Some women came from the Women’s March proud of one special achievement. They were proud that they expressed their views in a way that didn’t appear angry. They said you could tell because no one was arrested and there wasn’t “violence”. They were “good girls.”I was angry at these women. At first. They got up too early Sunday morning with that shenanigans. Posted their “achievements” all over the internet
I’m Terrified to Tell You that I’m a Rape Survivor Because I’m Afraid You’re Going to Judge Me Negatively, Deny My Experience, and Care More About Not Having Your Favorite Celebrities Interrogated or Your Entertainment Disrupted, but I’m Going to Take a Chance and Tell You Anyway By Son of Baldwin I wrote this in response to all of the rape denial going around like the flu because of Nate
What Now? Revolutionary Secrets Uncovered on Survival, Resistance, and Movement Link to Video➡ https://goo.gl/mtdfN3 Empowerment and Inspiration just in time! WESurviveAbuse.com created a video featuring quotes and links to books that may restore hope and help you build a strategy, organize, and come up with a plan for every letter of the alphabet. Find resources that bring insight into: ✹How one young Survivor of sexual violence confronted an established hero”
Memory Lane (2000’s) “No!” “Nobody kisses me! Except my mother, my Grammy, my Aunt Kisha, my LaLa, my Nanny, my Dada, my Gma,” (and the list went on) I knew the list cold. It was a list we agreed on together. See, I am his mother. And, that little four-year-old who was being indignant and yelling, was my son. He was playing with a ten-year-old girl a few yards away
Watching If you deny people a voice, their own voice, there’s no way you will every know who they were, and so they are erased. ~Alice Walker Activist Deray Mckesson has a saying, “Watch whiteness work.” Think of it as an alert, like “Breaking News”. It has a lot of meaning in Black cultures. One meaning is: pay attention to how racism, prejudice, and discrimination predictably come
After the loss When a victim of sexual violence reports that someone raped them they might want to press charges. At first.But then…….As time goes on they may begin to pull away and become less cooperative.With everyone.Medical professionals. Law enforcement. Prosecution. Even advocates. And, even their own friends & family.DoubtSo because of this, somewhere along the line folks start to wonder. Maybe they are not telling the truth? People
My whole world shifted. As always, it was the fault of the mother. Yes, it was. I have worked with victims/survivors of sexual violence for well over two decades. Recently my central focuses are child sexual abuse prevention & healthy response. Actually, it was my mother who encouraged me to go in this direction. She thought that she had done everything right. She asked us questions often.
Sexual violence at the hands of children is just as destructive as any violation by an adult. It is hard being the victim of an older child. In the back of our collective mind, our society still thinks that it is less harmless to be violated by a child than by an adult. I spoke to a woman who came to talk to meet with me wearing a restaurant uniform.
I am a voracious reader. As early as I can recall my mother required that all three of her children read at least two books at a time daily. I don’t recall being read to as a child. I only recall asking my mother how to pronounce multiple syllable words. Over the years, I have connected with many children of color who share the same stories. But
Change must begin with WE Statistics are very important to social justice work. BUT, stories are the real tools of change. With stories, one lone voice can change a person’s entire life.Most of my readers know that Survivor Marilyn Van Debur Atler is one of the first persons to inspire me to speak about the unspeakable.See post: What a Difference a Voice Makes Every Survivor is unique So,
Glad to see that we are in a season of listening to the powerful voices of Survivors. Excellent! What is most unfortunate is that there are so many out there. This week I gathered up a cross section of a few memoirs that I have read about the healing journey. Each one is truly authentic. I don’t think that any two are the same. While it isn’t “good” that they
Read any comment section or social media platform on the topic of Nate Parker and his new film “The Birth of a Nation” and you will find the following phrases: “I find it funny how just when…” “How come none of this came out when….?” “Why all of a sudden….?” “You see the timing of this don’t you…..? “This is mighty inconvenient timing…..” A Crime of Distraction ‘ Nothing new