August 2015

My son was born fighting for his life.   He was born premature.   That journey could have been a complete nightmare, but it had a lot of blessings sprinkled in there.   But this fight is about a fight I didn’t see coming.  This fight was in daycare.   You’ve Got a Friend When my son started daycare he immediately met another little buddy, I’ll call Carl. (You’ll see the reason for

Activists: This is About Power & Control

Update: This article is a re-post that still applies. I guess it always will. You ever been watching TV in a room full of people and you stand up.  No one in the room wants to get up because, the program is too good.  So someone says, “Hey, while you’re up……..” That is fine if they want a refill on nachos from the kitchen or something. It isn’t fine if

Ask a Sex Abuse Survivor

Perhaps you recall my post from a few weeks back titled, “What a Difference a Voice Makes”.  I talked about how important it is for Survivors to hear the voices of other Survivors. It is also important that everyone gets an opportunity to hear from the voices of Survivors.  It provides our society with access to knowledge that we wouldn’t have otherwise.  Knowledge & Information is power. I’d like to introduce readers

Deadly Denial: How to Keep Someone Else's Thinking Errors from Destroying YOUR LIfe

This week there was an uproar over the racial background of activist Shaun King.  The entire thing was strange to me. My American story isn’t unique for black folks.   He looks more like my mother than any of me and my two siblings.   My maternal family has an interesting history when it comes to race.  Therefore, not all members appear to be black during all four seasons of

6 FAQ by Parents & Caretakers about Child Sexual Abuse

Today, I would like to speak to the parents and caretakers of children.   I realize that some of them might be a bit concerned.  When someone who seemed “normal” turns out to be an enemy of children, parents get anxious.  I don’t blame them.   One of my favorite audiences to speak in front of is parents of small children.  They always have a large number of questions and

Did You Hear the Joke about Blue Ivy, Brown Girls & Sexual Abuse? ME NEITHER

People have read my writing or seen me speak publically and they are often surprised at how different I can be in social situations.   In real life, I have been known to be so quiet in a room filled with people that others have told me that they were uncomfortable. I’m just an introvert.   The real party is always in our heads. This summer a fellow child sexual abuse prevention

What You Must Know About Campus Sexual Assault Right Now

When I checked out the news this morning, there was a story about a sexual assault on a well known university near my home.  Sigh….. It is that time of year again isn’t it?  So I decided to share with readers a page that they can bookmark and get a great deal of information from.  I wanted to save you some search engine time.   In this post I have

What Happens When People Mistake a Movement for a Moment

There are some ardent supporters of 2016 Presidential Candidate Bernie Sanders to  whom the Black Lives Matters movement owes a debt of gratitude to.   Unfortunately, it isn’t for the reasons that you might be happy about.  If you weren’t online this Saturday evening through Sunday evening you were not aware that there was an online riot of sorts on Twitter.   Friendly Fire This time it was not the Black

World Wide Web Roundup for Survivors, Allies, and Friends

This week we have headlines, a tool kit, latest research studies, and a “new to me” online resource. HEADLINES  FBI: Child Abuse ‘Almost at an Epidemic Level’ in U.S.Tens of thousands of children are being sexually exploited each year in the U.S., according to an investigation by the BBC.Is it easier to open up about sexual abuse online by Divya Kaushik Jehovah’s Witnesses Cover Up Child Sex Abuse and Oust a

5 Reasons Why I Wish Racism was a Mental Health Disorder

Updated: Oh for goodness sakes! I  keep hearing this stuff buzzing around again.  Every time certain folks commit violent crimes people start up with mental illness as a reason. Let me say this.  Most people with mental health disorders have the deepest capacity for empathy that I have ever seen.  There is no rush to forgive. No rush to heal. No rush to forget.If you’ve never been to a multi-racial support