READ HERE: https://medium.com/@TonyaGJPrince_93070/plain-truths-about-this-new-rape-tour-26a70f794067 I knew it. This here, was earned. About one year ago Lena Dunham began to write think-pieces around sexual violence. Lena Dunham. The woman who wrote about taking sexual liberties with her younger sister in her popular memoir. Major groups and organizations published her works. Major groups and organizations published her works “expert” think pieces on sexual violence. Well
Child sexual violence
ImagineImagine your loved one was a victim of child sexual violence. You wanted to help. You wanted to take action. You wanted family, community, and society to rally around your loved one the way that we do when someone is a victim of other violent crimes. Maybe support your loved one the way that we do when someone has cancer. But you found none of that. The
After the loss When a victim of sexual violence reports that someone raped them they might want to press charges. At first.But then…….As time goes on they may begin to pull away and become less cooperative.With everyone.Medical professionals. Law enforcement. Prosecution. Even advocates. And, even their own friends & family.DoubtSo because of this, somewhere along the line folks start to wonder. Maybe they are not telling the truth? People
My whole world shifted. As always, it was the fault of the mother. Yes, it was. I have worked with victims/survivors of sexual violence for well over two decades. Recently my central focuses are child sexual abuse prevention & healthy response. Actually, it was my mother who encouraged me to go in this direction. She thought that she had done everything right. She asked us questions often.
Sexual violence at the hands of children is just as destructive as any violation by an adult. It is hard being the victim of an older child. In the back of our collective mind, our society still thinks that it is less harmless to be violated by a child than by an adult. I spoke to a woman who came to talk to meet with me wearing a restaurant uniform.
I am a voracious reader. As early as I can recall my mother required that all three of her children read at least two books at a time daily. I don’t recall being read to as a child. I only recall asking my mother how to pronounce multiple syllable words. Over the years, I have connected with many children of color who share the same stories. But
So every night my mother would come to tuck me in at night. Every night without fail. And every night without fail, this would happen. She would come to my bed, look it over and say, “My goodness Tonya! With all of these dolls and animals, where do you plan to sleep?” Listen, I would figure that out later. What was important to me was that, the many dolls and
Update: I published this during the summer months (2015). It spread across quite a few websites and I got a great deal of positive feedback. However, some parents & caretakers commented indirectly that certain portions of the post were unclear. I couldn’t let that stand. The purpose of the post was to inform. If y’all didn’t feel fully informed then I haven’t done my job. So I
The Truth About Rape & Distraction That No One is Talking About: Part 1 So to continue, when we talk about rape the conversation always turns to ……how distracting and problematic it is for the rapist. A large swath of our population takes to social media, and any available microphone to go on and on about ……the burden the rapist must bear. …how hard it is for he/she
Read any comment section or social media platform on the topic of Nate Parker and his new film “The Birth of a Nation” and you will find the following phrases: “I find it funny how just when…” “How come none of this came out when….?” “Why all of a sudden….?” “You see the timing of this don’t you…..? “This is mighty inconvenient timing…..” A Crime of Distraction ‘ Nothing new
Trigger Warning So….I happened to watching a show that I enjoy immensely. It was “Greenleaf” on OWN. I love that show! Actually, I was tweet watching it. You know, where you are watching it on television while enjoying the comments on Twitter. Anyway, there was a scene between a teenage girl and a leader of the church. His character is a suspected serial pedophile who happens to be around the
Did you know that some victims of child sexual abuse prefer to confide in teachers rather than parents? Even those from “good” loving homes? No one knew Up until today, few know this. My teachers were the first safe adults to learn that I was being raped by people my mother and family members both knew and trusted. Unfortunately, my homeroom teacher, Mrs. Hiliard* and my teacher who taught me