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The One Question Every Parent of a Girl Must Ask Themselves

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Memory Lane (2000’s) “No!” “Nobody kisses me!  Except my mother, my Grammy, my Aunt Kisha, my LaLa, my Nanny, my Dada, my Gma,” (and the list went on) I knew the list cold.  It was a list we agreed on together.  See, I am his mother. And, that little four-year-old who was being indignant and yelling, was my son.  He was playing with a ten-year-old girl a few yards away

Child against Child Abuse: The Most Overlooked Facts About Child Sexual Abuse Exposed by Experts

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Sexual violence at the hands of children is just as destructive as any violation by an adult. It is hard being the victim of an older child.  In the back of our collective mind, our society still thinks that it is less harmless to be violated by a child than by an adult. I spoke to a woman who came to talk to meet with me wearing a restaurant uniform.

8 Phrases of Comfort Parents Can Communicate to Children to Prevent Child Sexual Abuse

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So every night my mother would come to tuck me in at night.   Every night without fail.  And every night without fail, this would happen. She would come to my bed,  look it over and say, “My goodness Tonya!  With all of these dolls and animals, where do you plan to sleep?” Listen, I would figure that out later.  What was important to me was that, the many dolls and

Change Begins with WE! Keeping the WE in WE Survive Abuse

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    Change must begin with WE Statistics are very important to social justice work.  BUT, stories are the real tools of change. With stories, one lone voice can change a person’s entire life.Most of my readers know that  Survivor Marilyn Van Debur Atler is one of the first persons to inspire me to speak about the unspeakable.See post:  What a Difference a Voice Makes Every Survivor is unique So,

UPDATE: How Good Parents Miss Child Sexual Abuse and 5 Questions to Change That

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Update:  I published this during the summer months (2015). It spread across quite a few websites and I got a great deal of positive feedback. However, some parents & caretakers commented indirectly that certain portions of the post were unclear.   I couldn’t let that stand.   The purpose of the post was to inform. If y’all didn’t feel fully informed then I haven’t done my job.   So I

Part 1: Good Talk: How Society Creates Obstacles to Healing

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 So at the age of 13, I walked into a counselor’s office because I was told that I had to.   Well, that is what you have to do when you tell authorities that you have been sexually violated. I had to get fixed because I guess I was broken.  I could agree with that.   I wanted to die.  I tried to die.   I would have died had the internet been invented

Activism & Self Care: Tonya's Favorite Things On the Web This Week

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Okay, so the heat won this week.Most of you are aware that I have a chronic illness. Many of my readers do. Did it hit you hard too? Wow! Okay on Friday I like to leave off with uplifting things, and I will.But, I will leave you with reading material because it is too hot to do much else.So here are some great articles I found on the web. Intersectionality This word is interesting to

Are Children Capable of Attracting Rape?

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Trigger Warning  So….I happened to watching a show that I enjoy immensely. It was “Greenleaf” on OWN. I love that show!  Actually, I was tweet watching it. You know, where you are watching it on television while enjoying the comments on Twitter. Anyway, there was a scene between a teenage girl and a leader of the church.   His character is a suspected serial pedophile who happens to be around the

24 More Phrases People Use to Try to Silence Survivors of Sexual Violence

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Peace, Be Still Chile  I now know why my Granny, Grandma Monroe, Aunt, and Mama encouraged me to get quiet when a storm rolled in.   We had to turn off all electricity, even if we were doing homework. We had to get still. I hated it. Until I didn’t.   At some point I came to be fascinated by it.  I would actually sit on the front porch.  They would say,

How Some Teachers Are on the Frontlines of Fighting Child Sexual Abuse

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Did you know that some victims of child sexual abuse prefer to confide in teachers rather than parents? Even those from “good” loving homes? No one knew Up until today, few know this.  My teachers were the first safe adults to learn that I was being raped by people my mother and family members both knew and trusted. Unfortunately, my homeroom teacher,  Mrs. Hiliard* and my teacher who taught me

5 Effective Tips to Help Safe Father Figures Protect Loved Ones from Child Sexual Abuse

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Safe father figures can be very effective at helping to prevent the spread the epidemic of child sexual abuse. Here are just five effective tips to help them get started today. Be aware that children can be victims of manipulation tactics.  One common tactic used by child sexual abusers involves pushing away the safe father figures in their lives.  Safe father figures may miss this, though.  I have come to

How Survivors Find Their Voices and Help Others: Shanika Sealy

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Survivors of oppression and/or violence are the most inspiring people I that I have encountered in life!Creating ways to survive and finding their own voices when everyone around them; friends, foe, and allies, want them to keep silent.I was honored to interview Survivor Shanika Sealy. She found her voice in spite of the pressure to keep silent while writing her book, Please Help Me, Santa. Here is the video: