Category: SPEAK to Change

13 JUL

Why Silence Around Women’s Health is Potentially Deadly

Follow tonyagjprince & wesurviveabuse I’m concerned. I tend to become concerned whenever there is imposed silence around a critical issue. When I speak, my intention is never to be censorious. I don’t speak about women’s health issues because I don’t want all people to exist. I talk about women’s health issues because I exist in […]

25 NOV

A Gift for You Because You are Who WE are Grateful For….(FREE download)

Follow tonyagjprince & wesurviveabuse This year, my family will not be celebrating the Thanksgiving holiday that we were taught about in school.  Nevertheless, we value many of the traditions that came out of those stories.  This week we focus on coming together and counting our blessings.   You are who we are grateful for. We are […]

13 SEP

Do You Have a Question? Leave a message for WE Survive Abuse

Follow tonyagjprince & wesurviveabuse When we started blogging 10 years ago, a lot of things were different. One change?  The popularity of audio content has increased.  It happened around here too. With even more and better options for affordable listening devices, it can be easier, to just listen to information on the go, while running […]

12 AUG

How Good Parents Miss Child Sexual Abuse: The 5 Critical Questions You MUST Ask

Follow tonyagjprince & wesurviveabuse Update:  I published this during the summer months (2015). It spread rapidly across quite a few popular websites and I got a great deal of positive feedback.   May we get better every day at protecting children and keeping them safe.   How do good parents miss child sexual abuse? How do […]

14 JUL

How the Turntables Turned: Sexuality in Hip Hop

Follow tonyagjprince & wesurviveabuse Update: August 8, 2020  …..What happened to everyone being cool w/sex in hip hop when beautiful women were in the background & draped all over male rappers?   So recently a Black hip-hop legend-producer, songwriter, and record company owner talked about his concern that hip hop was now being led by  […]

28 JUN

It’s Anti-Black to Side Up with People Raping Community Members

Follow tonyagjprince & wesurviveabuse Myth:  “Where are the Black people to help Black people with sexual violence?” If you aren’t in the forums, social media platforms, events, legislative halls, courtrooms, emergency rooms, hospitals, streets, churches, fundraisers, battered women’s shelters, counseling offices, legal aid, hotlines- to see Black men & women toiling, sacrificing, working long hours […]

07 JUN

Let Me Tell You the Truth about Triggers (Audio)

Follow tonyagjprince & wesurviveabuse Tonya GJ Prince, founder of WESurviveAbuse.com speaks truth about triggers and how they impact victims & Survivors of WESurviveAbuse.com The death of an abuse Survivor and warrior for others inspired the following lessons about “triggers” How to support Survivors experiencing “triggers” How to educate society & people around us to make […]

13 MAY

The Myth of Unconditional Gratitude

Follow tonyagjprince & wesurviveabuse I wholeheartedly believe in the power and necessity of gratitude. I practice mindful gratitude on a daily basis. Gratitude is at the core of my faith and belief system. My default setting in life is gratitude to God for everything that he has done and keeps doing for me. Because of […]

22 MAR

FAQ: Where Are All the Black Women When My New Favorite Viral News Story is Trending

Follow tonyagjprince & wesurviveabuse   Question:  Where are Black women who rally against abusive Black men when “XYZ crime” is committed against the community on this day? Answer: Every time you see a sexually violent crime go down/be reported and ask where the Black Women of #MeToo are, know this:    We are returning phone […]

25 FEB

How to Live a Healthy Life While Dealing with Unhealthy Circumstances (audio by Coach Shaun James)

Follow tonyagjprince & wesurviveabuse   Greetings,   It gives me great pleasure to introduce to some, and present to others, NLP Coach, Shaun James.  Shaun happens to be one of my closest friends and advisers. He is also to be someone who brings enlightenment, encouragement, and empowerment wherever he goes.   I welcome you to take a […]

20 JAN

20 Questions U Might Want to Ask Your Partner at Some Point in the Near Future: Conflict (Part 2) (Audio)

Follow tonyagjprince & wesurviveabuse In intimate relationships, conflicts are inevitable. Conflict has an undeserved bad reputation. But, conflicts aren’t a bad thing. They can be healthy. They can be safe. However, conflicts can become violent and dangerous when couples don’t have a plan for resolving conflicts safely. Here are  10 of 20 questions to help […]

20 JAN

20 Questions U Might Want to Ask Your Partner at Some Point in the Near Future: Conflict (Part 1) (Audio)

Follow tonyagjprince & wesurviveabuse In intimate relationships, conflicts are inevitable. Conflict has an undeserved bad reputation. But, conflicts aren’t a bad thing. They can be healthy. They can be safe.  However, conflicts can become violent and dangerous when couples don’t have a plan for resolving conflicts safely. Here are 10 of 20 questions to help […]

17 OCT

Their Eyes Are Watching: Children witnessing domestic violence

Follow tonyagjprince & wesurviveabuse October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month.  WESurviveAbuse.com collaborated AndHeRestorethMySoulProject.org to bring awareness to how domestic violence impacts children.   Here is the video that we produced for the project founded by Darlene J. Harris.           Watch this video on YouTube.   Follow tonyagjprince & wesurviveabuse

28 JAN

Anti-Survivors: You will deal, We will Heal (Part 1)

