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FREE Friday: Downloadable Freebies for Survivors and Parents

What a week! WE made it. Please enjoy these FREE downloads.         365 Days of Motivation A complete ebook download of one year’s worth of quotes.   Say “No” and Tell Me If A study commissioned by Lauren Book founder of Laurenskids.org found that 48% of respondents felt that discussing child sexual abuse could scare […]

The Lost Secret of Child Sexual Abuse: I Love a Survivor, My Pain Has a Voice Too

ImagineImagine your loved one was a victim of child sexual violence. You wanted to help.   You wanted to take action.   You wanted family, community, and society to rally around your loved one the way that we do when someone is a victim of other violent crimes.   Maybe support your loved one the […]

The One Question Every Parent of a Girl Must Ask Themselves

Memory Lane (2000’s) “No!” “Nobody kisses me!  Except my mother, my Grammy, my Aunt Kisha, my LaLa, my Nanny, my Dada, my Gma,” (and the list went on) I knew the list cold.  It was a list we agreed on together.  See, I am his mother. And, that little four-year-old who was being indignant and […]

Watching Racism and Rape Work: The Scripted Entertainment Industry

  Watching  If you deny people a voice, their own voice, there’s no way you will every know who they were, and so they are erased. ~Alice Walker Activist Deray Mckesson has a saying, “Watch whiteness work.” Think of it as an alert, like “Breaking News”.     It has a lot of meaning in […]

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Why Some Victims of Rape and Abuse Say It Never Happened

  After the loss When a victim of sexual violence reports that someone raped them they might want to press charges.  At first.But then…….As time goes on they may begin to pull away and become less cooperative.With everyone.Medical professionals. Law enforcement. Prosecution. Even advocates. And, even their own friends & family.DoubtSo because of this,  somewhere […]

How to Start Talking to Young Children about Sexual Abuse

  My whole world shifted. As always, it was the fault of the mother. Yes, it was.  I have worked with victims/survivors of sexual violence for well over two decades. Recently my central focuses are child sexual abuse prevention & healthy response.  Actually, it was my mother who encouraged me to go in this direction. […]

Child against Child Abuse: The Most Overlooked Facts About Child Sexual Abuse Exposed by Experts

Sexual violence at the hands of children is just as destructive as any violation by an adult. It is hard being the victim of an older child.  In the back of our collective mind, our society still thinks that it is less harmless to be violated by a child than by an adult. I spoke […]

One of the Worst Pieces of Advice I Was Ever Given about Surviving Child Sexual Abuse

I am a voracious reader.  As early as I can recall my mother required that all three of her children read at least two books at a time daily.   I don’t recall being read to as a child. I only recall asking my mother how to pronounce multiple syllable words.  Over the years, I […]

8 Phrases of Comfort Parents Can Communicate to Children to Prevent Child Sexual Abuse

So every night my mother would come to tuck me in at night.   Every night without fail.  And every night without fail, this would happen. She would come to my bed,  look it over and say, “My goodness Tonya!  With all of these dolls and animals, where do you plan to sleep?” Listen, I would […]

10 Excellent Memoirs about the Sexual Violence Survivor’s Journey

Glad to see that we are in a season of listening to the powerful voices of Survivors.  Excellent!  What is most unfortunate is that there are so many out there.  This week I gathered up a cross section of a few memoirs that I have read about the healing journey.  Each one is truly authentic. […]