October 2016

Watching Racism and Rape Work:  The Scripted Entertainment Industry

  Watching  If you deny people a voice, their own voice, there’s no way you will every know who they were, and so they are erased. ~Alice Walker Activist Deray Mckesson has a saying, “Watch whiteness work.” Think of it as an alert, like “Breaking News”.     It has a lot of meaning in Black cultures. One meaning is:  pay attention to how racism, prejudice, and discrimination predictably come

The Forbidden Truth About Intimate Partner Violence & Abuse Revealed by Wyatt O'Brian Evans

I’d like to introduce to some of you a Survivor who makes me smile instantly.  He is passionate, informed, and somehow finds a way to do this often distressful work with gregarious joy.  If you are ever low on hope or happiness Wyatt O’Brian Evans always seems to have a bit in his overflow you can grab onto.  You can read his full bio here. Wyatt O’Brian Evans is a

Why Some Victims of Rape and Abuse Say It Never Happened 1

  After the loss When a victim of sexual violence reports that someone raped them they might want to press charges.  At first.But then…….As time goes on they may begin to pull away and become less cooperative.With everyone.Medical professionals. Law enforcement. Prosecution. Even advocates. And, even their own friends & family.DoubtSo because of this,  somewhere along the line folks start to wonder. Maybe they are not telling the truth? People

How to Start Talking to Young Children about Sexual Abuse

  My whole world shifted. As always, it was the fault of the mother. Yes, it was.  I have worked with victims/survivors of sexual violence for well over two decades. Recently my central focuses are child sexual abuse prevention & healthy response.  Actually, it was my mother who encouraged me to go in this direction.   She thought that she had done everything right.   She asked us questions often.

Child against Child Abuse: The Most Overlooked Facts About Child Sexual Abuse Exposed by Experts

Sexual violence at the hands of children is just as destructive as any violation by an adult. It is hard being the victim of an older child.  In the back of our collective mind, our society still thinks that it is less harmless to be violated by a child than by an adult. I spoke to a woman who came to talk to meet with me wearing a restaurant uniform.