Sexual violence at the hands of children is just as destructive as any violation by an adult. It is hard being the victim of an older child. In the back of our collective mind, our society still thinks that it is less harmless to be violated by a child than by an adult. I spoke to a woman who came to talk to meet with me wearing a restaurant uniform.
I am a voracious reader. As early as I can recall my mother required that all three of her children read at least two books at a time daily. I don’t recall being read to as a child. I only recall asking my mother how to pronounce multiple syllable words. Over the years, I have connected with many children of color who share the same stories. But
So every night my mother would come to tuck me in at night. Every night without fail. And every night without fail, this would happen. She would come to my bed, look it over and say, “My goodness Tonya! With all of these dolls and animals, where do you plan to sleep?” Listen, I would figure that out later. What was important to me was that, the many dolls and
So yesterday I posted about ending the cycle of abusive relationships in a person’s personal life and finding the healthy one. Well later in the day, I read this post from author Olevia Henderson. Oh, it blessed my soul. It was also the perfect compliment to the post from yesterday. She came in through a different entrance and I was so here for that! I thank her so much
Change must begin with WE Statistics are very important to social justice work. BUT, stories are the real tools of change. With stories, one lone voice can change a person’s entire life.Most of my readers know that Survivor Marilyn Van Debur Atler is one of the first persons to inspire me to speak about the unspeakable.See post: What a Difference a Voice Makes Every Survivor is unique So,
Now last week WE posted the affirmation: Survivor Affirmation: I Can Make a Difference! Well, WE like to show that Survivors do make a difference. WE make a difference every single day in countless ways. In this post, WE highlight two Survivors who are making a tremendous difference to help other victims/Survivors. Meet: Neil Brick and Nancy Kilgore MS [press release] Neil Brick, Editor of S.M.A.R.T. Newsletter, Celebrates Twenty Years
Love Me Hate Me Dear LORD, please Bless us ALL cause this is ME! People think that you should get over being a victim of violence because they think that nothing of value was taken. Not like a car, large screen t.v., computer or anything valuable like that. Nothing you can put down on a police report, right? Victims/Survivors are robbed of things that can never be replaced.
I can make a difference I have the ability to make a difference. I have skills, talents, and I overcame tragedy of the worst kind. Most importantly, I want to make a difference. That alone makes it highly likely that I can make a difference. I do things to make a difference each day. It is part of who I am. The lives of my family and friends
Glad to see that we are in a season of listening to the powerful voices of Survivors. Excellent! What is most unfortunate is that there are so many out there. This week I gathered up a cross section of a few memoirs that I have read about the healing journey. Each one is truly authentic. I don’t think that any two are the same. While it isn’t “good” that they
Update: I published this during the summer months (2015). It spread across quite a few websites and I got a great deal of positive feedback. However, some parents & caretakers commented indirectly that certain portions of the post were unclear. I couldn’t let that stand. The purpose of the post was to inform. If y’all didn’t feel fully informed then I haven’t done my job. So I
The Truth About Rape & Distraction That No One is Talking About: Part 1 So to continue, when we talk about rape the conversation always turns to ……how distracting and problematic it is for the rapist. A large swath of our population takes to social media, and any available microphone to go on and on about ……the burden the rapist must bear. …how hard it is for he/she
Read any comment section or social media platform on the topic of Nate Parker and his new film “The Birth of a Nation” and you will find the following phrases: “I find it funny how just when…” “How come none of this came out when….?” “Why all of a sudden….?” “You see the timing of this don’t you…..? “This is mighty inconvenient timing…..” A Crime of Distraction ‘ Nothing new
I am able to hear my intuition speak during difficult times. During difficult times, I listen to my intuition and follow its advice. My intuition guides me to the answers to my issues. It provides calm and clear instructions for action. It is a powerful assistant on my journey to happiness. I know the difference between my intuition’s voice and my mind’s general voice. I can tell them apart and