Why Some Victims of Rape and Abuse Say It Never Happened

Why Some Victims of Rape and Abuse Say It Never Happened
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  After the loss When a victim of sexual violence reports that someone raped them they might want to press charges.  At first.But then…….As time goes on they may begin to pull away and become less cooperative.With everyone.Medical professionals. Law enforcement. Prosecution. Even advocates. And, even their own friends & family.DoubtSo because of this,  somewhere along the line folks start to wonder. Maybe they are not telling the truth? People start to say, “If it…

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The Truth About Rape & Distraction That No One is Talking About: Part 1

The Truth About Rape & Distraction That No One is Talking About: Part 1
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Read any comment section or social media platform on the topic of Nate Parker and his new film “The Birth of a Nation” and you will find the following phrases: “I find it funny how just when…” “How come none of this came out when….?” “Why all of a sudden….?” “You see the timing of this don’t you…..? “This is mighty inconvenient timing…..” A Crime of Distraction ‘ Nothing new here.   Whenever a major scandal…

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Are Children Capable of Attracting Rape?

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Trigger Warning  So….I happened to watching a show that I enjoy immensely. It was “Greenleaf” on OWN. I love that show!  Actually, I was tweet watching it. You know, where you are watching it on television while enjoying the comments on Twitter. Anyway, there was a scene between a teenage girl and a leader of the church.   His character is a suspected serial pedophile who happens to be around the age of 55-63. This particular…

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Explain Like I’m 5: What victims of domestic violence go through to get justice

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I originally posted this on 9/3/15. On 5/16/2016 I aided a victim in DC and unfortunately this is still true.  Why doesn’t she leave?   This question annoys me to no end.   When you talk to someone about domestic violence you come to expect that question.   There are a lot of reasons.   But just like with rape, and child sexual abuse victims, just because you come forward and report a crime doesn’t mean that…

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Rape, Child Sexual Abuse, and Victim-Blaming: The Real Deal

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Trigger Warning What the heck is victim blaming anyway?  So victim blaming is a term you hear from time to time.To be clear, when you say that you are doing it we mean that you are doing a bad thing. Yes we do.It means that you are unfairly ridiculing, shaming, name calling, harassing, and/or bullying, the alleged victim of a crime. What about Us?  One might argue that people who more often support victims are doing…

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Welcome the Week with Wisdom: Quotes on Stories & Writing to Nourish Survivors

Welcome the Week with Wisdom: Quotes on Stories & Writing to Nourish Survivors
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?“The single story creates stereotypes, and the problem with stereotypes is not that they are untrue, but that they are incomplete. They make one story become the only story.” ~Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie?“I think writing really helps you heal yourself. I think if you write long enough, you will be a healthy person. ~Alice Walker? If you don’t know the trees you may be lost in the forest, but if you don’t know the stories you…

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Tonya’s Top Picks for Best Sexual & Domestic Violence Storytelling for Survivors

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One of my best writing teachers taught me a great lesson.   Read, read, read.  Write, write, write. The best way to learn to write is to study the story telling skills of others.   Like building a house.  Now, we take our materials and build on top of that.  How about we come up with some great books that help.  But will anyone listen? I’ll admit.   It is a challenge to get people…

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Survivors Have the Right to Tell Their Stories

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SilenceYou have the right to remain silent. I learned about the Miranda rights case in my 8th grade Civics class.Great lesson. Remaining silent can actually keep you out of prison. Got it.That was pretty easy. That went right along with the family’s commandment. “Don’t put all your business in the street.”  SpeakingBut who teaches when to speak? Who teaches us how to speak? Specifically, who teaches us how to talk about rape or sexual abuse?There are no classes for that. There aren’t even classes…

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Is this the Real Truth about Sexual Violence that No One Wants to Say Out Loud

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Okay. True stuff.   I have a condition called fibromyalgia.   I know. Most people have never heard of it, but it has been known about for centuries.  All I can tell you is I am in physical pain 24/7 365.  I am exhausted, etc. etc. etc. But I am also happy, filled with joy, love, hope, gratitude, humor, wisdom, and curiosity. So, I’m blessed. But check this out:   About 2 years ago, my husband and…

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Why I am So Thankful for the Sacrifices that Black Folks are Making to Fight Sexual Violence

Why I am So Thankful for the Sacrifices that Black Folks are Making to Fight Sexual Violence
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It stings.  It burns. It hurts like hell.  You will never forget the pain.  All wounds must be thoroughly cleaned in order to effectively heal. When I was a kid I cut my left knee on a metal sliding board. I remember screaming like somebody sliced my knee off.  The gash was no bigger than a dime, but I was one of those kind of girls. Intense and dramatic. My cousin Mavis* moved into action….

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Why Does Society Make it Difficult for Survivors of Rape & Abuse to Come Forward? Part 2

Why Does Society Make it Difficult for Survivors of Rape & Abuse to Come Forward? Part 2
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Why Does Society Make it Difficult for Survivors of Rape & Abuse to Come Forward? Part 1     7.  Every choice that you ever made (sexually) is scrutinized.  They have questions. Everybody.   Q: How many intimate partners have you had?   Q: How quickly do you usually decide to sleep with them?  Q: Do you usually sleep with them on the first date?  Q: What type of relations do you have?  Traditional?  Adventurous?  …

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Why Does Society Make it Difficult for Survivors of Rape & Abuse to Come Forward? Part 1

Why Does Society Make it Difficult for Survivors of Rape & Abuse to Come Forward? Part 1
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I watched Cosby: The Women Speak. Actually, I recorded it.    This way, if I was triggered I could watch it another time.     But I was in the midst of a writing project.  So, I stopped by  Twitter.    It was like a horrible car accident and I couldn’t look away.     Most of the tweeters were blaming the victims any which way that they could.    Smug and snippy as they wanted…

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What You Must Know About Campus Sexual Assault Right Now

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When I checked out the news this morning, there was a story about a sexual assault on a well known university near my home.  Sigh….. It is that time of year again isn’t it?  So I decided to share with readers a page that they can bookmark and get a great deal of information from.  I wanted to save you some search engine time.   In this post I have provided statistics, my gathering of…

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