HEALING AND RECOVERY
In the United States, Female Genital Mutilation (FGM) is illegal under federal law.But it took decades of struggle, advocacy, and survivor voices to g [...]
Pain hurts like hell.
Let people heal.
As someone who has stood on both sides of the battle for healing—as a Survivor and an ad [...]
Shame is a prison. Silence is the lock. Technology is the new weapon.
There’s a myth that keeps far too many men trapped:“If you’re a man, it’s not a [...]
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As incredibly talented as she is, Jenifer Lewis is also a teacher! She is a teacher to all who struggle with mental illness, racism, sexism, and ab [...]
When you’ve survived abuse — especially the kind that twists your reality, shames your feelings, or calls your truth a lie —self-trust doesn’t just co [...]
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Some men don’t fear the harm they cause.They fear the moment a woman finally says,“You will not harm me anymore.”
This is perpe [...]
So women all over the globe started telling truths around violence, abuse, and sexual harassment. The next thing you [...]
HERSTORY/HISTORY
Survivor Affirmations: I Deserve Peac from Within by Tonya GJ Prince [...]
We need politicians who center women. Full stop.
Not just women who marry.Not just women who mother.Not just women who serve the goals of m [...]
(And How to Come Home to Yourself)
Self-abandonment isn’t always loud. It often slips in quietly, disguised as being “easygoing,” “low main [...]
Just take his word for it?Now, as soon asthat leads to harm for a womansociety stands in line to launch victim-blaming attacksI have cl [...]
Every day, around the world—including in wealthy nations like the U.S.—girls and women are suffering in silence simply because of their peri [...]
It has always been this way. It has long been a challenge for Black women and white women to come t [...]
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Child-centered news round-up [...]
Anytime you put your time, energy, and heart into something you take a risk. It may not turn out as you had hoped. That part always hurts. [...]
AUDIO n VIDEO
How to Really Let Go of Past Mistakes and Heal (audio)
How to Really Let Go of Past Mistakes and Heal [...]
From Objectified to Empowered: Women’s Rights in Medicine Inspired by Henrietta Lacks (podcast/audio)
Henrietta Lacks’ story is a stark reminder of the injustices women, especially Black women, have faced in the medical field. Her cells, taken without her knowledge or [...]
Celebrating Her Voice: Women’s Voices Belong to Women (video)
In this video we celebrate the strength and resilience of women who refuse to be silenced. This video is a call to all women to speak their truth boldly and a reminder to everyone that th [...]
By the Power of Self-Protection (podcast/audio)
In a world that often tells women to shrink, to please, and to ignore their instincts, self-protection is a revolutionary act.Join Tonya GJ Prince in this empowering episode of We Survive [...]
Survivor Q & A: What Do You Mean by “Sacred Castes” in Violence & Abuse? (video)
updated 2025
Below are 10 signs of a “sacred caste”—a group, ideology, or identity that becomes exempt from criticism, even when doing harm—especially when that harm threatens [...]
The Silent Season After Birth: Why Men Matter More Than Ever
Men should absolutely be made more aware of what happens to a woman’s body postpartum. Birth is not the end of the journey—it is the beginning of deep healing, physical change, an [...]
Rights at Risk: Unpacking the Erosion of Women’s Freedoms (podcast episode)
What is happening to the rights of women and girls when it comes to our decisions about our safety, well-being, dignity, and privacy?LINK [...]
Survivor Affirmation Videos: The First Five Years
The holiday season can be tough for survivors of violence, abuse, trauma, and dysfunction. That makes me sad. That makes me concerned.It brings me joy to try to spread a little joy, [...]
Survivor Affirmations: I Let Others Know When Their Actions Impact Me (video) #c…
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Holistically Rah: You need to stop being nice and start being selfish
Like Holistically Rah, I once built my whole personality around being nice and got the same results. I like people. Stories. Laughter. How we experience life so differently. I believe in [...]
Della Reese Opens Up About Surviving Abuse: A Powerful Testimony of Strength
We all know Della Reese for her unmistakable strength, radiant beauty, and powerhouse talent. A legendary singer, actress, and spiritual leader, she graced stages and screens with a prese [...]
As a Woman, You May Find It Challenging to Stand Up for Yourself If..(video & audio)
“I’m interested in women’s health because I’m a woman. I’d be a darn fool not to be on my own side.”
– Maya Angelou
Podcast Episode Link
Unchain the Warrior Within: Empow [...]
You Are Worthy Now and You Were Then: Featuring Brielle Fowler (audio/podcast)
In this empowering episode of Survivor Affirmations, we emphasize the power of uplifting unheard voices and celebrate resilience. Join us as we welcome a new voice- Brielle Fowler [...]
