Ask a Sex Abuse Survivor

Perhaps you recall my post from a few weeks back titled, “What a Difference a Voice Makes”.  I talked about how important it is for Survivors to hear the voices of other Survivors. It is also important that everyone gets an opportunity to hear from the voices of Survivors.  It provides our society with access to knowledge […]

Deadly Denial: How to Keep Someone Else’s Thinking Errors from Destroying YOUR LIfe

This week there was an uproar over the racial background of activist Shaun King.  The entire thing was strange to me. My American story isn’t unique for black folks.   He looks more like my mother than any of me and my two siblings.   My maternal family has an interesting history when it comes […]

6 FAQ by Parents & Caretakers about Child Sexual Abuse

Today, I would like to speak to the parents and caretakers of children.   I realize that some of them might be a bit concerned.  When someone who seemed “normal” turns out to be an enemy of children, parents get anxious.  I don’t blame them.   One of my favorite audiences to speak in front […]

Did You Hear the Joke about Blue Ivy, Brown Girls & Sexual Abuse? ME NEITHER

People have read my writing or seen me speak publically and they are often surprised at how different I can be in social situations.     In real life, I have been known to be so quiet in a room filled with people that others have told me that they were uncomfortable. I’m just an introvert.   […]

What You Must Know About Campus Sexual Assault Right Now

When I checked out the news this morning, there was a story about a sexual assault on a well known university near my home.  Sigh….. It is that time of year again isn’t it?  So I decided to share with readers a page that they can bookmark and get a great deal of information from. […]

What Happens When People Mistake a Movement for a Moment

There are some ardent supporters of 2016 Presidential Candidate Bernie Sanders to  whom the Black Lives Matters movement owes a debt of gratitude to.   Unfortunately, it isn’t for the reasons that you might be happy about.  If you weren’t online this Saturday evening through Sunday evening you were not aware that there was an online […]

The Secret for Ending the Cycle of Abusive Relationships and Finding the Healthy One

A few years ago I went to a few Washington Wizards games with my son. Now, I’m not big on sports.  My poor son had to explain every single moment of the game.    I’m not sure of the details, but I understand that in basketball, rebounds can be a good thing.  All I know […]

World Wide Web Roundup for Survivors, Allies, and Friends

This week we have headlines, a tool kit, latest research studies, and a “new to me” online resource. HEADLINES  FBI: Child Abuse ‘Almost at an Epidemic Level’ in U.S.Tens of thousands of children are being sexually exploited each year in the U.S., according to an investigation by the BBC.Is it easier to open up about […]

5 Reasons Why I Wish Racism was a Mental Health Disorder

Updated: Oh for goodness sakes! I  keep hearing this stuff buzzing around again.  Every time certain folks commit violent crimes people start up with mental illness as a reason. Let me say this.  Most people with mental health disorders have the deepest capacity for empathy that I have ever seen.  There is no rush to forgive. […]

The Great Submission Hoax

Imagine being in a room of, I don’t know, 30-50 people, and you hear this:   “Oh my goodness, that sounds sooo hard. What do you think we should do about this?”  No, it wasn’t something dirty. But then again….. I don’t know.  I’m still messed up about it. We were doing dirty work. Social justice work […]

The Dirty Truth about Celeb Men in the Media Coming to the Rescue

Something weird is going on. Here lately, every time that beautiful young women get into a feud white and/or black men come swooping out of nowhere to speak on the issues as if they are experts. Piers Morgan just decided to just call out Black Twitter.  That’s fine.  Free social media platform. The thing about […]

Tellin Ya Something Good Tuesday: Stop It Now Prevention Tools

Tellin Ya Something Good Tuesday: Stop It Now Prevention Tools

Featured Resource:  Stop It Now is one of my favorite resources for parents, teachers, caretakers-everybody! I am devoting this post to their library of Prevention Tools.  You must check it out.  They have printable tip sheets for families, daycare safety, warning signs, and talking tips. They also offer guidebooks. Please stop by.  Bookmark this page. […]

What a Difference a Voice Makes

I am the most talkative of my mother’s three children.  I think that is how I began to write.  Part enjoyment, but yeah, part necessity.   I was wearing people out.   But it wasn’t until the age of 19/20 that I came into my voice. I remember looking at Marilyn Van Derbur’s professional headshot […]

World Wide Roundup of This Week's Best Online Content Related to Rape & Abuse

World Wide Roundup of This Week’s Best Online Content Related to Rape & Abuse

Come under the Light The Sex Abuse to Prison Pipeline: How Girls of Color are Unjustly Arrested and Incarcerated Why Aren’t More Crisis Hotlines Offering Chat-Based Help? New Tool Will Soon Be Available Aimed At Helping Parents of Sexually Abused Kids Empathy is Actually a Choice Health and Wellness 10 Ways to Take Care of Ourselves […]

6 Quotes to Refill Survivors When Society Drains Us

I was so drained this weekend.  But it is going to be alright. All of this fragmented knowledge about sexual violence is wearing me out! As the beloved old folks around my way used to say, “Look at you, all loud and wrong.”  And that meant they were through entertaining your foolishness.  Listen, if you […]

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