What Now? Revolutionary Secrets Uncovered on Survival, Resistance, and Movement

What Now? Revolutionary Secrets Uncovered on Survival, Resistance, and Movement Link to Video➡ https://goo.gl/mtdfN3 Empowerment and Inspiration just in time! WESurviveAbuse.com created a video featuring quotes and links to books that may restore hope and help you build a strategy, organize, and come up with a plan for every letter of the alphabet. Find resources […]

Watching Racism and Rape Work: The Scripted Entertainment Industry

  Watching  If you deny people a voice, their own voice, there’s no way you will every know who they were, and so they are erased. ~Alice Walker Activist Deray Mckesson has a saying, “Watch whiteness work.” Think of it as an alert, like “Breaking News”.     It has a lot of meaning in […]

8 Phrases of Comfort Parents Can Communicate to Children to Prevent Child Sexual Abuse

So every night my mother would come to tuck me in at night.   Every night without fail.  And every night without fail, this would happen. She would come to my bed,  look it over and say, “My goodness Tonya!  With all of these dolls and animals, where do you plan to sleep?” Listen, I would […]

Change Begins with WE! Keeping the WE in WE Survive Abuse

Change Begins with WE! Keeping the WE in WE Survive Abuse

    Change must begin with WE Statistics are very important to social justice work.  BUT, stories are the real tools of change. With stories, one lone voice can change a person’s entire life.Most of my readers know that  Survivor Marilyn Van Debur Atler is one of the first persons to inspire me to speak […]

24 More Phrases People Use to Try to Silence Survivors of Sexual Violence

Peace, Be Still Chile  I now know why my Granny, Grandma Monroe, Aunt, and Mama encouraged me to get quiet when a storm rolled in.   We had to turn off all electricity, even if we were doing homework. We had to get still. I hated it. Until I didn’t.   At some point I came to […]

To the Misguided, Misdirected, Mislead, and Misinformed, about Child Sexual Abuse

We thought they were right       Some of us were children when an older girl told us that it was normal to play with each other in a way that devastated us. Some of us were children when a group of older boys told us it was normal for boys and girls to play in a […]

What the Church and People of Faith Can Do to Help Victims of Sexual and Domestic Violence

 Speak on It About 16 years ago I was sitting in service and Pastor Lance Watson was delivering an amazing sermon.  The sermon was on relationships in general.   Let’s just tell the truth and shame the devil. To be honest, I wasn’t in a relationship at the time, so this was one of those Sundays […]

Rape, Child Sexual Abuse, and Victim-Blaming: The Real Deal

Trigger Warning What the heck is victim blaming anyway?  So victim blaming is a term you hear from time to time.To be clear, when you say that you are doing it we mean that you are doing a bad thing. Yes we do.It means that you are unfairly ridiculing, shaming, name calling, harassing, and/or bullying, […]

How Survivors of Sexual & Domestic Violence Can Make History

Fannie Lou Hamer! Dr. Martin Luther King Jr! Rosa Parks! Angela Davis! Dr. Maya Angelou! Nina Simone! Malcolm X! Names you’ve heard.    Just judging by who is mentioned during Black History Month, it might seem that, in order to make history one must make a name for oneself.    That is how you make […]

What Racists and Child Rape Apologists Have in Common

What Racists and Child Rape Apologists Have in Common

Seems like all you have to do is make one simple statement:   The problem of black men who prey upon black  girls/boys must be discussed and addressed.   Just that statement forces hell to come undone.   I don’t think that the child rape apologists realize just how much they have in common with […]

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Welcome the Week With Wisdom: 22 Quotes on Justice

Everyday silence harvests its victims. Silence is a mortal illness. ~Natalia Ginzberg Courage is what it takes to stand up and speak. Courage is also what it takes to sit down and listen. ~Winston Churchill When I liberate others, I liberate myself. ~Fannie Lou Hamer Law and justice are not always the same. ~Gloria Steinem The […]

Savvy Safety Tips Survivors Want Parents to Know this Holiday Season

Savvy Safety Tips Survivors Want Parents to Know this Holiday Season

During the holidays children might visit family and friends.   Friends and family might come over to visit. They haven’t seen the children in a long time. We think nothing of it when they rush over to hug and perhaps kiss the children.   But wait. Do the kids want to be hugged and kissed? […]

Sexual Violence Against Males: No Video, No Witnesses, and It IS Killing Them

So last night I was twitter watching one of my favorite shows. Yep, it is a crime show.     You can read about the story here: What I want to talk about is the reaction on social media. **Emotions High As Former Bloomfield Football Player Sentenced In Fatal Stabbing Myths about Teen Boys and Sexual […]

No Justice, No Piece: To Organizations, Movements, & Activists Who Are Not Yet Intersectional

They say one of the number one reasons that marriages end is because of money.  I understand that.  When I first got married, money was a serious discussion. Right away one of our major differences was the way that we give to charities and causes.  We absolutely did not support the same types of causes.  […]

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