“I learned how to stand up for myself from the civil rights movement. We learned from you.” Original post appeared 7/22/15 (updated) Tonya, did you know? Those were the words spoken to me by the then reigning Ms. Wheelchair VA many, many years ago. She and I had just presented a workshop together. I must tell you, though due to her disability, she doesn’t speak clearly. I
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At First I Was… When we have been wounded we must heal. To do that, I think we all use a combination of tools. Some of them are good for us. Some of them ain’t, okay. Some days, I recall the alarm disrupting my sleep, and the sun rudely throwing light into my bedroom. I didn’t feel like moving. I didn’t feel like talking. I didn’t want to separate my eyelids. I just didn’t
People against progress would like you to think that systemic rape of women of color ended with slavery. That is categorically untrue. Victims/Survivors know it. The perpetrators know it. And, our “allies” of all shades and genders know it. But on this first day of Black History Month I would like to honor a brave soul who fought against it with all that she had.
Today, my mind is tough, resilient, empathetic, compassionate, kind, loving, strategic, and wise. My physical health is a mess. I have my experiences with rape as a child to thank for that. Every time that I see the headlines panicking about the next health crisis that is out of control I do wonder if they are asking these people whether or not they have suffered trauma. “Alcoholism in Women” “Pain
Everyday silence harvests its victims. Silence is a mortal illness. ~Natalia Ginzberg Courage is what it takes to stand up and speak. Courage is also what it takes to sit down and listen. ~Winston Churchill When I liberate others, I liberate myself. ~Fannie Lou Hamer Law and justice are not always the same. ~Gloria Steinem The world exists on three things: truth, justice, and peace.~Hebrew Proverbs The miracle of the wicked
They say one of the number one reasons that marriages end is because of money. I understand that. When I first got married, money was a serious discussion. Right away one of our major differences was the way that we give to charities and causes. We absolutely did not support the same types of causes. So that caused friction. Him: You don’t even know what those people are doing with
It stings. It burns. It hurts like hell. You will never forget the pain. All wounds must be thoroughly cleaned in order to effectively heal. When I was a kid I cut my left knee on a metal sliding board. I remember screaming like somebody sliced my knee off. The gash was no bigger than a dime, but I was one of those kind of girls. Intense and dramatic. My
There are some ardent supporters of 2016 Presidential Candidate Bernie Sanders to whom the Black Lives Matters movement owes a debt of gratitude to. Unfortunately, it isn’t for the reasons that you might be happy about. If you weren’t online this Saturday evening through Sunday evening you were not aware that there was an online riot of sorts on Twitter. Friendly Fire This time it was not the Black
Something weird is going on. Here lately, every time that beautiful young women get into a feud white and/or black men come swooping out of nowhere to speak on the issues as if they are experts. Piers Morgan just decided to just call out Black Twitter. That’s fine. Free social media platform. The thing about it is, you know how you’re at home in the midst of something. Then someone
(revised from original post 7/1/15) After the RiceLila married Jack. Things were fairy tale for a long time. And then the abuse started. Then it stopped. Then it never stopped. Lila Lila was gorgeous. In a way that was genuinely unforgettable. Meet her one time and you would remember both her name and face forever. Lila was the adoring mother of two children with her husband of ten years, Jack.