not and that was the moment that I not and that was the moment that I realized that I had thought I was in realized that I had thought I was in realized that I had thought I was in control of a situation that I was not in control of a situation that I was not in control of a situation that I was not in control of it all and I blame myself for control of it all and I blame myself for control of it all and I blame myself for putting myself in that situation I knew putting myself in that situation I knew putting myself in that situation I knew that I had no proof I could hear that I had no proof I could hear that I had no proof I could hear people’s judgement saying well why did people’s judgement saying well why did people’s judgement saying well why did you do that it was your fault I was you do that it was your fault I was you do that it was your fault I was still in like physical pain from this still in like physical pain from this still in like physical pain from this and sitting there going oh well no one’s and sitting there going oh well no one’s and sitting there going oh well no one’s gonna believe me it was my word against gonna believe me it was my word against gonna believe me it was my word against his everyone was gonna go this girl just his everyone was gonna go this girl just his everyone was gonna go this girl just you know slept with this guy and changed you know slept with this guy and changed you know slept with this guy and changed her mind I wasn’t the perfect victim I her mind I wasn’t the perfect victim I her mind I wasn’t the perfect victim I figured who’s gonna believe some figured who’s gonna believe some figured who’s gonna believe some cokehead college girl I didn’t like try cokehead college girl I didn’t like try cokehead college girl I didn’t like try to fight him off or in slap him around to fight him off or in slap him around to fight him off or in slap him around or you know I didn’t pick up the phone or you know I didn’t pick up the phone or you know I didn’t pick up the phone and call 9-1-1 and call 9-1-1 and call 9-1-1 I didn’t know that I was important I didn’t know that I was important I didn’t know that I was important enough to draw boundaries around what enough to draw boundaries around what enough to draw boundaries around what people could and couldn’t do with my people could and couldn’t do with my people could and couldn’t do with my body we wants to come forward with the body we wants to come forward with the body we wants to come forward with the literal most violating thing that can literal most violating thing that can literal most violating thing that can happen to you relive it and then have happen to you relive it and then have happen to you relive it and then have people telling you that you’re making it people telling you that you’re making it people telling you that you’re making it up I thought I would just be better off up I thought I would just be better off up I thought I would just be better off trying to put this behind me trying to put this behind me trying to put this behind me I couldn’t imagine pressing charges and I couldn’t imagine pressing charges and I couldn’t imagine pressing charges and then having to sit in a courtroom and then having to sit in a courtroom and then having to sit in a courtroom and look at his face over and over I thought look at his face over and over I thought look at his face over and over I thought well you know that’s like giving him well you know that’s like giving him well you know that’s like giving him what he wants like I’m spending more what he wants like I’m spending more what he wants like I’m spending more time on him or say more energy on this I time on him or say more energy on this I time on him or say more energy on this I imagine and I think rightfully so that imagine and I think rightfully so that imagine and I think rightfully so that it would have been more dramatizing for it would have been more dramatizing for it would have been more dramatizing for me in many ways had I reported it it’s me in many ways had I reported it it’s me in many ways had I reported it it’s up to a survivor to decide what they do up to a survivor to decide what they do up to a survivor to decide what they do with their story it’s up to them if they with their story it’s up to them if they with their story it’s up to them if they want to report it or not I don’t want want to report it or not I don’t want want to report it or not I don’t want this to be part of who I am I hated this to be part of who I am I hated this to be part of who I am I hated myself a lot at the time we are violated myself a lot at the time we are violated myself a lot at the time we are violated we are harassed we are touched we’re we are harassed we are touched we’re we are harassed we are touched we’re trapped we’re scared and we just take a trapped we’re scared and we just take a trapped we’re scared and we just take a chip on the shoulder and we keep our chip on the shoulder and we keep our chip on the shoulder and we keep our lives going and that’s not fair to us lives going and that’s not fair to us lives going and that’s not fair to us and I think it would be wrong to tell and I think it would be wrong to tell and I think it would be wrong to tell them that they don’t get to decide what them that they don’t get to decide what them that they don’t get to decide what happens next

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With over 24 years of service, Tonya GJ Prince is a subject matter expert (SME) in domestic violence and sexual violence. She helps people heal, prevent, and overcome domestic and sexual violence.

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