December 2015

Celebrities Called on the Carpet:  WE Survive Abuse 5 Best Posts of 2015

I don’t mind addressing celebrities in relation to  issues of domestic & sexual violence who use their platforms to shame, intimidate, or otherwise bully alleged and/or actual victims. I don’t like that there is a necessity for it in this society.  I don’t like that other groups and organizations remain selectively silent about some celebrities while extremely vocal about others. However, celebrities know very well what they are doing when they

Silent Lies: Why Black Women Must Continue to Lead the Resistance

I am thankful for every single reader, whether you agreed or disagreed.  Whether you liked a post or hated a post.  We sought to educate, inform, and start conversations.   When it comes to domestic and sexual violence, it is just too silent. In 2015 some of our most popular posts were our quotes. We reviewed the numbers and the feedback.  Here were the reader’s favorites:  And Justice for…..  7 Great Quotes on Authentic Justice

What Racists and Child Rape Apologists Have in Common

Seems like all you have to do is make one simple statement:   The problem of black men who prey upon black  girls/boys must be discussed and addressed.   Just that statement forces hell to come undone.   I don’t think that the child rape apologists realize just how much they have in common with the racists that they despise. They use the same techniques and everything.    Distraction Racists:

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Everyday silence harvests its victims. Silence is a mortal illness. ~Natalia Ginzberg Courage is what it takes to stand up and speak. Courage is also what it takes to sit down and listen. ~Winston Churchill When I liberate others, I liberate myself. ~Fannie Lou Hamer Law and justice are not always the same. ~Gloria Steinem The world exists on three things: truth, justice, and peace.~Hebrew Proverbs The miracle of the wicked

Savvy Safety Tips Survivors Want Parents to Know this Holiday Season

During the holidays children might visit family and friends.   Friends and family might come over to visit. They haven’t seen the children in a long time. We think nothing of it when they rush over to hug and perhaps kiss the children.   But wait. Do the kids want to be hugged and kissed?  Are they comfortable with this?  Not all children will be comfortable with this. A lot

Sexual Violence Against Males: No Videos, No Witnesses, and It IS Killing Them

So last night I was twitter watching one of my favorite shows. Yep, it is a crime show.     You can read about the story here: What I want to talk about is the reaction on social media. **Emotions High As Former Bloomfield Football Player Sentenced In Fatal Stabbing Myths about Teen Boys and Sexual Abuse Well, here were some of the comments from twitter. Same myths different day. Folks broke out

Sexual Violence Against Males: No Video, No Witnesses, and It IS Killing Them

So last night I was twitter watching one of my favorite shows. Yep, it is a crime show.     You can read about the story here: What I want to talk about is the reaction on social media. **Emotions High As Former Bloomfield Football Player Sentenced In Fatal Stabbing Myths about Teen Boys and Sexual Abuse Well, here were some of the comments from twitter. Same myths different day. Folks

How Mainstream Feminists, Women's Orgs & Sexual Assault Orgs Feed the Culture of Violence

One of my all-time favorite songs is by the great Bonnie Raitt: “I Can’t Make You Love Me” It fits today. During the Daniel Holtzclaw trial, there were few, if any mainstream feminist organizations, women’s organizations, or sexual assault organizations lending their support.  Since the entire media was intentionally silent, the heavy lifting was done by women of color via social media. Now there were some individual white women supporters

How to Get the Truth Around Obstacles of Myths, Lies, & Distraction: Infographics

Let Me Tell It I once worked as the sexual assault Outreach Advocate for the state of Virginia.  Here is what I learned.  What one thing that I learned is that no human being can tell everyone’s story. It is just impossible. It is why I like to build platforms to give others an opportunity to tell their own. I like to empower others to lift their voices. And,  I like

Welcome the Week with Wisdom: Quotes on Stories & Writing to Nourish Survivors

?“The single story creates stereotypes, and the problem with stereotypes is not that they are untrue, but that they are incomplete. They make one story become the only story.” ~Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie?“I think writing really helps you heal yourself. I think if you write long enough, you will be a healthy person. ~Alice Walker? If you don’t know the trees you may be lost in the forest, but if you

How to Break Through Group Think and Get Your Message Delivered

You might have heard of a concept called “group think”.   Short version: It means when everyone goes along in the same direction because that is what they are used to.  They almost do it habitually.  Like a routine They forgot ‘why’ a long time ago.  In fact, the ‘why’ doesn’t even matter to them anymore.  Nevertheless, they will defend it to the death. Example:  In my early years of marriage,