Lessons from Survivor Jenifer Lewis on Overcoming Shame (videos)
As incredibly talented as she is, Jenifer Lewis is also a teacher! She is a teacher to all who struggle with mental illness, racism, sexism, and abuse.She is open about getting kno [...]
Mahogany: Beyond Fashion, a Lesson in Power and Abuse 💔
Mahogany is often celebrated for its style—but the film also quietly shows obsession, control, and emotional abuse.
But beneath that glossy surface lies a cautionary tale about emotiona [...]
MOOD BOARD: Women’s Choices in Relationships (video)
All Around the World Girls Matter
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American Greed: Inside The Episode with Jenifer Lewis | CNBC Prime
You can do everything right and still meet people whose only plan for you is deception, manipulation, and harm. I loved watching how Jenifer Lewis handled this betrayal because of the les [...]
‘ER’ Star Anthony Edwards Says Hollywood Big Shot Molested Him As A Teen
As an advocate, I have worked with male Survivors as colleagues, as a volunteer in organizations, and as the person that they confided in about being abused. Because of how our society op [...]
Difference Does Not Erase Consent: What Prince’s Refusal Teaches Us (w/audio story)
I've listened.
Far too many people within the LGBTQ+ community respond to Prince's response insist that he had no right to say no because he was perceived to be perhaps hypersexual and [...]
Medical Sexism and Misogyny: The Harm in “Assigned Female at Birth”
Often used in medical and social contexts, this phrase can inadvertently reinforce harmful stereotypes, limit individual identities, and perpetuate societal norms that restrict personal f [...]
15 Powerful Lessons Women Can Learn from the Life of Gloria Richardson
Gloria Richardson wasn’t just part of history—she made it. A fearless strategist, unapologetic truth-teller, and radical Black woman who demanded justice on her own [...]
Women Taint Nobody's Business Who You Choose to Love (audio)
Women Tain't Nobody's Business Who You Choose To Love [...]
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Survivor Affirmations: I Live an Authentic Life, Lessons from Big Mama Thornton (podcast episode)
In this compelling episode of the We Survive Abuse podcast, we dive into the powerful life and legacy of blues legend Big Mama Thornton. Join host Tonya GJ Prince as she unpack [...]
Austin Wolfe Sentencing: What It Means for Survivors, Justice, and the Black Gay Community (w/audio)
The news of Austin Wolfe’s sentencing has landed heavily. Once a visible figure in the adult entertainment industry, he now faces the consequences of crimes that cut to the core of huma [...]
The Velvet Rope Tour’s Boldest Moment: Janet Jackson Confronts Domestic Violence Onstage
I got the opportunity to see Janet Jackson on The Velvet Rope tour but I did not see "What About" performed live. I saw this on HBO with millions of others.
Janet Jackson performed “What [...]
Listen to Women: Sexual & Gender-based Violence :Experts Urge Victims To Break Culture Of Silence.
It is extremely important that women are given space to speak and be heard. Our very survival depends on it. 24 More Phrases People Use to Try to Silence Survivors of Sexual Vi [...]
Keep Sweet, Pray and Obey on Netflix
I believe that watching and reading stories about abuse of power and indoctrination should be required for people; even more so if you've ever been abused and/or manipulated. I [...]
How Poetry Can Teach Us About Self Love
How Poetry Can Teach Us About Self Love [...]
Heroines Among Us: Mom Transforms Garage to an Apartment for Daughter Fleeing From Abuse
We do what we must when the going gets dangerous and toxic. Applause to this Mother! 💓.......@naydaniellexo Moms are a blessing, loving this new journey & life for me and my [...]
🩸 They’ve Always Watched the Womb: A History of Obsession, Control & Harm w/video featuring Michelle Browder, Mothers of Gynecology
🩸 They’ve Always Watched the Womb: A History of Obsession, Control & Harm
From the plantation to the present day, men—particularly those in power—have long been fascinated by female [...]
Unshackled: Black Women, Boundaries, and the Right to Rest
I saw a video short this morning where a young woman stated that we women were talking about a few things a little too much. Among those was: divine femineity, 4B movement, [...]
Child Sex Abuse is NOT a Team Sport (video short)
If you are serious about preventing violence against children, you can't approach it like a team sporting event. There are groomers & pedophiles who are: republican, democrat, i [...]
Keeping Children Safe in School: Body Safety
Learning from the Loudon County Tragedy (updated) | WE Survive AbuseWE Can't Afford to Repeat the Mistakes of (PIE) Paedophile Information Exchange | WE Survive AbuseSurvivi [...]
Cathy Hughes and The Quiet Storm: Healing on the Airwaves
“Good evening, sweetheart…”Those few words, whispered through radios across America, weren’t just an introduction—they were an invitation. An invitation to breathe, to feel, to remember [...]
