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Part 1: Good Talk: How Society Creates Obstacles to Healing

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Tonya is a Social Justice Info Expert with over 23 years experience. She holds a BS in Organizational Management & Development. Her cat MiaBelle is her co-writer.
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 So at the age of 13, I walked into a counselor’s office because I was told that I had to.   Well, that is what you have to do when you tell authorities that you have been sexually violated. I had to get fixed because I guess I was broken.  I could agree with that.   I wanted to die.  I tried to die.   I would have died had the internet been invented

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Okay, so the heat won this week.Most of you are aware that I have a chronic illness. Many of my readers do. Did it hit you hard too? Wow! Okay on Friday I like to leave off with uplifting things, and I will.But, I will leave you with reading material because it is too hot to do much else.So here are some great articles I found on the web. Intersectionality This word is interesting to

Are Children Capable of Attracting Rape?

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Trigger Warning  So….I happened to watching a show that I enjoy immensely. It was “Greenleaf” on OWN. I love that show!  Actually, I was tweet watching it. You know, where you are watching it on television while enjoying the comments on Twitter. Anyway, there was a scene between a teenage girl and a leader of the church.   His character is a suspected serial pedophile who happens to be around the

24 More Phrases People Use to Try to Silence Survivors of Sexual Violence

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Peace, Be Still Chile  I now know why my Granny, Grandma Monroe, Aunt, and Mama encouraged me to get quiet when a storm rolled in.   We had to turn off all electricity, even if we were doing homework. We had to get still. I hated it. Until I didn’t.   At some point I came to be fascinated by it.  I would actually sit on the front porch.  They would say,

5 Effective Tips to Help Safe Father Figures Protect Loved Ones from Child Sexual Abuse

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Safe father figures can be very effective at helping to prevent the spread the epidemic of child sexual abuse. Here are just five effective tips to help them get started today. Be aware that children can be victims of manipulation tactics.  One common tactic used by child sexual abusers involves pushing away the safe father figures in their lives.  Safe father figures may miss this, though.  I have come to

Are We Going to Leave Child Sexual Abuse Out of the Hip Hop History Books or Nah? by Tonya GJ Prince with Daniel Johnson

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 Planet Shock The early 80’s. I was in elementary school. Rap was newish to those of us in central Virginia.  It was launching!  And, our parents hated it.  Back then corporations knew kids didn’t have a dime.  None of that coddling broke kids stuff.  Black radio played a few rap songs during certain times only. We dealt with it. Parents: “What about Michael Jackson?” Us: Michael Jackson is still fresh.  He was either

Rape, Child Sexual Abuse, and Victim-Blaming: The Real Deal

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Trigger Warning What the heck is victim blaming anyway?  So victim blaming is a term you hear from time to time.To be clear, when you say that you are doing it we mean that you are doing a bad thing. Yes we do.It means that you are unfairly ridiculing, shaming, name calling, harassing, and/or bullying, the alleged victim of a crime. What about Us?  One might argue that people who more

Caught in the Hive: The Youth Lead

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Online Web Conference: Building a Movement to End Child Sexual Abuse                          Sexual Violence Zachary Miller wants to give hope to other survivors of child sexual abuse Congratulations to this courageous young Survivor! Boys’ club ‘a sitting duck’ for child sexual abuse, Anglican ex-priest and paedophile says I would add that any poorly managed/monitored group or family is a sitting

What Racists and Child Rape Apologists Have in Common

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Seems like all you have to do is make one simple statement:   The problem of black men who prey upon black  girls/boys must be discussed and addressed.   Just that statement forces hell to come undone.   I don’t think that the child rape apologists realize just how much they have in common with the racists that they despise. They use the same techniques and everything.    Distraction Racists:

Sexual Violence Against Males: No Videos, No Witnesses, and It IS Killing Them

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So last night I was twitter watching one of my favorite shows. Yep, it is a crime show.     You can read about the story here: What I want to talk about is the reaction on social media. **Emotions High As Former Bloomfield Football Player Sentenced In Fatal Stabbing Myths about Teen Boys and Sexual Abuse Well, here were some of the comments from twitter. Same myths different day. Folks broke out

How Mainstream Feminists, Women's Orgs & Sexual Assault Orgs Feed the Culture of Violence

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One of my all-time favorite songs is by the great Bonnie Raitt: “I Can’t Make You Love Me” It fits today. During the Daniel Holtzclaw trial, there were few, if any mainstream feminist organizations, women’s organizations, or sexual assault organizations lending their support.  Since the entire media was intentionally silent, the heavy lifting was done by women of color via social media. Now there were some individual white women supporters

The Eye of the Child Sexual Abuse Survivor: A Black Man Takes the Mic

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It is my honor to highlight the words of author Tremayne Moore as he courageously shares his story and offers advice for healing: Hi. My name is Tremayne Moore and yes, I’m a sexual abuse survivor. Most children are raped/abused by someone that they or their family/friends know well.  My uncle came to live with us in 1982. I was 8 years old. He was 10 years.  And, he was my

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Perhaps you recall my post from a few weeks back titled, “What a Difference a Voice Makes”.  I talked about how important it is for Survivors to hear the voices of other Survivors. It is also important that everyone gets an opportunity to hear from the voices of Survivors.  It provides our society with access to knowledge that we wouldn’t have otherwise.  Knowledge & Information is power. I’d like to introduce readers