Dear Future Feminists & Womanists: They Are Not Going to Like You

Follow tonyagjprince & wesurviveabuse   No matter how men identify, who they love, what their role is (or is supposed to be), how many wars they start, how many women & children they abuse & infect; men have the privilege of doing what they want with little thought to being likable, lovable, wifeable,  or sexually […]

Woman, You Are Enough

Follow tonyagjprince & wesurviveabuse “The process begins with the individual woman’s acceptance that American women, without exception, are socialized to be racist, classist and sexist, in varying degrees, and that labeling ourselves feminists does not change the fact that we must consciously work to rid ourselves of the legacy of negative socialization.” ― bell hooks, Ain’t I […]

Surviving Abuse Daily: About This Blaming Black Women for Violence Against Them

Follow tonyagjprince & wesurviveabuse Tis the season for people to blame Black independent, sex-positive, happy, Black women for the violence and abuse perpetrated against them. Avoid being fooled by ppl who want to make violence against Black women an issue of: “choosing the right man” “being modest” “being silent” “being less visible” “being more submissive” […]

Black Feminists: Using Our Minds to Win Battles!

Follow tonyagjprince & wesurviveabuse I forgive y’all for letting grief make you lose all your self-respect, home training, and logic. Let me remind you though. Black women are divine! If for no other reason, here’s this: Black women know and have always known how to live what Dr. King said: Disagree without being  “violently” disagreeable. […]

Do You Have a Question? Leave a message for WE Survive Abuse

Follow tonyagjprince & wesurviveabuse When we started blogging 10 years ago, a lot of things were different. One change?  The popularity of audio content has increased.  It happened around here too. With even more and better options for affordable listening devices, it can be easier, to just listen to information on the go, while running […]

How Good Parents Miss Child Sexual Abuse: The 5 Critical Questions You MUST Ask

Follow tonyagjprince & wesurviveabuse Update:  I published this during the summer months (2015). It spread rapidly across quite a few popular websites and I got a great deal of positive feedback.   May we get better every day at protecting children and keeping them safe.   How do good parents miss child sexual abuse? How do […]

Here Come New Ideas for Ending Self-Defeating Behaviors (audio incl)

Follow tonyagjprince & wesurviveabuse “Sometimes, we just have to learn how to get out of our own way.”    Attention: Looking to overcome self-sabotaging behaviors?… Feeling Fear? Self-concious? Feeling Socially Awkward? Have Bad Habits? WE have a guide for you!  How To Stop Self-Defeating Behaviors In 5 Steps…“ Inside this guide, you’ll discover: Discover […]

Survivor Questions: Is Financial Safety Planning Fair to Your Abusive Spouse?

Follow tonyagjprince & wesurviveabuse Advocates:  Put aside money and resources as you are safely able to do so. When advocates suggest putting money, aside there are people who wonder if this is the best solution. Morality Fact: Women, especially minority women of color are often expected to put everyone and everything before their own safety.   […]

It’s Anti-Black to Side Up with People Raping Community Members

Follow tonyagjprince & wesurviveabuse Myth:  “Where are the Black people to help Black people with sexual violence?” If you aren’t in the forums, social media platforms, events, legislative halls, courtrooms, emergency rooms, hospitals, streets, churches, fundraisers, battered women’s shelters, counseling offices, legal aid, hotlines- to see Black men & women toiling, sacrificing, working long hours […]

Let Me Tell You the Truth about Triggers (Audio)

Follow tonyagjprince & wesurviveabuse Tonya GJ Prince, founder of speaks truth about triggers and how they impact victims & Survivors of The death of an abuse Survivor and warrior for others inspired the following lessons about “triggers” How to support Survivors experiencing “triggers” How to educate society & people around us to make […]

The Myth of Unconditional Gratitude

Follow tonyagjprince & wesurviveabuse I wholeheartedly believe in the power and necessity of gratitude. I practice mindful gratitude on a daily basis. Gratitude is at the core of my faith and belief system. My default setting in life is gratitude to God for everything that he has done and keeps doing for me. Because of […]

This is Where WE Listen: Must Have Books on Domestic & Sexual Violence

Follow tonyagjprince & wesurviveabuse This is Where WE Listen Stories on Domestic & Sexual Violence That Are Must Reads   Suggested by     Not That Bad Dispatches Culture Ebook Eloquent Rage Feminist Discovers Superpower E Speaking Truth Power Anita Hill Strange Justice Selling Clarence Thomas Asking Alarming Rise Culture About We Believe You […]

FAQ: Where Are All the Black Women When My New Favorite Viral News Story is Trending