Predators Be Like: “Don’t Tell Your Parents” (Faithful background)
Predators are not hard to figure out. If someone tells you not to tell your parents, they mean you no good.
Predators Be Like: Only I Understand You | WE Survive Abuse[...]
Failure to Listen to Women Is the Red Flag
We talk a lot about red flags.But let’s be honest.Refusing to listen to women? That’s the first red flag.
It doesn’t always come with shouting or slamming doors.Sometimes it comes dresse [...]
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Only 2% “Owned” Slaves?” The Dangerous Game of Subtracting Context
We’ve all heard it: “Only 2% of white people "owned" slaves.”It’s a talking point tossed around to downplay history. But here’s the truth: it’s not the full story.🚨 The Problem [...]
The Natural Hair Movement Cicely Tyson Inspired | Oprah’s Master Class | Oprah Winfrey Network
When Cicely Tyson wore her hair natural on national television in the 1960s, it wasn’t just a style—it was a statement of self-respect in a world built to deny her humanity. At a time whe [...]
Civil Rights Treasures from the March on Washington: Gloria Richardson
Civil Rights Pioneer Gloria Richardson, 91, on How Women Were Silenced at 1963 March on Washington | Democracy Now! How Gloria Richardson' [...]
Give Me 5 Minutes: What is a Toxic Relationship? (audio)
Give Me 5 Minutes: What is a Toxic Relationship? (audio)[...]
Don’t Use Our History to Justify Our Endangerment
Jim Crow taught the world that Black girls and women existed to be used, violated, discarded. It wasn’t just about water fountains and buses. It was about making it legal and cultural to [...]
The Power of Healing Spaces: Why Race-Specific Healing Groups Are as Vital as Sex-Specific Ones (audio/podcast)
Healing is universal, but the paths we take to get there are not one-size-fits-all. In this compelling episode of We Survive Abuse, Tonya GJ Prince tackles a critical and often overlooked [...]
Silenced Prey: Unsolved murders of Black women in Chicago leave puzzling pattern
https://wesurviveabuse.com/2025/03/betrayal-blindness-the-cost-of-ignoring-harm/https://wesurviveabuse.com/2025/03/lets-not-confuse-two-different-struggles-jim-crow-and-sex-based- [...]
Red Flag #1: If They Won’t Let You Have Privacy, They Don’t See You as Human
When Privacy Is Forbidden—It’s a Deadly Warning
Some people believe that their partners, children, or family members do not deserve privacy. That belief is not just a red flag. It is a b [...]
Implanting an Enemy Within Women and Girls
You were mocked for being smart then and now by Tonya GJ Prince [...]
MINK! — My Mom Fought For Title IX, but It Almost Didn’t Happen | Op-Docs
Original post: May 4, 2023They never wanted women and girls to have safety and fairness in sports.Equality, sports, and Title IX - Erin Buzuvis and Kristine Newhall | WE Survive AbuseTitl [...]
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Big Mama Thornton: I Stand Up for Myself For As Long As I Can
Big Mama Thornton, who originally recorded the classic song "Hound Dog", was a pioneering artist who broke barriers and demanded respect in a male-dominated industry of blues artist [...]
Fear is a Gift: Quotes from Gavin de Becker (updated with podcast link)
Listen to this blog post here
There are definitely times when we should overcome our fears. And there are times when we should listen carefully [...]
Why Women Say ‘Text Me When You Get Home’: The Everyday Safety Steps Men Rarely Think About (video)
Our continued thoughts and condolences to the family and loved ones of Nia Wilson. May she rest in peace and power.
When women say “Text me when you get home,” it isn’t just courtesy—it [...]
Breaking the silence on sexual violence in Colombia: Fulvia tells her story
Now more than ever, we must listen to the stories of women. And give space for women to say what they need to say, and not what others need them to say. Mood Board Thy Name is [...]
MEDICINAL HEALING
VIOLATIONS
Why Every Generation Thinks It’s “Right” (And Why That Changes)
I'm really starting to feel like we need to bring back those stickers. You know the content warning stickers? "Pg-13" and such. Gen X is the reason for those by the way and we are proud o [...]
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The Resistance of Celia: The Enslaved Black Girl Who Fought Back
updated for 2025
Celia’s name should be spoken not just as a victim, but as a woman who resisted, who fought for her dignity when no one else would.The Resistance of Celia: A Woman [...]
Catching Up On Some Reads (Great Books)
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The Injustice of Down Low Marriages: When Women Pay the Price for a Man’s Secrets
Everyone should get the opportunity to live this life loving who truly and authentically loves them back.There is nothing wrong with struggling with identity. But when a man—angry th [...]
