In my early days of healing, helping professionals would often recommend connecting with other Survivors. I would do whatever they asked; journaling, talking, crying, confronting, challenging, drawing, making crafts-whatever. But I would NOT connect with other people who experienced abuse. Since I was a tiny child victim, I dealt with the physical and mental pain alone. I didn’t want to talk to people who I decided would never understand anyway.
So, WE do Survive abuse. I can’t even describe in words how challenging it is. I do know that most of us don’t do this alone. There is no way that you get through this type of hell, with all of its hurdles, obstacles, and twists and turns, all by yourself. You will always need strong, resilient, and compassionate people to help you on your healing journey. I’m posting 8
Some women came from the Women’s March proud of one special achievement. They were proud that they expressed their views in a way that didn’t appear angry. They said you could tell because no one was arrested and there wasn’t “violence”. They were “good girls.”I was angry at these women. At first. They got up too early Sunday morning with that shenanigans. Posted their “achievements” all over the internet
Hope is PowerI know a little something about hopelessness. I know a lot of something about hopelessness. There were times in my healing journey where it got so agonizingly painful that I wanted to give up. On top of that, when it comes to emotional pain, no one can tell you when it will all be over. Everyone says, “It takes as long as it takes.” You don’t want
I’m Terrified to Tell You that I’m a Rape Survivor Because I’m Afraid You’re Going to Judge Me Negatively, Deny My Experience, and Care More About Not Having Your Favorite Celebrities Interrogated or Your Entertainment Disrupted, but I’m Going to Take a Chance and Tell You Anyway By Son of Baldwin I wrote this in response to all of the rape denial going around like the flu because of Nate
A Sensitive HistoryThere was a time in my life when I was very emotionally sensitive. Everything hurt my feelings. No one could say anything to me that didn’t make me cry or have some time of emotional outburst. What I know now is that I was overwhelmed with so many unresolved feelings and emotions that I couldn’t properly process anything new. In other words, my inbox was full.
Circa 1980 something My mother: So if everybody else goes crazy does that you mean you go crazy too? Me: No? (* I swear, I wanted to say ‘yes’, but something told me that was the wrong answer. Perhaps it was her irritated tone.) Our conversation was in response to a phone call that my mother received. Our principal’s staff had personally called each and every parent. That day there
As Survivors, many of us are not used to asking for what we need. Survivors of abuse in childhood were not able to do this. Just didn’t have the luxury of asking for what we needed.Even abuse in later years a victim may feel isolated. It seems that you must make it through on your own. Cage of LiesLies. There are reasons that abusive people often make victims feel
https://youtu.be/alKsdijLhF4 Text Version Break out the Nail Polish! Take a little nail polish and dab a small dot on your cell phone. This is a reminder to calm down and relax before you answer your phone. Now, when you see that colored dot, pause, take a deep breath, and (optional) smile before you answer your phone or text. ALTERNATE: Use a permanent marker instead of nail polish. Drink and Be