Women in the West Are Being Emotionally Abused And We Can't Keep Standing for It

 Globally, we are in an abusive relationship with males.  As a domestic violence advocate,  some of the most difficult calls and court cases...

 Globally, we are in an abusive relationship with males. 

As a domestic violence advocate,  some of the most difficult calls and court cases were from those women who were emotionally abused. 

They seemed to know that they were in crisis, but were not sure if they were overreacting. Meanwhile, their hair might be falling out, they had stress-related chronic illnesses, sleep issues, unexplained pain and weight fluctuations.  

They as if they were on the edge.

"But he doesn't hit me."

"You wouldn't understand him."

"He's different."

"He's special."

"He's had a hard life."

"People bullied him."

We tend to believe that this kind of abuse and man is more manageable. It will not lead to death. We can handle it. 

We are wrong. And the abusive male knows it the entire time. 

We are living through insanity and we are being told it is not happening.

This is psychological abuse. pic.twitter.com/NPmz5tHXOY

— Billy Bragg (@Serena_Partrick) July 19, 2024

 The hallmarks of psychological abuse, also known as emotional abuse, include various non-physical behaviors that aim to control, belittle, or manipulate another person. These behaviors can manifest in numerous ways:

Verbal Aggression: This includes insults, put-downs, and verbal threats.

Slurs

Threats to kill or rape that are dismissed because....she's a slur.

Shaming and Criticizing: Making the victim feel ashamed or constantly criticizing them.

Namecalling

Criticizing the looks of women and girls.

Mocking the looks of women and girls.

Manipulation and Control: Using emotions to manipulate or control the victim, such as guilt-tripping or dismissing their feelings.

You SHOULD feel empathy towards this man in the same way that you feel empathy towards women and girls because otherwise they will be sad. 

As a female human being, you do not get to speak on periods. Men can too. If you speak against that, you are "hateful" and "ugly". 

Blaming and Denial: Blaming the victim for the abuser’s behavior or denying any wrongdoing.

She deserves this because she is "hateful"= hurt my feelings or does not say what I want her to say. 

Humiliation and Ridicule: Humiliating or ridiculing the victim in private or public settings.

Black women are men.

Aren't you too ugly to even comment? (to any woman or girl)

You look like a man too.(to any woman or girl)

Isolation: Controlling who the victim can see or where they can go, often leading to social isolation.

Men who say that they are women can be in your private and individual spaces at any given moment. The impact restricts the movement of women and girls who want and need privacy.

Dismissiveness: Dismissing the victim’s thoughts, feelings, or needs as unimportant 

"You're just hateful"

"You're being a b...."

These behaviors can severely impact a person's mental and emotional well-being, often leading to long-term psychological trauma. 

We can pretend not to see it. 

Avoid the discussions on social media. 

But we know. 

Women know when we are not being treated with the dignity and respect that we deserve. 

That takes a toll on our health and well-being.