You Were Always Worth Loving—They Just Weren’t Capable of Giving It
There are people who will make you question everything good about yourselfbecause they were never capable of loving you well.
And yet—you tried.You gave.You waited.You overextended.You [...]
Reflecting on Our Collective Failure to Listen to the Fears of Women and Girls
As more truths about misogyny, sexism, safety, and safeguarding come to light; we need to keep talking, keep writing and keep speaking. (If it is safe for you, of course)We ar [...]
Healthy Teen Dating Tip Sheet
CANVA LINK There has always been a lot of pressure on girls regarding dating. There are so many traps that can put labels on her. Terrible ones. Disgusting ones. &nb [...]
Book: Beat Face, The Story of Surviving Myself and My Abuser
This author and I follow one another on social media. I once complimented her for being "chameleon" like. Her look changes and she becomes unrecognizable.A short time later, I [...]
Misogyny Hides Well, Until Women Rise.
When women step into leadership with truth on our tongues, the hidden misogyny from all sides crawls into the light.
The world is comfortable with us nurturing, fixing, an [...]
⚖️ The Fight for Protection: What You Should Know About U.S. FGM Laws
In the United States, Female Genital Mutilation (FGM) is illegal under federal law.But it took decades of struggle, advocacy, and survivor voices to get here.
And the fight isn’t over.
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Who Is Deserving of Black Women’s Solidarity?
There are furious debates about this behind closed doors. Personally, the older that I get, the more conservative I tend to be with my energy flow.
At the heart of it:
Black women’s a [...]
Affirmed: Protect Your Power and Disengage From People Who Plant Self-Doubt
This week, I wish you success in distancing yourself from people who plant self-doubt in women and girls. Many female Survivors from various backgrounds around the world have shared [...]
Stop Adding Barriers. Start Listening.
People don’t listen to women and children.Not even when we bring a mountain of proof.
So no—Don’t add more hoops, more exceptions, more “what abouts” to laws that are supposed to prote [...]
Unshackled: Black Women, Boundaries, and the Right to Rest
I saw a video short this morning where a young woman stated that we women were talking about a few things a little too much. Among those was: divine femineity, 4B movement, [...]
When Someone You Love Defends the People Who Harm Children
There are few heartbreaks more jarring than this:Realizing someone you admire is cheering for those who endanger children.
And it cuts deeper when it’s not strangers.It’s…
Bel [...]
The Truth About Bias Against Black Hair in Professional Spaces
It is never about who wears what hairstyle. Or who wore it first. That's about choice and style.The question is who is making change so that everyone can wear the hair they were born [...]
Bullies and Cowards: A Natural Alliance in the Abuse of Women and Vulnerable Adults
If there is one thing history, society, and personal experience have proven time and again, it’s that bullies and cowards are natural allies. They move together, protect each other, and [...]
🧨 The Dangerous Oversight in Some “Alternative Justice” Conversations
In the push for restorative or alternative justice, one painful reality is too often left behind:
👉🏾 Victims have a right to safety.
Not imagined safety.Not theoretical safety.Not “co [...]
Breaking the Silence: Why Speaking Up Against What May Destroys Us is a Radical Act of Survival
“Your silence will not protect you.”— Audre Lorde, The Cancer JournalsAudre Lorde’s powerful words remind us that silence in the face of injustice, harm, or oppression only allows these f [...]
The Healing Isn’t in the Headlines. It’s in the Listening
There is a rhythm that the media loves:Shock. Outrage. Silence.A Survivor comes forward.The story catches fire.It lands in headlines, hashtags, and trending feeds.And then… it disappears. [...]
Journalist withheld information about Emmett Till’s murder, documents show
From Washington Post:Journalist withheld information about Emmett Till’s murder, documents show [...]
When Healing Language Gets Mocked: Gaslighting by Cultural Delegitimization
They asked you to speak. Or, it is time and space designed for speaking.
To be honest. To open up. To tell your truth.
They asked you to join groups. To heal. To grow.And when you fi [...]
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Scouts Honor: The Secret Files of Boy Scouts of America is on Netflix
This is another MUST-SEE!From this storytelling perspective we can see: Avoidance & discouragement of parental notificationDeep denial on behalf of leaders charged wit [...]
It’s Not the Phrase. It’s the Harm.
Some folks are upset nowabout the phrase:“I don’t owe you.”
Around here, we are retiring the phrase.
But not because people do not like it,
but because we have so much more to say and [...]
💔 When Sisterhood Is a Silencer: Spotting the Wounds Behind the Smile
Some women walk with us in sisterhood—but not in solidarity.
They speak our language. Quote the affirmations. Light the candles. Clap at the empowerment conferences. Sit in the women’s c [...]
