No matter what statistics say, no matter what is going on in society, when people in the community have a problem eventually they see a doctor or a faith leader. Sometimes when people are dealing with domestic violence they turn to the church. But what can the church do? Thankfully, there are many things that the church community can do. 1. Believe them. Whatever you are hearing, know that the
(from TheHotline.org) Books: General Battered Wives – Del Martin But I Love Him: Protecting Your Teen Daughter from Controlling, Abusive Dating Relationships – Jill Murray Chain Chain Change: For Black Women in Abusive Relationships – Evelyn C. White Getting Free: A Handbook for Women in Abusive Relationships – Ginny NiCarthy Police Wife: The Secret Epidemic of Police Domestic Violence – Susanna Hope, Alex Roslin I Love a Firefighter: What the Family
I’d like to introduce to some of you a Survivor who makes me smile instantly. He is passionate, informed, and somehow finds a way to do this often distressful work with gregarious joy. If you are ever low on hope or happiness Wyatt O’Brian Evans always seems to have a bit in his overflow you can grab onto. You can read his full bio here. Wyatt O’Brian Evans is a
So yesterday I posted about ending the cycle of abusive relationships in a person’s personal life and finding the healthy one. Well later in the day, I read this post from author Olevia Henderson. Oh, it blessed my soul. It was also the perfect compliment to the post from yesterday. She came in through a different entrance and I was so here for that! I thank her so much
So at the age of 13, I walked into a counselor’s office because I was told that I had to. Well, that is what you have to do when you tell authorities that you have been sexually violated. I had to get fixed because I guess I was broken. I could agree with that. I wanted to die. I tried to die. I would have died had the internet been invented
We the people will never let you forget it. If you date more than one abusive partner, you already know, amongst your family and friends you are the one in the group who “doesn’t make good choices about relationships”. via GIPHY In society, we view people in abusive relationships as needing to be rescued. Fragile. Incapable. Now, there is truth to this. A smidge. People IN abusive relationships often need assistance.
I originally posted this on 9/3/15. On 5/16/2016 I aided a victim in DC and unfortunately this is still true. Why doesn’t she leave? This question annoys me to no end. When you talk to someone about domestic violence you come to expect that question. There are a lot of reasons. But just like with rape, and child sexual abuse victims, just because you come forward and report
I love myself because I am worthy of love. I respect myself and the healing journey that I have taken to bring me to this day. I am in the process of freeing myself from the shackles of past events. I rid myself of any shame or guilt. Any shame and guilt around what was done to me does not belong to me. No matter what anyone says I have
The Very Idea People used to walk all over my boundaries. And, I used to allow them to get away with it. Wise counsel taught me that that was because I didn’t even know what a boundary was. I knew that land had fences and gates, but people? I had no idea that people had boundaries, territory, personal space. Even more, I didn’t know that I was entitled to this.
My Granny had a saying, “You have got to reach up and git yo self, now.” She always said it with such a stern voice. I think because of that I missed the love that was within her message. She would say this to you if you were outwardly distressed, angry, anxious, or having some sort of breakdown. In fact, it was a common phrase said amongst older black southerners.