Are Children Capable of Attracting Rape?

Trigger Warning  So….I happened to watching a show that I enjoy immensely. It was “Greenleaf” on OWN. I love that show!  Actually, I was tweet watching it. You know, where you are watching it on television while enjoying the comments on Twitter. Anyway, there was a scene between a teenage girl and a leader of […]

36 Quotes by Black Activists to Get Us Through the Night

This week has been horrific! Some communities have come together, while others have retreated to what they consider their own corners.  Surely it will take more than quotes to get us through.  But, perhaps a word from people who have been through the wilderness before may help. Earlier today, I posted  36 quotes from Black […]

Who Else Is a Reliable Source of Guilt and Shame In Survivors of Rape?

People who pressure Survivors to tell a single story. via GIPHYEx:  Black Survivors are not allowed to tell how slavery impacted our black families. Even though this is a core reason why generation after generation, in some family units, you can talk about any other social ill.  However, you may never speak about rape.The damage still […]

Halftime 2016: 8 Quotes That Will Inspire You to Win This Year

How to Get Away with Contributing to the Culture of Silence around Sexual Violence on National Television like ABC 20/20

FOR IMMEDIATE RELEASE How to Get Away with Contributing to the Culture of Silence around Sexual Violence on National Television like ABC 20/20   Some viewers were shocked and appalled by ABC 20/20’s coverage of the 13 Survivors of convicted rapist Daniel Holztclaw who targeted black women while he worked as an Oklahoma City police […]

We Gotta Ask Pregnant Moms Who Are Survivors Better Questions

When  a close relative, Morgan*,  announced her pregnancy our family was ecstatic!  I had to hear hear every detail. By this time my own pregnancy was like 15 years ago and I I was too young, sick, and terrified to appreciate the whole miracle.  Yes, I was reliving my pregnancy through her.  She didn’t mind.  […]

Rape, Child Sexual Abuse, and Victim-Blaming: The Real Deal

Trigger Warning What the heck is victim blaming anyway?  So victim blaming is a term you hear from time to time.To be clear, when you say that you are doing it we mean that you are doing a bad thing. Yes we do.It means that you are unfairly ridiculing, shaming, name calling, harassing, and/or bullying, […]

No Gratitude, No Quilt: You May Never Fully Heal From Pain Without Gratitude

Update! Several months ago, my mom asked me to buy her hair accessories similar to the ones that she once saw me wearing.  I did.   When I got there I asked for the money it cost me. Showed her the receipt and everything. (No, I don’t know what I was thinking. I do think I […]

How Survivors of Sexual & Domestic Violence Can Make History

Fannie Lou Hamer! Dr. Martin Luther King Jr! Rosa Parks! Angela Davis! Dr. Maya Angelou! Nina Simone! Malcolm X! Names you’ve heard.    Just judging by who is mentioned during Black History Month, it might seem that, in order to make history one must make a name for oneself.    That is how you make […]

I Will Survive: How Survivor Gloria Gaynor Keeps Inspiring Decades After the Release of Grammy Winning Song

At First I Was… When we have been wounded we must heal.  To do that, I think we all use a combination of tools.  Some of them are good for us.  Some of them ain’t, okay. Some days, I recall the alarm disrupting my sleep, and the sun rudely throwing light into my bedroom.  I didn’t […]

Caught in the Hive: The Youth Lead

Online Web Conference: Building a Movement to End Child Sexual Abuse                          Sexual Violence Zachary Miller wants to give hope to other survivors of child sexual abuse Congratulations to this courageous young Survivor! Boys’ club ‘a sitting duck’ for child sexual abuse, Anglican ex-priest and […]