No Gratitude, No Quilt: A Lesson from My Mama (and a Little Fried Chicken)
*Updated for 2025Several months ago, my mom asked me to pick up some hair accessories like the ones she saw me wearing. Naturally, I did.
But when I got there, I did something. [...]
🛡️ Building Courage After Abuse: Breath by Breath, Brick by Brick
After abuse, courage doesn't roar back all at once.It flickers.It shakes.It comes in broken whispers and trembling steps.And that's okay.
Courage after abuse is not sudden.It is built.Br [...]
🔥 Druella Jones (Aunt Jonas), Alabama, 1915: The Woman Who Lit A Fire Freedom Remembers
She lit a fire that freedom remembers.
We don’t talk enough about her.
Druella Jones, born into slavery under Thomas Ferrell in Alabama, did not wait for history to hand her liberatio [...]
🛑 Summer Safety Alert: Predators Count on Your Distractions—Don’t Let Them
Yes, it’s summer again.
And while many of us are focused on camps, cookouts, rest, and routine changes—some people are focused on your children.I’m talking about predat [...]
10 Hard Truths About Men Who Have Been Violent in Relationships
Safety never comes from cruelty. One of the strongest predictors of future abuse is past abuse. Men who have harmed partners before are likely to repeat the pattern—because abuse is not [...]
Survivor Lessons on Emotional Abuse: Moving Beyond the Hurt But Saving the Lessons
original: 7/20/2016We the people will never let you forget it. If you date more than one abusive partner, you already know, amongst your family and friends you are the one in the gro [...]
People Over 50 Are Sharing What Has Changed The Most About Working From When They First Started Vs. Today
Young people have no idea why their older counterparts keep fighting . The fight for respect in the workplace has been a long fight.People Over 50 Are Sharing What Has Changed [...]
❓FAQ: Can You Heal If You Never Got Closure?
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Q: Can you heal if you never got closure?A: Yes. You absolutely can. And many Survivors do.
But let's be real: it's not easy.🔍 What Do People Usually Mean by [...]
Ending the Brutality of Medical Racism Begins with Listening to Patients
Choosing not to listen to and respond to the health needs of Black & brown persons is the primary driver of medical racism.
Why Black Women Deserve Better in Healthcare—and [...]
✂️ Unlearning the Lie: When “Being a Good Person” Means Upholding Harm
Some of us were taught that being a “good person” meant keeping quiet.Smoothing things over.Soften the blow.Protect their reputation.Look the other way.Pretend you didn’t hear what you he [...]
Only 2% “Owned” Slaves?”: Slavery and Slaveholding in the United States Facts (Part 3)
Slavery and Slaveholding in the United States, 1860Introduction
On the eve of the Civil War, slavery was the backbone of Southern life and one of the most defining institutions in Am [...]
The Perils of Victim-Blaming: The Call to Uncover Harm
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Keeping Girls Safe in a Dangerous World (ebook) 2025 UPDATE
In a world where girls face unique dangers and challenges, Keeping Girls Safe in a Dangerous World is a guide for parents, caregivers, and advocates committed to creating a sa [...]
Sherrice Iverson: The Deadly Danger of Deprioritizing the Safety of Girls
On 5/28/23 I posted about one of the worst murder cases seen in Nevada casino history. The murder of little Sherrice Iverson.
"Do not make it easier for males to be in isolated spaces w [...]
Where Are All the Feminists and Women’s Rights Activists?
....Fighting against tactics to silence us. That is where we are.Women own very few of these retail and social media platforms. As much as the male CEO's declare that their space is [...]
How ‘WE the People’ Violate Women in Prison Today
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Why We Must Update Our Own Personal Privacy Policies Too
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Companies update their privacy policies all the time. It’s usually tucked away in a long email that most people don’t read, but it matters. Why? Because the world [...]
Essential Advice on Living Long and Thriving Through Tyranny
Alice Walker once said, "The most common way people give up their power is by thinking they don't have any." -Alice Walker Listen, learn, change the worldFrom Timothy Snyd [...]
10 Sacred Truths for Black Women Who Are Tired of Carrying the World
1. You are not a beast of burden.The world will try to make you one. It will pile its sins, mistakes, and unhealed wounds onto your back. Refuse. You were not created to carry what does [...]
The Hidden Role of Women in Child Exploitation: Kenya’s “Madams”
SELF CARE ALERTThis one minute clip is difficult to watch. Please take care of yourself."They’re still children, so it’s easy to manipulate them by just handing them sweets [...]
9 Signs That Reveal Childhood Neglect
Healing is a journey..... [...]
Fear is a Gift: Quotes from Gavin de Becker (updated with podcast link)
Listen to this blog post here
There are definitely times when we should overcome our fears. And there are times when we should listen carefully [...]
