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What's In a Name: A Survivor of Child Sexual Abuse names Her Rapist

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Did I tell y’all about that time that they printed a speech  I delivered in public in the paper?  Well, that isn’t even the most interesting part.  The most interesting part was deciding whether or not to name the child rapist from my past. I bring this up because of this story that is in the news–>>  A Retired Virginia Army Colonel sues a woman who accused him of rapeIt seems

Why Does Society Make it Difficult for Survivors of Rape & Abuse to Come Forward? Part 2

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Why Does Society Make it Difficult for Survivors of Rape & Abuse to Come Forward? Part 1     7.  Every choice that you ever made (sexually) is scrutinized.  They have questions. Everybody.   Q: How many intimate partners have you had?   Q: How quickly do you usually decide to sleep with them?  Q: Do you usually sleep with them on the first date?  Q: What type of relations do

Why Does Society Make it Difficult for Survivors of Rape & Abuse to Come Forward? Part 1

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I watched Cosby: The Women Speak. Actually, I recorded it.    This way, if I was triggered I could watch it another time.     But I was in the midst of a writing project.  So, I stopped by  Twitter.    It was like a horrible car accident and I couldn’t look away.     Most of the tweeters were blaming the victims any which way that they could.    Smug

6 Smart Tactics to Help Survivors Strengthen Confidence

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People who have been abused often struggle with self-doubt.  Yeah. You can put up a tough exterior for everyone else.    Some days you can even fool yourself. The truth is. Words do hurt.    In fact, they have a way of leaving a brand on you, don’t they?  In order to have an existence that’s peaceful yet exciting and fulfilling, it’s important to believe in yourself.    I’ve learned

The Eye of the Child Sexual Abuse Survivor: A Black Man Takes the Mic

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It is my honor to highlight the words of author Tremayne Moore as he courageously shares his story and offers advice for healing: Hi. My name is Tremayne Moore and yes, I’m a sexual abuse survivor. Most children are raped/abused by someone that they or their family/friends know well.  My uncle came to live with us in 1982. I was 8 years old. He was 10 years.  And, he was my

Activists: This is About Power & Control

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Update: This article is a re-post that still applies. I guess it always will. You ever been watching TV in a room full of people and you stand up.  No one in the room wants to get up because, the program is too good.  So someone says, “Hey, while you’re up……..” That is fine if they want a refill on nachos from the kitchen or something. It isn’t fine if

Ask a Sex Abuse Survivor

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Perhaps you recall my post from a few weeks back titled, “What a Difference a Voice Makes”.  I talked about how important it is for Survivors to hear the voices of other Survivors. It is also important that everyone gets an opportunity to hear from the voices of Survivors.  It provides our society with access to knowledge that we wouldn’t have otherwise.  Knowledge & Information is power. I’d like to introduce readers

Deadly Denial: How to Keep Someone Else's Thinking Errors from Destroying YOUR LIfe

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This week there was an uproar over the racial background of activist Shaun King.  The entire thing was strange to me. My American story isn’t unique for black folks.   He looks more like my mother than any of me and my two siblings.   My maternal family has an interesting history when it comes to race.  Therefore, not all members appear to be black during all four seasons of

Did You Hear the Joke about Blue Ivy, Brown Girls & Sexual Abuse? ME NEITHER

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People have read my writing or seen me speak publically and they are often surprised at how different I can be in social situations.   In real life, I have been known to be so quiet in a room filled with people that others have told me that they were uncomfortable. I’m just an introvert.   The real party is always in our heads. This summer a fellow child sexual abuse prevention

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What You Must Know About Campus Sexual Assault Right Now

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When I checked out the news this morning, there was a story about a sexual assault on a well known university near my home.  Sigh….. It is that time of year again isn’t it?  So I decided to share with readers a page that they can bookmark and get a great deal of information from.  I wanted to save you some search engine time.   In this post I have

The Secret for Ending the Cycle of Abusive Relationships and Finding the Healthy One

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A few years ago I went to a few Washington Wizards games with my son. Now, I’m not big on sports.  My poor son had to explain every single moment of the game.    I’m not sure of the details, but I understand that in basketball, rebounds can be a good thing.  All I know is that when it happens the crowd goes wild.  I think it is like some

5 Reasons Why I Wish Racism was a Mental Health Disorder

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Updated: Oh for goodness sakes! I  keep hearing this stuff buzzing around again.  Every time certain folks commit violent crimes people start up with mental illness as a reason. Let me say this.  Most people with mental health disorders have the deepest capacity for empathy that I have ever seen.  There is no rush to forgive. No rush to heal. No rush to forget.If you’ve never been to a multi-racial support