4 myths about #MeToo its founder dispelled at Rutgers

The #MeToo movement has empowered millions of women to share stories of sexual violence and shined light on misconduct by powerful men, but the movement’s founder is just as interested in talking about what it is not as she is in discussing what it is. The movement is not just for women and specifically is not… Read more about 4 myths about #MeToo its founder dispelled at Rutgers

Anti-Survivors: You will deal, We will Heal (Part 1)

Whew! I am HOT! Do you hear me? Incensed! Even though Mama warned me that there would be days like this:                   When #MeToo took off I felt uplifted about the epidemic of sexual violence.  Inspired. Motivated. Hopeful. A great swell of healing was entering the atmosphere. […]

The One Question Every Parent of a Girl Must Ask Themselves

Memory Lane (2000’s) “No!” “Nobody kisses me!  Except my mother, my Grammy, my Aunt Kisha, my LaLa, my Nanny, my Dada, my Gma,” (and the list went on) I knew the list cold.  It was a list we agreed on together.  See, I am his mother. And, that little four-year-old who was being indignant and […]

Child against Child Abuse: The Most Overlooked Facts About Child Sexual Abuse Exposed by Experts

Sexual violence at the hands of children is just as destructive as any violation by an adult. It is hard being the victim of an older child.  In the back of our collective mind, our society still thinks that it is less harmless to be violated by a child than by an adult. I spoke […]

8 Phrases of Comfort Parents Can Communicate to Children to Prevent Child Sexual Abuse

So every night my mother would come to tuck me in at night.   Every night without fail.  And every night without fail, this would happen. She would come to my bed,  look it over and say, “My goodness Tonya!  With all of these dolls and animals, where do you plan to sleep?” Listen, I would […]

Why Does Society Make it Difficult for Survivors of Rape & Abuse to Come Forward? Part 1

The Truth About Rape & Distraction That No One is Talking About: Part 2

The Truth About Rape & Distraction That No One is Talking About: Part 1 So to continue, when we talk about rape the conversation always turns to ……how distracting and problematic it is for the rapist.   A large swath of our population takes to social media, and any available microphone to go on and […]

24 More Phrases People Use to Try to Silence Survivors of Sexual Violence

Peace, Be Still Chile  I now know why my Granny, Grandma Monroe, Aunt, and Mama encouraged me to get quiet when a storm rolled in.   We had to turn off all electricity, even if we were doing homework. We had to get still. I hated it. Until I didn’t.   At some point I came to […]

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