November 2015

Tonya's Top Picks for Best Sexual & Domestic Violence Storytelling for Survivors

One of my best writing teachers taught me a great lesson.   Read, read, read.  Write, write, write. The best way to learn to write is to study the story telling skills of others.   Like building a house.  Now, we take our materials and build on top of that.  How about we come up with some great books that help.  But will anyone listen? I’ll admit.   It is

How Survivors Can Preserve the Lessons from Their Experiences for Storytelling

Now, in order to tell your story you are going to need the details of your stories. No one can tell your story like you can.  Survivors have some of the most fascinating stories ever.  Why?   1.Stories of good vs. evil are of great interest to people from the time that they are small children.  Good vs. evil is the core of most fairy tales. Sexual/domestic abuse is truly

Survivors Have the Right to Tell Their Stories

SilenceYou have the right to remain silent. I learned about the Miranda rights case in my 8th grade Civics class.Great lesson. Remaining silent can actually keep you out of prison. Got it.That was pretty easy. That went right along with the family’s commandment. “Don’t put all your business in the street.”  SpeakingBut who teaches when to speak? Who teaches us how to speak? Specifically, who teaches us how to talk about rape or sexual abuse?There are no classes for

High Five From WESurvive: Lavon Morris Grant A Spiritual Miracle

In early 2002 or so a group of us Women of Color working in sexual and domestic drove down from Virginia to North Carolina to a two-day conference.  It was a Women of Color conference.   There weren’t many being held in the southern region.  So at that time, nearby states drove to support one another just in case other people had “other things to do”.  (Still that way in too