How to Care for Your Black Friends Without Making Yourself a Burden

Follow tonyagjprince & wesurviveabuse Here’s a fact you’re going to have to understand: You actually might mess up. But here’s how to make sure your actions and intentions come from the right place. Source: How to Care for Your Black Friends Without Making Yourself a Burden   Follow tonyagjprince & wesurviveabuse

“No” Is A Whole Reason

Follow tonyagjprince & wesurviveabuse You don’t need a “reason” why you will not date, be intimate w/and/or have sex with someone. -Tonya GJ Prince #NoMeansNo #relationships #selfcare #LOVE #consent #empowerment    Watch this video on YouTube. Watch this video on YouTube. Watch this video on YouTube. Watch this video on YouTube.         […]

When it is Finally About You, Choose YOU (video)

Follow tonyagjprince & wesurviveabuse I don’t care what people tell you, nor how many people say it. Women are under no obligation to engage in “sympathy/empathy” dating or sexual relations. Completely ignore people who tell you that you have no right to your own personal preferences, standards, and values in relationships. Intimate, or otherwise. These […]

Why Silence Around Women’s Health is Potentially Deadly

Follow tonyagjprince & wesurviveabuse I’m concerned. I tend to become concerned whenever there is imposed silence around a critical issue. When I speak, my intention is never to be censorious. I don’t speak about women’s health issues because I don’t want all people to exist. I talk about women’s health issues because I exist in […]

Thoughts That Come to Mind When People Act Like Black Women are America’s Help

Follow tonyagjprince & wesurviveabuse Black women and Black gays were caught having fun again. We had just watched something beautiful. Something extraordinary. Something that was uplifting the entire Black diaspora, but especially Black Women around the globe.  They showed a few clips on the making of “our song”: “Brown Skin Girl”. Beyonce’s documentary: The Making […]

How Good Parents Miss Child Sexual Abuse: The 5 Critical Questions You MUST Ask

Follow tonyagjprince & wesurviveabuse Update:  I published this during the summer months (2015). It spread rapidly across quite a few popular websites and I got a great deal of positive feedback.   May we get better every day at protecting children and keeping them safe.   How do good parents miss child sexual abuse? How do […]

Here Come New Ideas for Ending Self-Defeating Behaviors (audio incl)

Follow tonyagjprince & wesurviveabuse “Sometimes, we just have to learn how to get out of our own way.”    Attention: Looking to overcome self-sabotaging behaviors?… Feeling Fear? Self-concious? Feeling Socially Awkward? Have Bad Habits? WE have a guide for you!  How To Stop Self-Defeating Behaviors In 5 Steps…“ Inside this guide, you’ll discover: Discover […]

The Bondage Breaker-Hypnotherapy For Overcoming Pain, Fear And Childhood Abuses To Attain Freedom By 

Follow tonyagjprince & wesurviveabuse The Bondage Breaker-Hypnotherapy For Overcoming Pain, Fear And Childhood Abuses To Attain Freedom By  WE Survive Abuse LINK PRESENTING YOUR HYPNOTHERAPY AUDIO FOR SUCCESS, ENLIGHTENMENT, AND ATTAINING FREEDOM…….. The Bondage Breaker-Hypnotherapy For Overcoming Pain, Fear And Childhood Abuses To Attain Freedom There is no danger in hypnotherapy but it is able […]

Let Me Tell You the Truth about Triggers (Audio)

Follow tonyagjprince & wesurviveabuse Tonya GJ Prince, founder of speaks truth about triggers and how they impact victims & Survivors of The death of an abuse Survivor and warrior for others inspired the following lessons about “triggers” How to support Survivors experiencing “triggers” How to educate society & people around us to make […]

The Myth of Unconditional Gratitude

Follow tonyagjprince & wesurviveabuse I wholeheartedly believe in the power and necessity of gratitude. I practice mindful gratitude on a daily basis. Gratitude is at the core of my faith and belief system. My default setting in life is gratitude to God for everything that he has done and keeps doing for me. Because of […]

FAQ: Where Are All the Black Women When My New Favorite Viral News Story is Trending

Follow tonyagjprince & wesurviveabuse   Question:  Where are Black women who rally against abusive Black men when “XYZ crime” is committed against the community on this day? Answer: Every time you see a sexually violent crime go down/be reported and ask where the Black Women of #MeToo are, know this:    We are returning phone […]

20 Questions U Might Want to Ask Your Partner at Some Point in the Near Future: Conflict (Part 2) (Audio)

Follow tonyagjprince & wesurviveabuse In intimate relationships, conflicts are inevitable. Conflict has an undeserved bad reputation. But, conflicts aren’t a bad thing. They can be healthy. They can be safe. However, conflicts can become violent and dangerous when couples don’t have a plan for resolving conflicts safely. Here are  10 of 20 questions to help […]

Things to Remember if You’re a Survivor:  Self Confidence

Follow tonyagjprince & wesurviveabuse Things to Remember if You’re a Survivor:  Self Confidence Printable of this list     Nobody’s good at everything. In fact, the most accomplished people are only good at a few things.   No matter how much you accomplish or acquire, it won’t satisfy you unless you have self-confidence on the […]

A Full List of Crisis Hotlines: Help is Near

Follow tonyagjprince & wesurviveabuse AIDS AIDS Hotline (800) FOR-AIDS American Social Health Association: Sexually Transmitted Disease Hotline (800) 227-8922 CDC AIDS Information (800) 232-4636 AIDS Info: Treatment, Prevention and Research (800) HIV-0440 National AIDS Hotline (800) 342-AIDS ALCOHOL Alcohol Hotline (800) 331-2900 Al-Anon for Families of Alcoholics (800) 344-2666 Alcohol and Drug Helpline (800) 821-4357 […]

