High Five from WESurvive: 3 Crucial Life Lessons from Survivor LaQuisha Hall

Survivors are my favorite people.  Hands down, no contest. I love their war stories, their wisdom, their testimony.  They inspire me.  I weep with them.  I serve them. I fight with them in battle. I’d like to bring to your attention some of the awesome Survivors doing great things.  WE call it: High Five from […]

What's In a Name: A Survivor of Child Sexual Abuse names Her Rapist

What’s In a Name: A Survivor of Child Sexual Abuse names Her Rapist

Did I tell y’all about that time that they printed a speech  I delivered in public in the paper?  Well, that isn’t even the most interesting part.  The most interesting part was deciding whether or not to name the child rapist from my past. I bring this up because of this story that is in […]

Activists: This is About Power & Control

Update: This article is a re-post that still applies. I guess it always will. You ever been watching TV in a room full of people and you stand up.  No one in the room wants to get up because, the program is too good.  So someone says, “Hey, while you’re up……..” That is fine if […]

The Great Submission Hoax

Imagine being in a room of, I don’t know, 30-50 people, and you hear this:   “Oh my goodness, that sounds sooo hard. What do you think we should do about this?”  No, it wasn’t something dirty. But then again….. I don’t know.  I’m still messed up about it. We were doing dirty work. Social justice work […]

The Dirty Truth about Celeb Men in the Media Coming to the Rescue

Something weird is going on. Here lately, every time that beautiful young women get into a feud white and/or black men come swooping out of nowhere to speak on the issues as if they are experts. Piers Morgan just decided to just call out Black Twitter.  That’s fine.  Free social media platform. The thing about […]

Tellin Ya Something Good Tuesday: Stop It Now Prevention Tools

Tellin Ya Something Good Tuesday: Stop It Now Prevention Tools

Featured Resource:  Stop It Now is one of my favorite resources for parents, teachers, caretakers-everybody! I am devoting this post to their library of Prevention Tools.  You must check it out.  They have printable tip sheets for families, daycare safety, warning signs, and talking tips. They also offer guidebooks. Please stop by.  Bookmark this page. […]

What a Difference a Voice Makes

I am the most talkative of my mother’s three children.  I think that is how I began to write.  Part enjoyment, but yeah, part necessity.   I was wearing people out.   But it wasn’t until the age of 19/20 that I came into my voice. I remember looking at Marilyn Van Derbur’s professional headshot […]

World Wide Roundup of This Week's Best Online Content Related to Rape & Abuse

World Wide Roundup of This Week’s Best Online Content Related to Rape & Abuse

Come under the Light The Sex Abuse to Prison Pipeline: How Girls of Color are Unjustly Arrested and Incarcerated Why Aren’t More Crisis Hotlines Offering Chat-Based Help? New Tool Will Soon Be Available Aimed At Helping Parents of Sexually Abused Kids Empathy is Actually a Choice Health and Wellness 10 Ways to Take Care of Ourselves […]

6 Quotes to Refill Survivors When Society Drains Us

I was so drained this weekend.  But it is going to be alright. All of this fragmented knowledge about sexual violence is wearing me out! As the beloved old folks around my way used to say, “Look at you, all loud and wrong.”  And that meant they were through entertaining your foolishness.  Listen, if you […]

My Mama said Keep Slaying these Dragons

My Mama said Keep Slaying these Dragons

Y’all my Mom wrote me a permission slip this morning.     It means the entire world to me. This afternoon during my reflection time, I felt the full value of her words.   My mother read my most recent blog posts and she said to me, “You keep slaying those dragons.  There are still more […]

Letter from an Angry Survivor of Sexual Violence about this Bill Cosby Tragedy

Tonight I am angry.  That isn’t my default setting though.  Usually, I smile so much that I have to consciously tell myself not to do it.  That ain’t happening today. For the past 2 years or so I have heard you loud and clear. You didn’t believe all those women when they said that they […]

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