On suicide awareness days it isn’t always the person suffering that we need to address. Not everyone is compassionate. Not everyone is compassionate every day. I tell this story because not everyone survives to tell their story. They are gone now and you don’t know that they reached out for help. Only, “help” failed them that day. I’ll never forget the day that I asked someone to drop me off
My Granny had a saying, “You have got to reach up and git yo self, now.” She always said it with such a stern voice. I think because of that I missed the love that was within her message. She would say this to you if you were outwardly distressed, angry, anxious, or having some sort of breakdown. In fact, it was a common phrase said amongst older black southerners.
Trigger Warning What the heck is victim blaming anyway? So victim blaming is a term you hear from time to time.To be clear, when you say that you are doing it we mean that you are doing a bad thing. Yes we do.It means that you are unfairly ridiculing, shaming, name calling, harassing, and/or bullying, the alleged victim of a crime. What about Us? One might argue that people who more
Folks, I just created another information product. It really doesn’t come easy. What I mean by that is I love to pass on information and knowledge. But sometimes creating information products makes me think of those late night sales pitchy things. Still, I do think that Survivors and allies need specialized products for ourselves. Just for us. So I create what I wish was out there to
Why Does Society Make it Difficult for Survivors of Rape & Abuse to Come Forward? Part 1 7. Every choice that you ever made (sexually) is scrutinized. They have questions. Everybody. Q: How many intimate partners have you had? Q: How quickly do you usually decide to sleep with them? Q: Do you usually sleep with them on the first date? Q: What type of relations do
It is my honor to highlight the words of author Tremayne Moore as he courageously shares his story and offers advice for healing: Hi. My name is Tremayne Moore and yes, I’m a sexual abuse survivor. Most children are raped/abused by someone that they or their family/friends know well. My uncle came to live with us in 1982. I was 8 years old. He was 10 years. And, he was my
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Tonight I am angry. That isn’t my default setting though. Usually, I smile so much that I have to consciously tell myself not to do it. That ain’t happening today. For the past 2 years or so I have heard you loud and clear. You didn’t believe all those women when they said that they were raped and drugged. But tonight you learned that Bill Cosby himself said that he
Yesterday there was a discussion on a social media page that I follow. Suicide. That’s what we were discussing. There was this one guy who was leaning in on the point that suicide is an option for some. He seemed to assert that for some the pain is so great that is a valid option. A few of us women attempted to disagree with only mild to moderate emotion. Eventually,
According to the CDC: In 2013 (the most recent year for which full data are available), 41,149 suicides were reported, making suicide the 10th leading cause of death for Americans. In that year, someone in the country died by suicide every 12.9 minutes.I read an article online about a young accomplished woman who died of suicide.In was so disappointed to read the comment section. You know, in usually when you
Re: Rape, sexual violence, molestation, and child sexual abuseI can very easily recall my last suicide attempt.It was years ago, but my mind always remembers it like it was just the other day or something.I remember coming home from the hospital. They had pumped my stomach, again. I was a burning furnace.I was angry. I had been trying to end my suffering here on this earth since I was a child.
The journey of healing from sexual violence and the pain that you stumble upon along the way is so hard for others to understand. You can’t even come up with a description. Sometimes it can feel as if you are speaking a language that no one else seems fluent in. After much struggle, I have come to believe that it is okay to feel the pain that was suffered. It is a natural and human response, nothing to