Tonya GJ Prince

Lena Dunham, The Duggars & Activists: The Low Down on a Divide in the Activist Community:

Update: 10/24/2015 While researching another post I discovered that there were several other bloggers and websites who had taken the position that Lena Dunham, by her own admission, had groomed and molested her sister as a child. Add WESurviveAbuse to that list. While I don’t agree with every point of view put forth, I do agree that accountability is important to victims/Survivors and society.  Links are at the bottom of

Why I am So Thankful for the Sacrifices that Black Folks are Making to Fight Sexual Violence

It stings.  It burns. It hurts like hell.  You will never forget the pain.  All wounds must be thoroughly cleaned in order to effectively heal. When I was a kid I cut my left knee on a metal sliding board. I remember screaming like somebody sliced my knee off.  The gash was no bigger than a dime, but I was one of those kind of girls. Intense and dramatic. My

CLOSED FOR RIOTS: How One Black Woman Riots Against Racism

  Update:  This was published August 30, 2015. Remember that day? I do. Driver Samuel DuBose was shot in the head by a campus police officer in the head. It was on video. I didn’t want to see it, but it was everywhere. I sobbed that day.    Soon I had to find a way to deal. So I took it old school.  See, racism isn’t new but seeing it

How Anger Helps Survivors of Child Sexual Abuse

Imagine it is your 18th birthday.   A well dressed stranger comes to your home. He has news for you. He tells you that you have inherited $550 million dollars payable upon your 18th birthday.   Hey! That is today. You jump up and down.  Cry, get excited.  Dance.  Think of everything that you will buy. Think of all the people that you will buy great things for.   You calm down a

How  Perseverance Can Take You Directly to Your Passion and Purpose

Not my son J, but handsome young man. So, I’m on the sidelines of a high school lacrosse game.  The only parent looking like she was going to an evening PTA meeting by the way.  Wearing a catalog model’s blouse with matchy-matchy slacks. All that was missing was the pearls.     Arms distance away from me was the coach from the opposing team needed either a hug or the

High Five from WESurvive: 3 Crucial Life Lessons from Survivor LaQuisha Hall

Survivors are my favorite people.  Hands down, no contest. I love their war stories, their wisdom, their testimony.  They inspire me.  I weep with them.  I serve them. I fight with them in battle. I’d like to bring to your attention some of the awesome Survivors doing great things.  WE call it: High Five from WESurvive Meet Our Honoree Our first honoree is Mrs. LaQuisha Hall. I am so proud

Safe Space is Beyond the Comfort Zone

  Folks, I just created another information product.  It really doesn’t come easy. What I mean by that is I love to pass on information and knowledge.   But sometimes creating information products makes me think of those late night sales pitchy things.   Still, I do think that Survivors and allies need specialized products for ourselves.  Just for us.  So I create what I wish was out there to

What's In a Name: A Survivor of Child Sexual Abuse names Her Rapist

Did I tell y’all about that time that they printed a speech  I delivered in public in the paper?  Well, that isn’t even the most interesting part.  The most interesting part was deciding whether or not to name the child rapist from my past. I bring this up because of this story that is in the news–>>  A Retired Virginia Army Colonel sues a woman who accused him of rapeIt seems

Why Does Society Make it Difficult for Survivors of Rape & Abuse to Come Forward? Part 2

Why Does Society Make it Difficult for Survivors of Rape & Abuse to Come Forward? Part 1     7.  Every choice that you ever made (sexually) is scrutinized.  They have questions. Everybody.   Q: How many intimate partners have you had?   Q: How quickly do you usually decide to sleep with them?  Q: Do you usually sleep with them on the first date?  Q: What type of relations do

Why Does Society Make it Difficult for Survivors of Rape & Abuse to Come Forward? Part 1

I watched Cosby: The Women Speak. Actually, I recorded it.    This way, if I was triggered I could watch it another time.     But I was in the midst of a writing project.  So, I stopped by  Twitter.    It was like a horrible car accident and I couldn’t look away.     Most of the tweeters were blaming the victims any which way that they could.    Smug

6 Smart Tactics to Help Survivors Strengthen Confidence

People who have been abused often struggle with self-doubt.  Yeah. You can put up a tough exterior for everyone else.    Some days you can even fool yourself. The truth is. Words do hurt.    In fact, they have a way of leaving a brand on you, don’t they?  In order to have an existence that’s peaceful yet exciting and fulfilling, it’s important to believe in yourself.    I’ve learned