Their Eyes Are Watching: Children witnessing domestic violence

Follow tonyagjprince & wesurviveabuse October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month. collaborated to bring awareness to how domestic violence impacts children.   Here is the video that we produced for the project founded by Darlene J. Harris.           Watch this video on YouTube.   Follow tonyagjprince & wesurviveabuse

Anti-Survivors: You will deal, We will Heal (Part 1)

Follow tonyagjprince & wesurviveabuse Even though Mama warned me that there would be days like this:                   When #MeToo took off I felt uplifted about the epidemic of sexual violence.  Inspired. Motivated. Hopeful. A great swell of healing was entering the atmosphere. I am very familiar with […]

Imperfect Victims: How Hard Is It to BE a Good Person? (audio episode)

Follow tonyagjprince & wesurviveabuse Gabrielle Douglas received a lot of criticism when she victim blamed her Olympic teammate who disclosed sexual abuse. Criticism continued even after Gabrielle revealed that she too was sexually abused. This episode addresses imperfect Survivors. Host, Tonya GJ Prince shares her own story of being an imperfect Survivor.   Listen here–>>  […]

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What the Church and People of Faith Can Do to Help Victims of Sexual and Domestic Violence

Follow tonyagjprince & wesurviveabuse Speak on It About 16 years ago I was sitting in service and Pastor Lance Watson was delivering an amazing sermon.  The sermon was on relationships in general.     Let’s just tell the truth and shame the devil. To be honest, I wasn’t in a relationship at the time, so this […]

No Gratitude, No Quilt: You May Never Fully Heal From Pain Without Gratitude

Follow tonyagjprince & wesurviveabuse Update! Several months ago, my mom asked me to buy her hair accessories similar to the ones that she once saw me wearing.  I did.   When I got there I asked for the money it cost me. Showed her the receipt and everything. (No, I don’t know what I was thinking. […]

How Survivors of Sexual & Domestic Violence Can Make History

Follow tonyagjprince & wesurviveabuse Fannie Lou Hamer! Motown! Dr. Martin Luther King Jr! Rosa Parks! Angela Davis! Eartha Kitt! Recy Taylor! Dr. Maya Angelou! Nina Simone! Dorothy Dandridge! Motown! Malcolm X!   Names you’ve heard. Just judging by who is mentioned during Black History Month, it might seem that, in order to make history one […]

What Racists and Child Rape Apologists Have in Common

Follow tonyagjprince & wesurviveabuse Seems like all you have to do is make one simple statement:   The problem of black men who prey upon black    girls/boys must be discussed and addressed.   Just that statement forces hell to come undone.   I don’t think that the child rape apologists realize just how much […]

How Survivors Can Preserve the Lessons from Their Experiences for Storytelling

Follow tonyagjprince & wesurviveabuse In order to tell your story, you are going to need the details. No one can tell your story like you can. And Survivors have some of the most fascinating stories ever. Why?   1.Stories of good vs. evil are of great interest to people from the time that they are […]

Survivors Have the Right to Tell Their Stories

Follow tonyagjprince & wesurviveabuse Silence You have the right to remain silent. I learned about the Miranda rights case in my 8th grade Civics class. Great lesson. Remaining silent can actually keep you out of prison. Got it. That was pretty easy. That went right along with the family’s commandment. “Don’t put all your business in the street.” […]

What’s In a Name: A Survivor of Child Sexual Abuse names Her Rapist

Follow tonyagjprince & wesurviveabuse Did I tell y’all about that time that they printed a speech  I delivered in public in the paper?  Well, that isn’t even the most interesting part.  The most interesting part was deciding whether or not to name the child rapist from my past. I bring this up because of this […]

Why Does Society Make it Difficult for Survivors of Rape & Abuse to Come Forward? Part 2

Follow tonyagjprince & wesurviveabuse Why Does Society Make it Difficult for Survivors of Rape & Abuse to Come Forward? Part 1     7.  Every choice that you ever made (sexually) is scrutinized.  They have questions. Everybody.   Q: How many intimate partners have you had?   Q: How quickly do you usually decide to sleep […]

6 Smart Tactics to Help Survivors Strengthen Confidence

Follow tonyagjprince & wesurviveabuse People who have been abused often struggle with self-doubt.  Yeah. You can put up a tough exterior for everyone else.    Some days you can even fool yourself. The truth is. Words do hurt.    In fact, they have a way of leaving a brand on you, don’t they?  In order […]

The Secret for Ending the Cycle of Abusive Relationships and Finding the Healthy One

Follow tonyagjprince & wesurviveabuse A few years ago I went to a few Washington Wizards games with my son. Now, I’m not big on sports.  My poor son had to explain every single moment of the game.    I’m not sure of the details, but I understand that in basketball, rebounds can be a good […]

What a Difference a Voice Makes

Follow tonyagjprince & wesurviveabuse I am the most talkative of my mother’s three children.  I think that is how I began to write.  Part enjoyment, but yeah, part necessity.   I was wearing people out.     But it wasn’t until the age of 19/20 that I came into my voice.   I remember looking […]

What takes so long: 7 Stages of Adjustment to Healing from Sexual Violence

Follow tonyagjprince & wesurviveabuse Oh, so that’s what that is for So, I’m watching tv the other day.  There is a show on that I like about people who work on a rescue unit in large city.  The squad goes to help a guy who was injured on the job. This character who was working on a […]