A Sensitive History There was a time in my life when I was very emotionally sensitive.
Everything hurt my feelings.
No one could say anything to me that didn’t make me cry or have some time of emotional outburst. What I know now is that I was overwhelmed with so many unresolved feelings and emotions that I couldn’t properly process anything new.
In other words, my inbox was full. I was unable to process negative feedback of any kind in a healthy way.
On top of that, I didn’t have any coping skills. The fact of the matter is, no matter what you do in life, you will be criticized. Whether you’re a writer, an artist, a designer, a chef, an executive, it doesn’t matter.
No matter what you choose to do, or choose not to do, someone will have something to say about it. Now if you are not the best at receiving criticism or if you are the type of person who is easily offended by criticism, this could really hurt your career and relationships. More than that though it could disrupt your ability to develop as a person. Sometimes, when we are upset by something, we, as humans, might react strongly. In fact, it could be said that sometimes overreact. In recent years, with social media, we are seeing this play out in public more often. Ultimately, there is no way to escape criticism. So it comes to criticism, it would serve us if we can reach a point in our lives where we have controls in place.
It is in our own best interest to gain the ability to breathe, think things through and then choose the appropriate response.
3 Fail-Proof Methods There are three very simple steps that you can practice in your life and then put into action when it comes to criticism. Number one, love what you do.
Seems simple enough, right?
The truth is, if you really love what you do, then your work will reflect that.
And if you truly love what you do, then you will find yourself becoming more open to outside criticism. If your work is nothing more than a hobby or something you do just to make money, it will be much harder for you to receive criticism. Number two, believe in what you do.
You should only do something that you truly believe in.
If you have strong convictions about what you do, then someone’s criticism of your work will fuel those convictions, not dismantle them. Plus, you will be able to not only receive the criticism graciously, you will find yourself engaged in conversations about it! Number three, find the positive in everything.
Unfortunately, criticism inherently carries a negative connotation.
There are not many people who hear the word ‘criticism’ or ‘critic’ and think, “Oh how great! I am being critiqued today.”
So, with any criticism, it is imperative to find the positive aspects of it, no matter where or who it comes from. Let’s face it, you are going to be criticized by people in all facets of your life.
But if you can integrate these three very simple steps into your life, you will find that that terrible feeling will begin to go away, and you will be able to respond, not react, to the comments being made.