Read any comment section or social media platform on the topic of Nate Parker and his new film “The Birth of a Nation” and you will find the following phrases:
“I find it funny how just when…”
“How come none of this came out when….?”
“Why all of a sudden….?”
“You see the timing of this don’t you…..?
“This is mighty inconvenient timing…..”
A Crime of Distraction
Nothing new here.
Whenever a major scandal comes out involving a well-known person the general public grapples with the revolting reality of rape. One way that the public protects themselves from the inhumanity and grotesqueness, is to go into full-on group denial.
Many folks collectively decide that no matter what facts you put in front of them, the entire thing is a conspiracy meant to bring down a “rising star”.
6. When our relationship partners want us to be present.
But sometimes, WE can’t.
“None of my four wives understood why I couldn’t connect with them on a certain emotional level. It was as if I was watching every one of them travel through the same frustrating cycle.
I walked around feeling like someone else. I had this secret that I was going to take to the grave, but truly I felt like I was already dead inside. Truth was, I was a victim of rape.” -Steven
7. When WE see someone that looks exactly like the person that raped us.
“I went into counseling eight years ago because there was a world leader who looked just like one of the people who raped me. He was on the cover of magazines, newspapers, online, on the news- I couldn’t get away from this man.
It was driving me crazy!
I began remembering things about the rapes from my childhood that I thought I was done with. It was as if songs were playing over and over in my head that wouldn’t stop.
Yep, counselor time.” -Tonya
Rape is a distraction for victims of the crime.
So, victims and Survivors of the crime of rape, when has rape been a distraction in your life? As always, I encourage you to break the silence and share your experiences where you are comfortable.
This is the conversation that WE need to have.
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