The Truth About Child’s Play and Child Sexual Abuse

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Before I typed this, I stared at the blinking cursor for quite some time.

A whole lot longer than it usually takes me. 

I still can’t believe how hard it is to talk about. As difficult as child sexual abuse is to talk about, I have to admit that it is easier when the person who abused you is an adult male. That is the template. That is only part of my experience.

It began with what I thought was child’s play. It turns out it was abuse. And because of that early abuse I was more vulnerable to further abuse. 
Yep.  It is true.  Child molesters are like sharks. They can detect the children who are likely to keep secrets, carry shame, carry guilt, and are confused about boundaries.

Early encounters with older children who sexually cross boundaries or violate a young child can be hazardous. I know this personally.

I also know this as one who has served as an expert and counselor to other Survivors for over the span of 20 years.

Many parents and caregivers warn children about the dangers of adults, but often don’t think about talking about playtime safety and boundaries. So, I found some great tips for parents and caregivers.

There is a great article that speaks directly to this online written by pediatrician Dr. William Sears, “Genital Play: What’s Normal, What’s Not”