Boys of Color
I’m Terrified to Tell You that I’m a Rape Survivor Because I’m Afraid You’re Going to Judge Me Negatively, Deny My Experience, and Care More About Not Having Your Favorite Celebrities Interrogated or Your Entertainment Disrupted, but I’m Going to Take a Chance and Tell You Anyway By Son of Baldwin I wrote this in response to all of the rape denial going around like the flu because of Nate
You may not be aware, but there is a resistance being waged by a certain segment of the Survivor community. It began the moment that rumors leaked that Bishop Eddie Long was dead. For those who don’t know, Eddie Long is a controversial, yet well-known minister in the Black Christian Church community. So, on social media some folks were paying their respects, you know, like you do when someone dies.
Memory Lane (2000’s) “No!” “Nobody kisses me! Except my mother, my Grammy, my Aunt Kisha, my LaLa, my Nanny, my Dada, my Gma,” (and the list went on) I knew the list cold. It was a list we agreed on together. See, I am his mother. And, that little four-year-old who was being indignant and yelling, was my son. He was playing with a ten-year-old girl a few yards away
Watching If you deny people a voice, their own voice, there’s no way you will every know who they were, and so they are erased. ~Alice Walker Activist Deray Mckesson has a saying, “Watch whiteness work.” Think of it as an alert, like “Breaking News”. It has a lot of meaning in Black cultures. One meaning is: pay attention to how racism, prejudice, and discrimination predictably come
I’d like to introduce to some of you a Survivor who makes me smile instantly. He is passionate, informed, and somehow finds a way to do this often distressful work with gregarious joy. If you are ever low on hope or happiness Wyatt O’Brian Evans always seems to have a bit in his overflow you can grab onto. You can read his full bio here. Wyatt O’Brian Evans is a
Sexual violence at the hands of children is just as destructive as any violation by an adult. It is hard being the victim of an older child. In the back of our collective mind, our society still thinks that it is less harmless to be violated by a child than by an adult. I spoke to a woman who came to talk to meet with me wearing a restaurant uniform.
So every night my mother would come to tuck me in at night. Every night without fail. And every night without fail, this would happen. She would come to my bed, look it over and say, “My goodness Tonya! With all of these dolls and animals, where do you plan to sleep?” Listen, I would figure that out later. What was important to me was that, the many dolls and
Change must begin with WE Statistics are very important to social justice work. BUT, stories are the real tools of change. With stories, one lone voice can change a person’s entire life.Most of my readers know that Survivor Marilyn Van Debur Atler is one of the first persons to inspire me to speak about the unspeakable.See post: What a Difference a Voice Makes Every Survivor is unique So,
Update: I published this during the summer months (2015). It spread across quite a few websites and I got a great deal of positive feedback. However, some parents & caretakers commented indirectly that certain portions of the post were unclear. I couldn’t let that stand. The purpose of the post was to inform. If y’all didn’t feel fully informed then I haven’t done my job. So I
Okay, so the heat won this week.Most of you are aware that I have a chronic illness. Many of my readers do. Did it hit you hard too? Wow! Okay on Friday I like to leave off with uplifting things, and I will.But, I will leave you with reading material because it is too hot to do much else.So here are some great articles I found on the web. Intersectionality This word is interesting to
Trigger Warning So….I happened to watching a show that I enjoy immensely. It was “Greenleaf” on OWN. I love that show! Actually, I was tweet watching it. You know, where you are watching it on television while enjoying the comments on Twitter. Anyway, there was a scene between a teenage girl and a leader of the church. His character is a suspected serial pedophile who happens to be around the