Black Women’s Safety Is Not Optional: It’s a Justice Issue
1. We Are Often the First to Speak Up—and the Last to Be Protected
Black women are frequently the ones raising the alarm about injustice. Yet when it comes time to fund protection, chang [...]
When the Request for Truth Is Framed as Hate
It’s an old tactic.Polished. Weaponized.Still as effective as ever.
When someone—especially a woman, especially someone from a minoritized group—asks for the truth, the pushback is swift [...]
Denzel Washington on Malcolm X: The Deception of Being Called “Hateful” for Self-Preservation
If you have been called "hateful" because you stand up for your own safety, maybe you can relate to this video clip and the life and perhaps at least some of the wise teachings of M [...]
Coercive Sex Trafficking: What People Don’t Understand
That line is more fragile than people think.
Too many people in the U.S. still picture sex trafficking as some shadowy van pulling up to snatch a girl off the street.That does happen. [...]
Dear Women: No Man’s Negative Voice Belongs in Your Head
Dear women, let’s get this straight: no man’s negative voice deserves rent-free space in your mind.Too many men have tried to shrink us with words:
You’re not that special.
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Women Are Not a Collection of Regressive Stereotypes
All gender stereotypes are regressive. To say that a woman is anyone-whether female or male-who instantiates the regressive stereotypes associated with women is to define "woma [...]
When is “All Skin Folk Ain’t Kin Folk” Going to Apply to Those Who Kill Us?
"All skin folk ain't kin folk" really ought to start applying to people who maim, murder, & leave children parentless in the Black community."All skin folk ai [...]
Other People’s Emotional Unavailability Is Not Your Fault
Survivor, you’ve carried so much.
You’ve fought for healing, for hope, for wholeness—not just for yourself, but for others too. You’ve tried to pour love into places that had no room for [...]
🧩 The Price of Silence: Black Women, Coercive Control, and the Hidden Costs of “Unity”
There is a kind of violence that doesn’t leave bruises.A kind that hides behind charm, culture, tradition, “community.”A kind that preys on the idea that Black women are unbreakable. "Unr [...]
The Mothers of Modern Gynecology: Anarcha, Lucy, and Betsey
The True Story Behind the Surgical Legacy Built on Black Women's Pain
Between 1845 and 1849, in Montgomery, Alabama, three young enslaved Black women—Anarcha, Lucy, and Betsey—were subje [...]
You See Our Blackness, But Not Our Bruises
We are not just Black.We are not just women.We are Black women—and we need care, health, and safety.
You don’t get to claim you care about justiceif disabled children, silenced girls [...]
When the World Misunderstands the Roots of “Choice”: A Survivor-Centered Look at Abuse, Neglect, and Prostitution
Too often, when the topic of prostitution or “sex work” comes up, the first question is: “Why did she choose that?”But I’ve been walking beside Survivors for over 30 years, and I’ll tell [...]
Alarm Clock: The Growing Dangers in Women’s Spaces (updated)
"We were told repeatedly, that these things "never happen."Denial, name-calling, shaming, blaming, minimizing, and pretending not to see harm being done-the old reliable blind eye. [...]
🌿 Healing After Emotional Abuse: You Are Not Broken, You Are Becoming
Healing after emotional abuse isn't about "getting back to normal."It’s about building a new normal — one where you trust yourself again, where your needs matter, and where your peace is [...]
I Will Survive: How Survivor Gloria Gaynor Keeps Inspiring Decades After the Release of Grammy Winning Song
originally published 2/8/ 2016At First I Was Afraid... When we have been wounded we must heal. To do that, I think we all use a combination of tools. Some of them are goo [...]
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Women’s History: Victories and Setbacks in the War on Women
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What Does Violence Against Women Really Look Like Today? Truths You Can’t Ignore
Women with Disabilities Face Higher Risk
Women and girls with disabilities are more than twice as likely to experience sexual violence. Yet many shelters, resources, and safety plans fai [...]
We Are Not the World’s Dumping Ground: The Sacred Art of Refusing Misplaced Blame
Black women, how much of the world’s weight have you carried today?
How many wounds have you stitched up that weren’t yours? How many fires have you put out while standing knee-deep in [...]
You Mock the Debt but Ignore the STEEP Climb: Respect Black Women’s Education Journey
🖤 Respect Black Women’s Climb. All of It.
People love to say,“Black women are the most educated group in America.”It sounds good, right?
But too many people repeat that line without rea [...]
VIOLATIONS AGAINST SAFETY AND WELL-BEING
HEALTH
Last night there was another awards show in Hollywood. Don't we love those? Even if we don't watch them, we just love looking at the [...]
