Welcome the Week with Wisdom: Quotes on Stories & Writing to Nourish Survivors

?“The single story creates stereotypes, and the problem with stereotypes is not that they are untrue, but that they are incomplete. They make one story become the only story.” ~Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie?“I think writing really helps you heal yourself. I think if you write long enough, you will be a healthy person. ~Alice Walker? If […]

Tonya’s Top Picks for Best Sexual & Domestic Violence Storytelling for Survivors

One of my best writing teachers taught me a great lesson.   Read, read, read.  Write, write, write. The best way to learn to write is to study the story telling skills of others.   Like building a house.  Now, we take our materials and build on top of that.  How about we come up […]

How Survivors Can Preserve the Lessons from Their Experiences for Storytelling

In order to tell your story, you are going to need the details. No one can tell your story like you can. And Survivors have some of the most fascinating stories ever. Why?   1.Stories of good vs. evil are of great interest to people from the time that they are small children. Good vs. […]

Safe Space is Beyond the Comfort Zone

Safe Space is Beyond the Comfort Zone

  Folks, I just created another information product.  It really doesn’t come easy. What I mean by that is I love to pass on information and knowledge.   But sometimes creating information products makes me think of those late night sales pitchy things.   Still, I do think that Survivors and allies need specialized products […]

Safety Plan: What Is It? The 7 Best on the Web & Why WE all need one!

Safety Plan: What Is It? The 7 Best on the Web & Why WE all need one!

                                       Fall Safety Plan A What?   Safety plan:  In the domestic violence advocacy community, a safety plan is a strategy that advocates develop along with victims in order to raise their chances for survival. When a […]

Why Does Society Make it Difficult for Survivors of Rape & Abuse to Come Forward? Part 1

Why Does Society Make it Difficult for Survivors of Rape & Abuse to Come Forward? Part 1

I watched Cosby: The Women Speak. Actually, I recorded it.    This way, if I was triggered I could watch it another time.     But I was in the midst of a writing project.  So, I stopped by  Twitter.    It was like a horrible car accident and I couldn’t look away.     Most […]

6 Smart Tactics to Help Survivors Strengthen Confidence

People who have been abused often struggle with self-doubt.  Yeah. You can put up a tough exterior for everyone else.    Some days you can even fool yourself. The truth is. Words do hurt.    In fact, they have a way of leaving a brand on you, don’t they?  In order to have an existence […]

6 FAQ by Parents & Caretakers about Child Sexual Abuse

Today, I would like to speak to the parents and caretakers of children.   I realize that some of them might be a bit concerned.  When someone who seemed “normal” turns out to be an enemy of children, parents get anxious.  I don’t blame them.   One of my favorite audiences to speak in front […]

What You Must Know About Campus Sexual Assault Right Now

When I checked out the news this morning, there was a story about a sexual assault on a well known university near my home.  Sigh….. It is that time of year again isn’t it?  So I decided to share with readers a page that they can bookmark and get a great deal of information from. […]

World Wide Web Roundup for Survivors, Allies, and Friends

This week we have headlines, a tool kit, latest research studies, and a “new to me” online resource. HEADLINES  FBI: Child Abuse ‘Almost at an Epidemic Level’ in U.S.Tens of thousands of children are being sexually exploited each year in the U.S., according to an investigation by the BBC.Is it easier to open up about […]

Tellin Ya Something Good Tuesday: Stop It Now Prevention Tools

Tellin Ya Something Good Tuesday: Stop It Now Prevention Tools

Featured Resource:  Stop It Now is one of my favorite resources for parents, teachers, caretakers-everybody! I am devoting this post to their library of Prevention Tools.  You must check it out.  They have printable tip sheets for families, daycare safety, warning signs, and talking tips. They also offer guidebooks. Please stop by.  Bookmark this page. […]

World Wide Roundup of This Week's Best Online Content Related to Rape & Abuse

World Wide Roundup of This Week’s Best Online Content Related to Rape & Abuse

Come under the Light The Sex Abuse to Prison Pipeline: How Girls of Color are Unjustly Arrested and Incarcerated Why Aren’t More Crisis Hotlines Offering Chat-Based Help? New Tool Will Soon Be Available Aimed At Helping Parents of Sexually Abused Kids Empathy is Actually a Choice Health and Wellness 10 Ways to Take Care of Ourselves […]

My Mama said Keep Slaying these Dragons

My Mama said Keep Slaying these Dragons

Y’all my Mom wrote me a permission slip this morning.     It means the entire world to me. This afternoon during my reflection time, I felt the full value of her words.   My mother read my most recent blog posts and she said to me, “You keep slaying those dragons.  There are still more […]

How to Protect Kids from Sexual Abuse This Summer

How to Protect Kids from Sexual Abuse This Summer

I know.  This time of year the kids are here, there, and everywhere. No school means they have a lot of time on their hands. Mama can we go…..?  Dad can we go……? I don’t mean to terrify you even more than you already are but…. Here are the bigger questions? Is your child going […]

Safety for Undocumented Victims of Abuse

From: www.domesticshelters.orgDomestic violence is a crime no one is immune to. No matter a person’s class, status or background, abuse still chooses a victim every nine seconds in the U.S. And when that victim is an illegal immigrant, they often think they have nowhere to turn. Afraid of deportation, they stay silent, enduring the violence regardless […]

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