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Tonya is a Social Justice Info Expert with over 23 years experience. She holds a BS in Organizational Management & Development. Her cat MiaBelle is her co-writer.
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https://youtu.be/alKsdijLhF4  Text Version Break out the Nail Polish! Take a little nail polish and dab a small dot on your cell phone. This is a reminder to calm down and relax before you answer your phone. Now, when you see that colored dot, pause, take a deep breath, and (optional) smile before you answer your phone or text. ALTERNATE:  Use a permanent marker instead of nail polish. Drink and Be

Watching Racism and Rape Work:  The Scripted Entertainment Industry

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  Watching  If you deny people a voice, their own voice, there’s no way you will every know who they were, and so they are erased. ~Alice Walker Activist Deray Mckesson has a saying, “Watch whiteness work.” Think of it as an alert, like “Breaking News”.     It has a lot of meaning in Black cultures. One meaning is:  pay attention to how racism, prejudice, and discrimination predictably come

Why Some Victims of Rape and Abuse Say It Never Happened 1

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Tonya is a Social Justice Info Expert with over 23 years experience. She holds a BS in Organizational Management & Development. Her cat MiaBelle is her co-writer.
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  After the loss When a victim of sexual violence reports that someone raped them they might want to press charges.  At first.But then…….As time goes on they may begin to pull away and become less cooperative.With everyone.Medical professionals. Law enforcement. Prosecution. Even advocates. And, even their own friends & family.DoubtSo because of this,  somewhere along the line folks start to wonder. Maybe they are not telling the truth? People

One of the Worst Pieces of Advice I Was Ever Given about Surviving Child Sexual Abuse

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Tonya is a Social Justice Info Expert with over 23 years experience. She holds a BS in Organizational Management & Development. Her cat MiaBelle is her co-writer.
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I am a voracious reader.  As early as I can recall my mother required that all three of her children read at least two books at a time daily.   I don’t recall being read to as a child. I only recall asking my mother how to pronounce multiple syllable words.  Over the years, I have connected with many children of color who share the same stories.     But

An Open Secret for Ending the Cycle of Abusive Relationships and Finding the Healthy One

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Tonya is a Social Justice Info Expert with over 23 years experience. She holds a BS in Organizational Management & Development. Her cat MiaBelle is her co-writer.
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So yesterday I posted about ending the cycle of abusive relationships in a person’s personal life and finding the healthy one.   Well later in the day, I read this post from author Olevia Henderson.  Oh, it blessed my soul. It was also the perfect compliment to the post from yesterday.  She came in through a different entrance and I was so here for that!  I thank her so much

Survivor Affirmation: I Love Myself Because (video)

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  Love Me Hate Me Dear LORD, please Bless us ALL cause this is ME! People think that you should get over being a victim of violence because they think that nothing of value was taken.   Not like a car, large screen t.v., computer or anything valuable like that.  Nothing you can put down on a police report, right? Victims/Survivors are robbed of things that can never be replaced.

Survivor Affirmation: I Can Make a Difference!

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  I can make a difference I have the ability to make a difference. I have skills, talents, and I overcame tragedy of the worst kind.   Most importantly, I want to make a difference. That alone makes it highly likely that I can make a difference. I do things to make a difference each day. It is part of who I am. The lives of my family and friends

10 Excellent Memoirs about the Sexual Violence Survivor's Journey

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Glad to see that we are in a season of listening to the powerful voices of Survivors.  Excellent!  What is most unfortunate is that there are so many out there.  This week I gathered up a cross section of a few memoirs that I have read about the healing journey.  Each one is truly authentic.  I don’t think that any two are the same.  While it isn’t “good” that they

Why Does Society Make it Difficult for Survivors of Rape & Abuse to Come Forward? Part 2

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Read any comment section or social media platform on the topic of Nate Parker and his new film “The Birth of a Nation” and you will find the following phrases: “I find it funny how just when…” “How come none of this came out when….?” “Why all of a sudden….?” “You see the timing of this don’t you…..? “This is mighty inconvenient timing…..” A Crime of Distraction ‘ Nothing new

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Purpose of Counseling in Abuse 1. Understand and obtain validation that the abuse was a violation.        2.  Confront and acknowledge the pain and hurt of the abuse. 3.  Increase awareness of your worth, personal value, and confidence, which may have been eroded by the sexual violence. 4.  Overcome feelings of guilt and/or shame. 5.  Recognize how sexual violence is impacting current relationships and make changes. 6.  Deal with

Are Children Capable of Attracting Rape?

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Trigger Warning  So….I happened to watching a show that I enjoy immensely. It was “Greenleaf” on OWN. I love that show!  Actually, I was tweet watching it. You know, where you are watching it on television while enjoying the comments on Twitter. Anyway, there was a scene between a teenage girl and a leader of the church.   His character is a suspected serial pedophile who happens to be around the

Who Else Is a Reliable Source of Guilt and Shame In Survivors of Rape?

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People who pressure Survivors to tell a single story. via GIPHYEx:  Black Survivors are not allowed to tell how slavery impacted our black families. Even though this is a core reason why generation after generation, in some family units, you can talk about any other social ill.  However, you may never speak about rape.The damage still continues to this very day. Silence is a shield, a flawed one, but effective nonetheless. Besides,

6 Ways Feminists Like Lena Dunham May Be Impeding Progress in the Fight Against Rape & Child Sexual Abuse

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1. Distractions I have my own sentiments about “triggers”. As a black woman, no one puts bumper guards around the world for me.  So, I just am not accustomed to expecting them to be there because I endured multiple rapes for a significant portion of my childhood.  However, when it comes to trauma, I do recognize, acknowledge, and respect the needs of others to have them in place.    I