I don’t care what people tell you, nor how many people say it. Women are under no obligation to engage in “sympathy/empathy” dating or sexual relations.
Completely ignore people who tell you that you have no right to your own personal preferences, standards, and values in relationships. Intimate, or otherwise.
These people will be nowhere to be found if going against your own instinct, values, preferences, and standards causes harm. If consequences arrive, no one will be there but people who really love and support you. Sometimes, that’s a grand total of….. just you.