December 2016

11 Ways to Maintain Your Cool When Life Has No Chill

Circa 1980 something My mother: So if everybody else goes crazy does that you mean you go crazy too? Me:  No? (* I swear, I wanted to say ‘yes’, but something told me that was the wrong answer. Perhaps it was her irritated tone.) Our conversation was in response to a phone call that my mother received.  Our principal’s staff had personally called each and every parent. That day there

How Survivors Can Create a Support System That Works for Them

As Survivors, many of us are not used to asking for what we need.   Survivors of abuse in childhood were not able to do this.  Just didn’t have the luxury of asking for what we needed.Even abuse in later years a victim may feel isolated. It seems that you must make it through on your own. Cage of LiesLies.  There are reasons that abusive people often make victims feel

Survivor Affirmation: Challenges Teach Me Valuable Lessons

Challenges Teach Me Valuable Lessons When I encounter challenging situations, I avoid running away from them. Being able to face obstacles gives me a chance to overcome them.There are valuable lessons to be learned from trying circumstances. My strength is tested and renewed with each hurdle in front of me. I am a force to be reckoned with because I use challenging experiences to strengthen my heart and soul. Emotional

The One Question Every Parent of a Girl Must Ask Themselves

Memory Lane (2000’s) “No!” “Nobody kisses me!  Except my mother, my Grammy, my Aunt Kisha, my LaLa, my Nanny, my Dada, my Gma,” (and the list went on) I knew the list cold.  It was a list we agreed on together.  See, I am his mother. And, that little four-year-old who was being indignant and yelling, was my son.  He was playing with a ten-year-old girl a few yards away

Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie Exposes The Danger of the Single Story

What’s in a name? That which we call a rose by any other name would smell as sweet. ~William Shakespeare Remix (Originally posted on WESurviveAbuse.com) 12/17/2015 Well, this week I learned that the Millennials outnumbered the Baby Boomers.  The first time that any generation has outnumbered the Baby Boomers. Perhaps that is why there has partly contributed to the recent attention to social change and social justice. I realize that