Follow tonyagjprince & wesurviveabuse   Question:  Where are Black women who rally against abusive Black men when “XYZ crime” is committed against the community on this day? Answer: Every time you see a sexually violent crime go down/be reported and ask where the Black Women of #MeToo are, know this:    We are returning phone […]

How to Live a Healthy Life While Dealing with Unhealthy Circumstances (audio by Coach Shaun James)

Follow tonyagjprince & wesurviveabuse   Greetings,   It gives me great pleasure to introduce to some, and present to others, NLP Coach, Shaun James.  Shaun happens to be one of my closest friends and advisers. He is also to be someone who brings enlightenment, encouragement, and empowerment wherever he goes.   I welcome you to take a […]

20 Questions U Might Want to Ask Your Partner at Some Point in the Near Future: Conflict (Part 2) (Audio)

Follow tonyagjprince & wesurviveabuse In intimate relationships, conflicts are inevitable. Conflict has an undeserved bad reputation. But, conflicts aren’t a bad thing. They can be healthy. They can be safe. However, conflicts can become violent and dangerous when couples don’t have a plan for resolving conflicts safely. Here are  10 of 20 questions to help […]

Things to Remember if You’re a Survivor:  Self Confidence

Follow tonyagjprince & wesurviveabuse Things to Remember if You’re a Survivor:  Self Confidence Printable of this list     Nobody’s good at everything. In fact, the most accomplished people are only good at a few things.   No matter how much you accomplish or acquire, it won’t satisfy you unless you have self-confidence on the […]

A Critical Racist Mistake Even Non-Racists Make and How to Avoid It

Follow tonyagjprince & wesurviveabuse My son learned a valuable lesson in his early teens that millions of adults have yet to learn.  Don’t ever attempt to play tourist guide on a journey that you know little to nothing about. My son was your standard mischievous, fun loving, adorable, brilliant young gifted and black child.   One […]

Throwback Post…We Gotta Ask Pregnant Moms Who Are Survivors Better Questions

Follow tonyagjprince & wesurviveabuse When  a close relative, Morgan*,  announced her pregnancy our family was ecstatic!  I had to hear hear every detail. By this time my own pregnancy was like 15 years ago and I I was too young, sick, and terrified to appreciate the whole miracle. Yes, I was reliving my pregnancy through […]

No Gratitude, No Quilt: You May Never Fully Heal From Pain Without Gratitude

Follow tonyagjprince & wesurviveabuse Update! Several months ago, my mom asked me to buy her hair accessories similar to the ones that she once saw me wearing.  I did.   When I got there I asked for the money it cost me. Showed her the receipt and everything. (No, I don’t know what I was thinking. […]

How Survivors of Sexual & Domestic Violence Can Make History

Follow tonyagjprince & wesurviveabuse Fannie Lou Hamer! Motown! Dr. Martin Luther King Jr! Rosa Parks! Angela Davis! Eartha Kitt! Recy Taylor! Dr. Maya Angelou! Nina Simone! Dorothy Dandridge! Motown! Malcolm X!   Names you’ve heard. Just judging by who is mentioned during Black History Month, it might seem that, in order to make history one […]

What Racists and Child Rape Apologists Have in Common

Follow tonyagjprince & wesurviveabuse Seems like all you have to do is make one simple statement:   The problem of black men who prey upon black    girls/boys must be discussed and addressed.   Just that statement forces hell to come undone.   I don’t think that the child rape apologists realize just how much […]

How Survivors Can Preserve the Lessons from Their Experiences for Storytelling

Follow tonyagjprince & wesurviveabuse In order to tell your story, you are going to need the details. No one can tell your story like you can. And Survivors have some of the most fascinating stories ever. Why?   1.Stories of good vs. evil are of great interest to people from the time that they are […]

Why Does Society Make it Difficult for Survivors of Rape & Abuse to Come Forward? Part 2

Follow tonyagjprince & wesurviveabuse Why Does Society Make it Difficult for Survivors of Rape & Abuse to Come Forward? Part 1     7.  Every choice that you ever made (sexually) is scrutinized.  They have questions. Everybody.   Q: How many intimate partners have you had?   Q: How quickly do you usually decide to sleep […]

6 Smart Tactics to Help Survivors Strengthen Confidence

Follow tonyagjprince & wesurviveabuse People who have been abused often struggle with self-doubt.  Yeah. You can put up a tough exterior for everyone else.    Some days you can even fool yourself. The truth is. Words do hurt.    In fact, they have a way of leaving a brand on you, don’t they?  In order […]

What a Difference a Voice Makes

Follow tonyagjprince & wesurviveabuse I am the most talkative of my mother’s three children.  I think that is how I began to write.  Part enjoyment, but yeah, part necessity.   I was wearing people out.     But it wasn’t until the age of 19/20 that I came into my voice.   I remember looking […]