VIOLATIONS AGAINST OUR YOUNG PEOPLE
New Read: The Handbook of Research on Trauma with Children, Working with High Poverty Schools and Communities
LINK@supreme.neck.protector #Trauma #Youth #MentalHealth #Neurodivergent #BAND #Read ♬ o [...]
Keeping Girls Safe in a Dangerous World (ebook) 2025 UPDATE
In a world where girls face unique dangers and challenges, Keeping Girls Safe in a Dangero [...]
Don’t Use Our History to Justify Our Endangerment
Jim Crow taught the world that Black girls and women existed to be used, violated, discarded. It wasn’ [...]
Don’t Say You’re in Our Corner—Fight Like It
“What we’re fighting for is not a privilege. It is a right.” – Fannie Lou Hamer
Don’t say you’re in [...]
Facing Reality: Identity Does Not Erase Patterns of Male Violence
We cannot fix what we refuse to face. And when it comes to the safety of women and girls, sidestepping [...]
Survivor Q & A: What Do You Mean by “Sacred Castes” in Violence & Abuse? (video)
updated 2025
Below are 10 signs of a “sacred caste”—a group, ideology, or identity that bec [...]
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Surviving Abuse Daily: Forced Teaming & Narcissism
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24 More Phrases People Use to Try to Silence Survivors of Sexual Violence
Updated on 4/11/22 from 7/14/2016I now know why my Granny, Grandma Monroe, Aunt, and Mama encouraged m [...]
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What May Come When You Say “No”
Things That May Happen When You Say "No" by Tonya GJ PrinceTo authentically be YOU, yo [...]
Healing When Your Abuser Is Still Welcome at the Table
The betrayal no one wants to talk about—but every Survivor remembers.There’s a kind of betraya [...]
Unmuting the Voices: Empowering Women and Girls to Break the Silencing Chains
You may have noticed that it is young women and girls who often shame and silence other women and girl [...]
Respect Is Supposed to Be Mutual—But Women Know Better
Respect is supposed to be mutual.But you wouldn’t know that if you listened to today’s men speak.
Som [...]
A Mother Daughter Team Teaching Lessons on Teen Dating Violence: Carolyn Mosely and Ortralla Mosely (Resting in Power)
During a
season of speaking to youth about teen dating violence, I decided that I needed
to tell [...]
“Why Are Women Still Cleaning Up the Violence Men Refuse to Name?”
🩸 Say It Plain.
The crimes that males commit?They’ve become unsayable on social media—but [...]
Once You Know, You’re Responsible for the Truth
Coercive Sex Trafficking Isn’t Hidden. We’ve Just Been Taught Not to See It.
Coercive sex trafficki [...]
10 Facts about Missing & Murdered Indigenous Women & Girls
10 Facts About MMIWG by Tonya GJ Prince
Exploring [...]
Black Women & Girls: Be YOU Unapologetically Beautiful!
This is the last week of Black History Month 2024 and I have only one message for Black girls and youn [...]
When “I Am” Becomes a Demand
“I am…”Two of the most powerful words a person can speak.
In the right hands, they build identity.The [...]
How We Villainize Black Women Who Disagree with Males: C. Delores Tucker
How We Villainize Black Women Who Disagree with Males C Delores Tucker
When history t [...]
⚠️ Trigger Warning: Child Sexual Abuse, Victim-Blaming
Updated for 2025Updated from 2016: I was watching one of my favorite shows—Green [...]
The Four Pillars of Oppression: Misogyny, Gynophobia, Sexism, and Patriarchy
Women do not suffer oppression by accident. The systems that harm us—misogyny, gynophobia, sexism, and [...]
Diluting the Boundaries of Women and Girls is Extremely Dangerous
We are living through a time where children, especially girls, are taught that boundaries are "hate".& [...]
Uncovering Our TRUE Stories: Docs and Movies Featuring Whistleblowers, Informants, and Teachers
In 1975, school teacher Marva Collins took $5,000 from her retirement fund and opened the low-cost Wes [...]
Do Not Throw “Studies” in Our Face
Women know this story all too well:
We raise alarms. We say, this is unsafe, this will hurt us, this [...]
📍 Across Borders, Beneath Systems: The Global Face of Sex-Based Oppression
Sex-based oppression is not confined to a single culture, continent, or community. It is a global re [...]
The Kentler Project: When the German State Gave Children to Pedophiles
Yes, it is tragically true.
From the late 1960s through the 1990s, West Germany—specifically the gove [...]
Gaslighting and Red Flags: Black Women & Girls and Safety
We will never get another you. Please keep yourself safe!-TGJP “Do not ever apologise for existin [...]
Safe Father Figures: 5 Powerful Ways to Help Protect Children from Sexual Abuse
In a world where too many children face harm in silence, safe father figures—biological, step, [...]
