One of the Worst Pieces of Advice I Was Ever Given about Surviving Child Sexual Abuse

I am a voracious reader.  As early as I can recall my mother required that all three of her children read at least two books at a time daily.   I don’t recall being read to as a child. I only recall asking my mother how to pronounce multiple syllable words.  Over the years, I […]

24 More Phrases People Use to Try to Silence Survivors of Sexual Violence

Peace, Be Still Chile  I now know why my Granny, Grandma Monroe, Aunt, and Mama encouraged me to get quiet when a storm rolled in.   We had to turn off all electricity, even if we were doing homework. We had to get still. I hated it. Until I didn’t.   At some point I came to […]

What the Church and People of Faith Can Do to Help Victims of Sexual and Domestic Violence

 Speak on It About 16 years ago I was sitting in service and Pastor Lance Watson was delivering an amazing sermon.  The sermon was on relationships in general.   Let’s just tell the truth and shame the devil. To be honest, I wasn’t in a relationship at the time, so this was one of those Sundays […]

No Gratitude, No Quilt: You May Never Fully Heal From Pain Without Gratitude

Update! Several months ago, my mom asked me to buy her hair accessories similar to the ones that she once saw me wearing.  I did.   When I got there I asked for the money it cost me. Showed her the receipt and everything. (No, I don’t know what I was thinking. I do think I […]

High Five From WESurvive: Lavon Morris Grant A Spiritual Miracle

In early 2002 or so a group of us Women of Color working in sexual and domestic drove down from Virginia to North Carolina to a two-day conference.  It was a Women of Color conference.   There weren’t many being held in the southern region.  So at that time, nearby states drove to support one another […]

How Anger Helps Survivors of Child Sexual Abuse

Imagine it is your 18th birthday.   A well dressed stranger comes to your home. He has news for you. He tells you that you have inherited $550 million dollars payable upon your 18th birthday.   Hey! That is today. You jump up and down.  Cry, get excited.  Dance.  Think of everything that you will buy. Think of […]

Update: Tonya GJ’s DIY Empowerment & Refueling Using only 23 Social Justice Movies

Update: (new films, new content) Thank God it is Fall! I love fall, but all this rain & wind from this storm with the handsome name is a bit soon. Back in August I posted this. I was thinking that this weekend it would be great too.   Please feel free to suggest new movies.  […]

Why Does Society Make it Difficult for Survivors of Rape & Abuse to Come Forward? Part 2

Why Does Society Make it Difficult for Survivors of Rape & Abuse to Come Forward? Part 2

Why Does Society Make it Difficult for Survivors of Rape & Abuse to Come Forward? Part 1     7.  Every choice that you ever made (sexually) is scrutinized.  They have questions. Everybody.   Q: How many intimate partners have you had?   Q: How quickly do you usually decide to sleep with them?  Q: Do […]

Why Other People’s forgiveness may not be for you

I’m concerned. I have been watching a reality television show about a popular gospel group. I know that people learn lessons from television. I do too.  To an extent. Y’all do know that taking advice from other people about their situations is like taking other people’s prescription medications.  It might not always work.  You need […]

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