Follow tonyagjprince & wesurviveabuse Even though Mama warned me that there would be days like this:                   When #MeToo took off I felt uplifted about the epidemic of sexual violence.  Inspired. Motivated. Hopeful. A great swell of healing was entering the atmosphere. I am very familiar with […]

21 JAN

Imperfect Victims: How Hard Is It to BE a Good Person? (audio episode)

Follow tonyagjprince & wesurviveabuse Gabrielle Douglas received a lot of criticism when she victim blamed her Olympic teammate who disclosed sexual abuse. Criticism continued even after Gabrielle revealed that she too was sexually abused. This episode addresses imperfect Survivors. Host, Tonya GJ Prince shares her own story of being an imperfect Survivor.   Listen here–>>  […]

05 JUN

A Critical Racist Mistake Even Non-Racists Make and How to Avoid It

Follow tonyagjprince & wesurviveabuse My son learned a valuable lesson in his early teens that millions of adults have yet to learn.  Don’t ever attempt to play tourist guide on a journey that you know little to nothing about. My son was your standard mischievous, fun loving, adorable, brilliant young gifted and black child.   One […]

29 FEB

How Survivors of Sexual & Domestic Violence Can Make History

Follow tonyagjprince & wesurviveabuse Fannie Lou Hamer! Motown! Dr. Martin Luther King Jr! Rosa Parks! Angela Davis! Eartha Kitt! Recy Taylor! Dr. Maya Angelou! Nina Simone! Dorothy Dandridge! Motown! Malcolm X!   Names you’ve heard. Just judging by who is mentioned during Black History Month, it might seem that, in order to make history one […]

23 DEC

What Racists and Child Rape Apologists Have in Common

Follow tonyagjprince & wesurviveabuse Seems like all you have to do is make one simple statement:   The problem of black men who prey upon black    girls/boys must be discussed and addressed.   Just that statement forces hell to come undone.   I don’t think that the child rape apologists realize just how much […]

15 DEC

Sexual Violence Against Males: No Video, No Witnesses, and It IS Killing Them

Follow tonyagjprince & wesurviveabuse So last night I was twitter watching one of my favorite shows. Yep, it is a crime show. You can read about the story here: What I want to talk about is the reaction on social media. **Emotions High As Former Bloomfield Football Player Sentenced In Fatal Stabbing Myths about Teen […]

10 DEC

How to Get the Truth Around Obstacles of Myths, Lies, & Distraction: Infographics

Follow tonyagjprince & wesurviveabuse Let Me Tell It I once worked as the sexual assault Outreach Advocate for the state of Virginia.    Here is what I learned.  What one thing that I learned is that no human being can tell everyone’s story. It is just impossible.   It is why I like to build platforms […]

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03 DEC

How to Break Through Group Think and Get Your Message Delivered

Follow tonyagjprince & wesurviveabuse You might have heard of a concept called “group think”. Short version: It means when everyone goes along in the same direction because that is what they are used to.  They almost do it habitually.  Like a routine They forgot ‘why’ a long time ago.  In fact, the ‘why’ doesn’t even matter […]

20 NOV

How Survivors Can Preserve the Lessons from Their Experiences for Storytelling

Follow tonyagjprince & wesurviveabuse In order to tell your story, you are going to need the details. No one can tell your story like you can. And Survivors have some of the most fascinating stories ever. Why?   1.Stories of good vs. evil are of great interest to people from the time that they are […]

18 NOV

Survivors Have the Right to Tell Their Stories

Follow tonyagjprince & wesurviveabuse Silence You have the right to remain silent. I learned about the Miranda rights case in my 8th grade Civics class. Great lesson. Remaining silent can actually keep you out of prison. Got it. That was pretty easy. That went right along with the family’s commandment. “Don’t put all your business in the street.” […]

26 SEP

What’s In a Name: A Survivor of Child Sexual Abuse names Her Rapist

Follow tonyagjprince & wesurviveabuse Did I tell y’all about that time that they printed a speech  I delivered in public in the paper?  Well, that isn’t even the most interesting part.  The most interesting part was deciding whether or not to name the child rapist from my past. I bring this up because of this […]

23 SEP

Why Does Society Make it Difficult for Survivors of Rape & Abuse to Come Forward? Part 2

Follow tonyagjprince & wesurviveabuse Why Does Society Make it Difficult for Survivors of Rape & Abuse to Come Forward? Part 1     7.  Every choice that you ever made (sexually) is scrutinized.  They have questions. Everybody.   Q: How many intimate partners have you had?   Q: How quickly do you usually decide to sleep […]

16 JUL

What a Difference a Voice Makes

Follow tonyagjprince & wesurviveabuse I am the most talkative of my mother’s three children.  I think that is how I began to write.  Part enjoyment, but yeah, part necessity.   I was wearing people out.     But it wasn’t until the age of 19/20 that I came into my voice.   I remember looking […]

01 JUL

5 Reasons Why the Silence Around Abuse Isn’t Golden

Follow tonyagjprince & wesurviveabuse They say “silence is golden”.  No, it isn’t, it’s tarnished and rusty on the edges.  At least when it comes to abuse it is. Allow me to show my work: Backstory: A few months ago I was visiting a family member.  One day when my son was about 7, he was walking home […]