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What Racists and Child Rape Apologists Have in Common

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Tonya is a Social Justice Info Expert with over 23 years experience. She holds a BS in Organizational Management & Development. Her cat MiaBelle is her co-writer.
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People against progress would like you to think that systemic rape of women of color ended with slavery.   That is categorically untrue.   Victims/Survivors know it.    The perpetrators know it.   And, our “allies” of all shades and genders know it.   But on this first day of Black History Month I would like to honor a brave soul who fought against it with all that she had.  

From All Angles: 4 Ways Survivor Speakers Can Help Folks Heal, Know, & Grow

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Domestic and Sexual Violence are tough issues to discuss.  BUT, thankfully, speakers have quite a few options for approaching the topic.  In this blog post, I just list four.   Trust me, there are so many styles and tools at a speaker’s disposal.  You are only limited by the ceiling of your creativity, and your courage.  Alright y’all, here are the four…….   Storytelling/Dramatic:     Since the beginning of time elders,

Celebrities Called on the Carpet:  WE Survive Abuse 5 Best Posts of 2015

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I don’t mind addressing celebrities in relation to  issues of domestic & sexual violence who use their platforms to shame, intimidate, or otherwise bully alleged and/or actual victims. I don’t like that there is a necessity for it in this society.  I don’t like that other groups and organizations remain selectively silent about some celebrities while extremely vocal about others. However, celebrities know very well what they are doing when they

Silent Lies: Why Black Women Must Continue to Lead the Resistance

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I am thankful for every single reader, whether you agreed or disagreed.  Whether you liked a post or hated a post.  We sought to educate, inform, and start conversations.   When it comes to domestic and sexual violence, it is just too silent. In 2015 some of our most popular posts were our quotes. We reviewed the numbers and the feedback.  Here were the reader’s favorites:  And Justice for…..  7 Great Quotes on Authentic Justice

What Racists and Child Rape Apologists Have in Common

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Seems like all you have to do is make one simple statement:   The problem of black men who prey upon black  girls/boys must be discussed and addressed.   Just that statement forces hell to come undone.   I don’t think that the child rape apologists realize just how much they have in common with the racists that they despise. They use the same techniques and everything.    Distraction Racists:

Sexual Violence Against Males: No Video, No Witnesses, and It IS Killing Them

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So last night I was twitter watching one of my favorite shows. Yep, it is a crime show.     You can read about the story here: What I want to talk about is the reaction on social media. **Emotions High As Former Bloomfield Football Player Sentenced In Fatal Stabbing Myths about Teen Boys and Sexual Abuse Well, here were some of the comments from twitter. Same myths different day. Folks

How to Get the Truth Around Obstacles of Myths, Lies, & Distraction: Infographics

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Let Me Tell It I once worked as the sexual assault Outreach Advocate for the state of Virginia.  Here is what I learned.  What one thing that I learned is that no human being can tell everyone’s story. It is just impossible. It is why I like to build platforms to give others an opportunity to tell their own. I like to empower others to lift their voices. And,  I like

How to Break Through Group Think and Get Your Message Delivered

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You might have heard of a concept called “group think”.   Short version: It means when everyone goes along in the same direction because that is what they are used to.  They almost do it habitually.  Like a routine They forgot ‘why’ a long time ago.  In fact, the ‘why’ doesn’t even matter to them anymore.  Nevertheless, they will defend it to the death. Example:  In my early years of marriage,

Tonya's Top Picks for Best Sexual & Domestic Violence Storytelling for Survivors

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One of my best writing teachers taught me a great lesson.   Read, read, read.  Write, write, write. The best way to learn to write is to study the story telling skills of others.   Like building a house.  Now, we take our materials and build on top of that.  How about we come up with some great books that help.  But will anyone listen? I’ll admit.   It is

Survivors Have the Right to Tell Their Stories

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SilenceYou have the right to remain silent. I learned about the Miranda rights case in my 8th grade Civics class.Great lesson. Remaining silent can actually keep you out of prison. Got it.That was pretty easy. That went right along with the family’s commandment. “Don’t put all your business in the street.”  SpeakingBut who teaches when to speak? Who teaches us how to speak? Specifically, who teaches us how to talk about rape or sexual abuse?There are no classes for

High Five From WESurvive: Lavon Morris Grant A Spiritual Miracle

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In early 2002 or so a group of us Women of Color working in sexual and domestic drove down from Virginia to North Carolina to a two-day conference.  It was a Women of Color conference.   There weren’t many being held in the southern region.  So at that time, nearby states drove to support one another just in case other people had “other things to do”.  (Still that way in too

Lena Dunham, The Duggars & Activists: The Low Down on a Divide in the Activist Community:

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Update: 10/24/2015 While researching another post I discovered that there were several other bloggers and websites who had taken the position that Lena Dunham, by her own admission, had groomed and molested her sister as a child. Add WESurviveAbuse to that list. While I don’t agree with every point of view put forth, I do agree that accountability is important to victims/Survivors and society.  Links are at the bottom of

CLOSED FOR RIOTS: How One Black Woman Riots Against Racism

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  Update:  This was published August 30, 2015. Remember that day? I do. Driver Samuel DuBose was shot in the head by a campus police officer in the head. It was on video. I didn’t want to see it, but it was everywhere. I sobbed that day.    Soon I had to find a way to deal. So I took it old school.  See, racism isn’t new but seeing it