When a close relative, Morgan*, announced her pregnancy our family was ecstatic! I had to hear hear every detail.By this time my own
She didn’t mind.
We stared at the sonogram pictures trying to figure out which family members this little princess looked like.
Not when she is sleepy. Not ever.
Morgan is a Survivor.
Morgan never talks about it.
Never, ever, ever, ever, never.
Some wouldn’t do this for Oprah’s money.
I know that something disturbing happened to her. But she doesn’t deal with it out in the open the way that I do.
No blog, speeches, and definitely not on social media.
We don’t mention it in front of her close friends because no matter how close they are I assume that she has not told them.
Morgan had always been private that way.
The panic attacks began when she found out that she was pregnant.
I got it.
She doesn’t want to feel less in control at this time.
She had answers. Okay. We came up with a few remedies.
Morgan took the lead.
Now Morgan is quite assertive in her own right. However, when she is triggered, she can begin to feel less like herself. Just the thought of this possibility was causing Morgan anxiety.
If you have a family member who is an advocate for you, you might consider having them there. Just because a person is a medical health professional does not mean that they will be sensitive and empathetic to the needs of sexual violence Survivors.
People can be tactless, lack knowledge, training, understanding, empathy and wisdom.
Unfortunately, these things can further damage a Survivor in the the process of healing.
It certainly isn’t easy for any woman whose body has unfortunately been the scene of a crime.
Oh, the possibilities.
Y‘all feel free to chime in about those possibilities! Suggestion? Stories? Ideas?