In my early days of healing, helping professionals would often recommend connecting with other Survivors. I would do whatever they asked; journaling, talking, crying, confronting, challenging, drawing, making crafts-whatever. But I would NOT connect with other people who experienced abuse. Since I was a tiny child victim, I dealt with the physical and mental pain alone. I didn’t want to talk to people who I decided would never understand anyway.
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So, WE do Survive abuse. I can’t even describe in words how challenging it is. I do know that most of us don’t do this alone. There is no way that you get through this type of hell, with all of its hurdles, obstacles, and twists and turns, all by yourself. You will always need strong, resilient, and compassionate people to help you on your healing journey. I’m posting 8
As Survivors, many of us are not used to asking for what we need. Survivors of abuse in childhood were not able to do this. Just didn’t have the luxury of asking for what we needed.Even abuse in later years a victim may feel isolated. It seems that you must make it through on your own. Cage of LiesLies. There are reasons that abusive people often make victims feel
I’d like to introduce to some of you a Survivor who makes me smile instantly. He is passionate, informed, and somehow finds a way to do this often distressful work with gregarious joy. If you are ever low on hope or happiness Wyatt O’Brian Evans always seems to have a bit in his overflow you can grab onto. You can read his full bio here. Wyatt O’Brian Evans is a
My whole world shifted. As always, it was the fault of the mother. Yes, it was. I have worked with victims/survivors of sexual violence for well over two decades. Recently my central focuses are child sexual abuse prevention & healthy response. Actually, it was my mother who encouraged me to go in this direction. She thought that she had done everything right. She asked us questions often.
So yesterday I posted about ending the cycle of abusive relationships in a person’s personal life and finding the healthy one. Well later in the day, I read this post from author Olevia Henderson. Oh, it blessed my soul. It was also the perfect compliment to the post from yesterday. She came in through a different entrance and I was so here for that! I thank her so much
Now last week WE posted the affirmation: Survivor Affirmation: I Can Make a Difference! Well, WE like to show that Survivors do make a difference. WE make a difference every single day in countless ways. In this post, WE highlight two Survivors who are making a tremendous difference to help other victims/Survivors. Meet: Neil Brick and Nancy Kilgore MS [press release] Neil Brick, Editor of S.M.A.R.T. Newsletter, Celebrates Twenty Years
Glad to see that we are in a season of listening to the powerful voices of Survivors. Excellent! What is most unfortunate is that there are so many out there. This week I gathered up a cross section of a few memoirs that I have read about the healing journey. Each one is truly authentic. I don’t think that any two are the same. While it isn’t “good” that they
Update: I published this during the summer months (2015). It spread across quite a few websites and I got a great deal of positive feedback. However, some parents & caretakers commented indirectly that certain portions of the post were unclear. I couldn’t let that stand. The purpose of the post was to inform. If y’all didn’t feel fully informed then I haven’t done my job. So I
The Truth About Rape & Distraction That No One is Talking About: Part 1 So to continue, when we talk about rape the conversation always turns to ……how distracting and problematic it is for the rapist. A large swath of our population takes to social media, and any available microphone to go on and on about ……the burden the rapist must bear. …how hard it is for he/she
Okay, so the heat won this week.Most of you are aware that I have a chronic illness. Many of my readers do. Did it hit you hard too? Wow! Okay on Friday I like to leave off with uplifting things, and I will.But, I will leave you with reading material because it is too hot to do much else.So here are some great articles I found on the web. Intersectionality This word is interesting to