Imagine being in a room of, I don’t know, 30-50 people, and you hear this: “Oh my goodness, that sounds sooo hard. What do you think we should do about this?” No, it wasn’t something dirty. But then again….. I don’t know. I’m still messed up about it. We were doing dirty work. Social justice work is indeed dirty work. But not that kind of dirty. It was a training/retreat. Nice
Something weird is going on. Here lately, every time that beautiful young women get into a feud white and/or black men come swooping out of nowhere to speak on the issues as if they are experts. Piers Morgan just decided to just call out Black Twitter. That’s fine. Free social media platform. The thing about it is, you know how you’re at home in the midst of something. Then someone
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I am the most talkative of my mother’s three children. I think that is how I began to write. Part enjoyment, but yeah, part necessity. I was wearing people out. But it wasn’t until the age of 19/20 that I came into my voice. I remember looking at Marilyn Van Derbur’s professional headshot in the local newspaper of my townie southern city. I don’t know why, but I
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I was so drained this weekend. But it is going to be alright. All of this fragmented knowledge about sexual violence is wearing me out! As the beloved old folks around my way used to say, “Look at you, all loud and wrong.” And that meant they were through entertaining your foolishness. Listen, if you are like me, you are drained. So let us power up.
Y’all my Mom wrote me a permission slip this morning. It means the entire world to me. This afternoon during my reflection time, I felt the full value of her words. My mother read my most recent blog posts and she said to me, “You keep slaying those dragons. There are still more being born today so you better slay.” YES! In all the many thousands
So celebrities are still throwing their vocal public support behind accused rapists and child sexual abusers, hunh? Barbra Walters (Woody Allen), Les Brown, Jill Scott, Ben Vereen, Phylicia Rashad, etc. Update: I had left out Whoopi Goldberg. Well, I went back and forth but initially I decided that since she gets paid to give her opinion I will leave her out. And I didn’t think that her first statement “attacked”
New Measures to Combat Sexual Violence College campuses should be safe places where all students are free to focus on the joy of learning, forge lasting friendships, and explore the interests that lead to lifelong callings and careers. Even one sexual assault at our nation’s colleges and universities is too many. This is an issue of great concern for President Obama, Vice President Biden, and all of us at the
Tonight I am angry. That isn’t my default setting though. Usually, I smile so much that I have to consciously tell myself not to do it. That ain’t happening today. For the past 2 years or so I have heard you loud and clear. You didn’t believe all those women when they said that they were raped and drugged. But tonight you learned that Bill Cosby himself said that he
Self-doubt. I think that one reason that some people can’t understand sexual violence is they don’t understand just how complicated it really is. Some people think that after the physical assault, you should be emotionally hurt for a bit maybe. But you’ll be fine, or rather you should be. But WE know that sexual abuse & rape leaves you with scars that can last for a very long time.
30 years ago a sad, lonely, depressed, fragile 13-year old girl announced to a living room holding a few of her closest relatives in it that she was molested by two people. Actually it was three, but since the first one was a teenager she didn’t know that he counted as well. That 13-year-old was me. Molested. I just got that word from a television movie called, “Something about Amelia.” Actually
I know. This time of year the kids are here, there, and everywhere. No school means they have a lot of time on their hands. Mama can we go…..? Dad can we go……? I don’t mean to terrify you even more than you already are but…. Here are the bigger questions? Is your child going to play with another child where a sex offender happens to reside with another adult?