What is Grooming and What are the Signs | Hands Off Initiative

Follow tonyagjprince & wesurviveabuse Grooming as a concept is familiar to a lot of people, though they have never consciously defined it as grooming. In her 2017 article for Allure, Emma Sarran Webster describes it as an abuse tactic, quoting Eric Garrison’s definition – “Grooming is the slow, methodical, and intentional process of manipulating a […]

The Excuses: Friends, Fam, & Loved Ones Making Excuses for Accused Rapists(video)

Follow tonyagjprince & wesurviveabuse There is a wise Czech proverb that says: “Do not protect yourself by a fence, but rather by your friends.” Rapists always have friends. It helps them to blend in with people who don’t rape other people. It also gives them nearly bulletproof protection from accusations of rape. When someone makes […]

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An Overlooked Fact: Men Are Working to End Rape Too! (Part 1)

Follow tonyagjprince & wesurviveabuse We always encourage folks to speak out about violence. Always, always, always.  AND, It is critical to both personal and community growth and healing that women and girls continue to have repeated discussions around how sexual violence impacts them differently in society. Fact: Sexual violence can and does happen to anyone. […]

It’s Anti-Black to Side Up with People Raping Community Members

Follow tonyagjprince & wesurviveabuse Myth:  “Where are the Black people to help Black people with sexual violence?” If you aren’t in the forums, social media platforms, events, legislative halls, courtrooms, emergency rooms, hospitals, streets, churches, fundraisers, battered women’s shelters, counseling offices, legal aid, hotlines- to see Black men & women toiling, sacrificing, working long hours […]

Because Privilege Still Buys Passes in the Criminal Justice System: Castration Laws

Follow tonyagjprince & wesurviveabuse As a Black Woman, and long-time advocate against child sexual abuse I have concerns about laws making it legal to castrate perpetrators of rape against children. Of course, I am Always on the side of victims, especially child victims. That said, such laws have never made Black communities safer.  Instead, these […]

Anti-Survivors: You will deal, We will Heal (Part 1)

Follow tonyagjprince & wesurviveabuse Even though Mama warned me that there would be days like this:                   When #MeToo took off I felt uplifted about the epidemic of sexual violence.  Inspired. Motivated. Hopeful. A great swell of healing was entering the atmosphere. I am very familiar with […]