September 2015

What's In a Name: A Survivor of Child Sexual Abuse names Her Rapist

Did I tell y’all about that time that they printed a speech  I delivered in public in the paper?  Well, that isn’t even the most interesting part.  The most interesting part was deciding whether or not to name the child rapist from my past. I bring this up because of this story that is in the news–>>  A Retired Virginia Army Colonel sues a woman who accused him of rapeIt seems

Why Does Society Make it Difficult for Survivors of Rape & Abuse to Come Forward? Part 2

Why Does Society Make it Difficult for Survivors of Rape & Abuse to Come Forward? Part 1     7.  Every choice that you ever made (sexually) is scrutinized.  They have questions. Everybody.   Q: How many intimate partners have you had?   Q: How quickly do you usually decide to sleep with them?  Q: Do you usually sleep with them on the first date?  Q: What type of relations do

Why Does Society Make it Difficult for Survivors of Rape & Abuse to Come Forward? Part 1

I watched Cosby: The Women Speak. Actually, I recorded it.    This way, if I was triggered I could watch it another time.     But I was in the midst of a writing project.  So, I stopped by  Twitter.    It was like a horrible car accident and I couldn’t look away.     Most of the tweeters were blaming the victims any which way that they could.    Smug

6 Smart Tactics to Help Survivors Strengthen Confidence

People who have been abused often struggle with self-doubt.  Yeah. You can put up a tough exterior for everyone else.    Some days you can even fool yourself. The truth is. Words do hurt.    In fact, they have a way of leaving a brand on you, don’t they?  In order to have an existence that’s peaceful yet exciting and fulfilling, it’s important to believe in yourself.    I’ve learned

The Eye of the Child Sexual Abuse Survivor: A Black Man Takes the Mic

It is my honor to highlight the words of author Tremayne Moore as he courageously shares his story and offers advice for healing: Hi. My name is Tremayne Moore and yes, I’m a sexual abuse survivor. Most children are raped/abused by someone that they or their family/friends know well.  My uncle came to live with us in 1982. I was 8 years old. He was 10 years.  And, he was my