….Avoid underestimating the fierce determination of a codependent person to fight hard and win battles for everyone except themselves.
….Try not to feel guilty for parting ways with someone after you realized it was the only way to save yourself.
….It is not wrong to fight hard for yourself.
Tonya GJ Prince
“Ever since people first existed, they have been doing all the things we label “codependent.”
They have worried themselves sick about other people.
They have tried to help in ways that didn’t help.
They have said yes when they meant no.
They have tried to make other people see things their way.
They have bent over backwards avoiding hurting people’s feelings and, in so doing, have hurt themselves.
They have been afraid to trust their feelings. They have believed lies and then felt betrayed.
They have wanted to get even and punish others.
They have felt so angry they wanted to kill.
They have struggled for their rights while other people said they didn’t have any.
They have worn sackcloth because they didn’t believe they deserved silk.”
― Melody Beattie, Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself
“If you live your life to please everyone else, you will continue to feel frustrated and powerless. This is because what others want may not be good for you. You are not being mean when you say NO to unreasonable demands or when you express your ideas, feelings, and opinions, even if they differ from those of others.”
If I could have had
I could have let
so to the nothing
“Many of us live in denial of who we truly are because we fear losing someone or something-and there are times that if we don’t rock the boat, too often the one we lose is ourselves…It feels good to be accepted, loved, and approved of by others, but often the membership fee to belong to that club is far too high of a price to pay.”
― Dennis Merritt Jones
“We Are Lovable
Even if the most important person in your world rejects you, you are still real, and you are still okay.”
“Don’t you see,” she would explain, “that when I see anything or do anything there is no joy in keeping it to myself?
I want to give everything to you.
If I am alone and I see a picture that I love, or I read some passage from a book, I think to myself there is no meaning in this unless he knows it too.
You are such a part of me that to stand alone leaves me dumb, without speech, without eyes. A tree with hatched branches, like someone with no hands.
Life is valueless unless I can share everything with you – beauty, ugliness, pain. There must be no shadows between us, no quiet corners in our hearts.”
― Daphne du Maurier, The Doll: The Lost Short Stories
“I didn’t want to deserve better as long as I had you.”
― Lidia Longorio, Hey Humanity
“People-pleasing is a very dangerous lifestyle. In the end you lose yourself in the needs of others.”
― Tracy A Malone
“When we care too much for a person that doesn’t care at all, we lose ourselves.
Never again should you allow to not be given to equally.”
― Tracy A Malone
“When you struggle with fear and trust issues, be aware that you may not trust yourself. You are the first person you must learn to trust.”
― Tracy A Malone
“Codependency has a way of tearing at the very soul of a person; of a society too, I think.”
― Karen Casey