When a close relative, Morgan*, announced her pregnancy our family was ecstatic! I had to hear hear every detail. By this time my own pregnancy was like 15 years ago and I I was too young, sick, and terrified to appreciate the whole miracle. Yes, I was reliving my pregnancy through her. She didn’t mind. I checked. I know I can get bossy and not in a good way all
My Granny had a saying, “You have got to reach up and git yo self, now.” She always said it with such a stern voice. I think because of that I missed the love that was within her message. She would say this to you if you were outwardly distressed, angry, anxious, or having some sort of breakdown. In fact, it was a common phrase said amongst older black southerners.
Trigger Warning What the heck is victim blaming anyway? So victim blaming is a term you hear from time to time.To be clear, when you say that you are doing it we mean that you are doing a bad thing. Yes we do.It means that you are unfairly ridiculing, shaming, name calling, harassing, and/or bullying, the alleged victim of a crime. What about Us? One might argue that people who more
Update! Several months ago, my mom asked me to buy her hair accessories similar to the ones that she once saw me wearing. I did. When I got there I asked for the money it cost me. Showed her the receipt and everything. (No, I don’t know what I was thinking. I do think I lost my mind though.) While visiting Mama, I went to buy some fried chicken from
Fannie Lou Hamer! Dr. Martin Luther King Jr! Rosa Parks! Angela Davis! Dr. Maya Angelou! Nina Simone! Malcolm X! Names you’ve heard. Just judging by who is mentioned during Black History Month, it might seem that, in order to make history one must make a name for oneself. That is how you make history. Right? Well my fellow Survivors I submit to you that though it may seem
revised from 2/22/16 Dorothy Dandridge When the Beyhive stings, it is in part because they are tired of losing talented Black women to racism. Women like, Dorothy Dandridge. But for racism, she would have had a career on par with Ava Gardner and Marilyn Monroe. I first discovered this beautiful woman in middle school. It was either Ebony or Essence magazine that had done a feature story on
“I learned how to stand up for myself from the civil rights movement. We learned from you.” Original post appeared 7/22/15 (updated) Tonya, did you know? Those were the words spoken to me by the then reigning Ms. Wheelchair VA many, many years ago. She and I had just presented a workshop together. I must tell you, though due to her disability, she doesn’t speak clearly. I
At First I Was… When we have been wounded we must heal. To do that, I think we all use a combination of tools. Some of them are good for us. Some of them ain’t, okay. Some days, I recall the alarm disrupting my sleep, and the sun rudely throwing light into my bedroom. I didn’t feel like moving. I didn’t feel like talking. I didn’t want to separate my eyelids. I just didn’t
People against progress would like you to think that systemic rape of women of color ended with slavery. That is categorically untrue. Victims/Survivors know it. The perpetrators know it. And, our “allies” of all shades and genders know it. But on this first day of Black History Month I would like to honor a brave soul who fought against it with all that she had.
Today, my mind is tough, resilient, empathetic, compassionate, kind, loving, strategic, and wise. My physical health is a mess. I have my experiences with rape as a child to thank for that. Every time that I see the headlines panicking about the next health crisis that is out of control I do wonder if they are asking these people whether or not they have suffered trauma. “Alcoholism in Women” “Pain
Readers, we are HERE! 2016! Let us be excited for great things to arrive. 25 New year’s RESOLUTIONs That will Bring you More Joy in 2016 A fresh year gives you the opportunity to make resolutions that will make your life happier in the upcoming year. Theplans you make for the next year matter, so you’ll want to carefully consider your resolutions. Consider these resolutions to fill your life
I don’t mind addressing celebrities in relation to issues of domestic & sexual violence who use their platforms to shame, intimidate, or otherwise bully alleged and/or actual victims. I don’t like that there is a necessity for it in this society. I don’t like that other groups and organizations remain selectively silent about some celebrities while extremely vocal about others. However, celebrities know very well what they are doing when they
I am thankful for every single reader, whether you agreed or disagreed. Whether you liked a post or hated a post. We sought to educate, inform, and start conversations. When it comes to domestic and sexual violence, it is just too silent. In 2015 some of our most popular posts were our quotes. We reviewed the numbers and the feedback. Here were the reader’s favorites: And Justice for….. 7 Great Quotes on Authentic Justice