What Racists and Child Rape Apologists Have in Common

Seems like all you have to do is make one simple statement: The problem of black men who prey upon black   girls /boys must be discussed an...

Seems like all you have to do is make one simple statement:

The problem of black men who prey upon black 

girls/boys must be discussed and addressed.

Just that statement forces hell to come undone.

I don’t think that the child rape apologists realize just how much they have in common with the racists that they despise. They use the same techniques and everything. 

Distraction

Racists:

“But what about black on black crime?” 

“What about black on white crime?”

Child Rape Apologists: 

“But what about girls who “date” older men?”

“What about white men who aren’t held accountable?”

Neither group would be concerned about these issues outside of using them for the purposes of distraction.  They aren’t concerned about the accuracy of the information.  They aren’t concerned about the victims.  Their sole reason for bringing up these points is to distract people attempting to solve a problem from coming up with a solution.

Victim blaming

Racists: 

“The kid ran from the police.”

 “The man stood still.” “The woman looked him in the eyes too long.”

“The child had a toy gun.”

Child Molester Apologists:

 “She looked 18.” 

“These girls know what they are getting into.”

 “Hey, that is the legal age in some states. She is old enough to know better.” 

“Looking like that, at 15, what did she expect?”

Biased Victim characterization

Both of them tend to misname the victims.

Racists:  Those people are thugs, juveniles, (racial slurs) Everything and anything but children.

Child Molester Apologists:  Those girls are fast, hoes, sneaky, liars, grown, (slurs).  Everything and anything but children.

Accountability

Racists: In cases of police brutality which is the main focus of #BlackLivesMatter, perpetrators are rarely held accountable, their victims are numerous.  Their victims aren’t accurately counted. The system is engineered against victims.

Likewise, it is extremely hard to get a conviction in a child rape case.

Child rape apologists: Perpetrators are rarely held accountable, their victims are numerous.   Their victims aren’t accurately counted because most do not come forward. The system is engineered against victims.

Sexual Violence Victims

As we fight against police brutality we at least have the benefit of technology on our side.

But, see we can’t arm little girls and boys with cameras everywhere they go.  Our only hope is to make the adults smarter.  (I literally sighed after writing that sentence) 

Fellow people, all I keep thinking as I bounce around and read your postings on various social media platforms with your victim blaming, distractions, and bold characterizations; is how bold you all are. 

You say what you say with such conviction and you don’t even know anything. 

What you don’t know

I’m not talking facts, figures, and stats.  

I mean you don’t even know whether or not your mother is a Survivor.  

Do you know that?  What about your Sister?  Your best friend? 

How about your father? Brother? 

Your children?  Nieces? Nephews? Cousins? 

That ex that you believed in but they couldn't stay right? Promiscuity, low self esteem, depression, substance use can all be side effects of sexual abuse, you know.  

Some people are hurting. 

What They Told Me

I remember interviewing two women back to back for a federal research project.  Both women were black.  They were mother and daughter. 

They told me, a stranger, about their story of someone raping them.  They never told one another. They both asked me not to share any details with the other.

FYI...I hear y'all talking. "We have other things to worry about in the community."  

I'm not new here.

These interviews took place in a major city that was heavily protested in 2015.  But a decade prior we were interviewing women who were slowing dying or in a state of existing as a direct result of rape/sexual abuse. 

But even when we got there ready to listen, we were late.

I know your fear

I understand your fear.  Black men are always accused of raping white women.  The fact is rape is like other crimes. 

It is intra-racial.  White men are more likely to rape white women. And on and on.  

See keep in mind, people are more likely to be raped by people that they know. That masked stranger in the bush stuff is rare by comparison. 

But y'all can't let our fear of racism keep us from addressing this monster in our community. Beat them back on this like we beat back that other racist crap. 

Estimated 3.1 million Black rape victims and 5.9 million Black survivors of other forms of sexual violence.

And these don't even include people who will take the secret to the grave.  Dang, y'all, these numbers are too high for folks to be playing?

National Intimate Partner and Sexual Violence Survey (NISVS, 2011)