New Measures to Combat Sexual Violence College campuses should be safe places where all students are free to focus on the joy of learning, forge lasting friendships, and explore the interests that lead to lifelong callings and careers. Even one sexual assault at our nation’s colleges and universities is too many. This is an issue of great concern for President Obama, Vice President Biden, and all of us at the
Tonight I am angry. That isn’t my default setting though. Usually, I smile so much that I have to consciously tell myself not to do it. That ain’t happening today. For the past 2 years or so I have heard you loud and clear. You didn’t believe all those women when they said that they were raped and drugged. But tonight you learned that Bill Cosby himself said that he
Self-doubt. I think that one reason that some people can’t understand sexual violence is they don’t understand just how complicated it really is. Some people think that after the physical assault, you should be emotionally hurt for a bit maybe. But you’ll be fine, or rather you should be. But WE know that sexual abuse & rape leaves you with scars that can last for a very long time.
30 years ago a sad, lonely, depressed, fragile 13-year old girl announced to a living room holding a few of her closest relatives in it that she was molested by two people. Actually it was three, but since the first one was a teenager she didn’t know that he counted as well. That 13-year-old was me. Molested. I just got that word from a television movie called, “Something about Amelia.” Actually
I know. This time of year the kids are here, there, and everywhere. No school means they have a lot of time on their hands. Mama can we go…..? Dad can we go……? I don’t mean to terrify you even more than you already are but…. Here are the bigger questions? Is your child going to play with another child where a sex offender happens to reside with another adult?
From: www.domesticshelters.orgDomestic violence is a crime no one is immune to. No matter a person’s class, status or background, abuse still chooses a victim every nine seconds in the U.S. And when that victim is an illegal immigrant, they often think they have nowhere to turn. Afraid of deportation, they stay silent, enduring the violence regardless of how severe it becomes. In May of this year, a 25-year-old undocumented immigrant victim
Abusers control. That’s their No. 1 tactic to keep domestic abuse survivors simultaneously afraid of them and yet reluctant to leave them. Be it controlling a survivor’s ability to go places, hold a job or access money, see friends or family, keep their children, what sexual decisions to make, or, by using some other form of mental control to make the victim feel dependent on their abuser, they are all
Yesterday there was a discussion on a social media page that I follow. Suicide. That’s what we were discussing. There was this one guy who was leaning in on the point that suicide is an option for some. He seemed to assert that for some the pain is so great that is a valid option. A few of us women attempted to disagree with only mild to moderate emotion. Eventually,
So, I met this beautiful woman, Delores.You know she is the only person I have ever come across who hates trees.Who hates trees?Well to her, trees represent pain.When she was a little girl if she did something wrong there was a penalty. She had to go out into the yard and pull off a skinny branch from one of the trees in the yard. Then take that skinny branch to
Before I typed this, I stared at the blinking cursor for quite some time. A whole lot longer than it usually takes me. I still can’t believe how hard it is to talk about. As difficult as child sexual abuse is to talk about, I have to admit that it is easier when the person who abused you is an adult male. That is the template. That is only part of
(revised from original post 7/1/15) After the RiceLila married Jack. Things were fairy tale for a long time. And then the abuse started. Then it stopped. Then it never stopped. Lila Lila was gorgeous. In a way that was genuinely unforgettable. Meet her one time and you would remember both her name and face forever. Lila was the adoring mother of two children with her husband of ten years, Jack.
Oh come on. Surely someone must be. I mean with all of these defenders there has to be.Just this week yet another high profile celebrity apologized for abusing “underage” girls. (PR speak for kids.)And there it was. Right on time. The swift embrace of child sexual abusers.Picture the biblical story of the Prodigal son. When rapists and/or abusers come forward people seem to want to break out words like:“forgiveness”“well, at least”“sounds
The Pied PiperWhen I was a kid, there was a “children’s story” that scared me to death.The Pied Piper was a story based on a legend about the disappearance of departure or death of nearly all of the children from a town in Germany during the Middle Ages.He was a charismatic figure who was hired by the mayor of a small town to drive out the rats who had overrun the town.