Children Deserve Truth—And They Deserve Protection Too
In the wake of the Supreme Court decision regarding parental rights and LGBTQ+ curriculum opt-outs, ma [...]
Book Shelf: Finding Purpose in the Pain: Devotions for Victims of Parental Alienation
I received a link to the book below and it put it on my heart to think about parental alienation [...]
🛑 Stop Saying “Men Wouldn’t Go That Far to Abuse Women
Please stop telling Survivors that "men wouldn’t go through the trouble of dressing up as women just [...]
Beliefs vs. Facts: A Roadblock to Women’s Rights
Belief vs. Fact — What’s the Difference?
1. What is a Belief?
Definition: A personal convictio [...]
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For Women and Children, Indefinitely Going Along to Get Along is One of the Most Dangerous Strategies in the World
Many of us have had to "go along to get along" for a little while,but pushing for it in [...]
When Safety Isn’t Simple: How Domestic Violence Hits Differently for People with Neurodivergence
Tonya GJ Prince | We Survive Abuse
There’s something the world needs to say out loud more o [...]
When Children Ask for Safeguards: Reflections on the Supreme Court, Safety, and Respect
In the wake of the recent Supreme Court decision around parental rights and school curriculum, the con [...]
Who Benefits From My Silence?
Every time I swallowed the truth, someone else got fed.Fed with power.Fed with protection.Fed with t [...]
🧨 Selective Empathy: Who Gets Compassion—and Who Gets Condemned
⚖️ "But His Parents Divorced..."
As an advocate for victims of violence, abuse, and rape; I’ve sat in [...]
When Leaders Put Special Interests Above Public Safety
Leaders who put special interests above the well-being of the people are not truly leading. They are m [...]
When They Can’t Control You Anymore, They Try to Control How People See You
One of the realities of working with women trying to get away from an abusive relationship is the diff [...]
Take a Look at WHO Is Being Killed by Guns
Who needs a war? Who needs expensive weapons if genocide is what you desire most?J [...]
Weaponized Empathy Is Not Solidarity. It’s Coercion.
Let’s be real. There is a difference between asking someone to care and asking someone to give themsel [...]
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The Days of Girls
Hawaii settles class-action lawsuit after female high school athletes were forced to practice water po [...]
Letter from an Angry Survivor of Sexual Violence about this Bill Cosby Tragedy
7/7/2015Tonight I am angry.
That isn't my default setting though. Usually, I smile so much [...]
Inclusion Should Never Cost Girls Their Safety
April is child abuse awareness month.
When politicians twist the language of “inclusion” to force g [...]
AFFIRMATIONS AND SELF LOVE
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ADVOCACY & SYSTEMS
🔥 The Price of Loyalty to the Lie
Some silence isn’t ignorance. It’s allegiance.
There are women who didn’t know.There are women who didn’t see.There are women who were misled, manipu [...]
When Women Say No: Why Men Mocking Our Boundaries Is a New Low
We Are Protecting Our Bodies, Not Asking for Permission
There’s something deeply broken and dangerous happening in the public square.
Women and girl [...]
Dear Survivor: You Were Not Born to Absorb Abuse or Protect Harmful Men
A Message for Every Woman Who Was Taught to Shrink Herself to Keep the Peace
The violence against oppressed communities is real, but they load the bu [...]
Mahogany: Beyond Fashion, a Lesson in Power and Abuse 💔
Mahogany is often celebrated for its style—but the film also quietly shows obsession, control, and emotional abuse.
But beneath that glossy surface [...]
The Healing Isn’t in the Headlines. It’s in the Listening
There is a rhythm that the media loves:Shock. Outrage. Silence.A Survivor comes forward.The story catches fire.It lands in headlines, hashtags, and tr [...]
BOOKS AND RESOURCES
How to Start Talking to Young Children about Sexual Abuse
My whole world shifted. As always, it was the fault o [...]
Survivor Affirmations on Audio
Survivor Affirmations: Change is My FriendSurvivor Af [...]
Book: Beat Face, The Story of Surviving Myself and My Abuser
This author and I follow one another on social [...]
Mood Book: Kioni. Keep Walking in Rhythm
Mood Book: Kioni Keep Walking in RhythmKioni: t [...]
Favorite Books on Abuse, Rape, & Violence: Tonya GJ Prince (flipbook)
Greetings Readers, Books are a cri [...]
20 Youtube Video Ideas for Introverts (Product)
20 Youtube Video Ideas for Introverts20 YouTube [...]
Naming Ourselves: The Right of Women to Define Our Power and Purpose (audio/Podcast)
In this episode of the We Sur [...]
Never Go Back: Break-Up Safety Tips for Abused Partners (Infographic)
Speaking of never going back.....Brea [...]
The Magic Trick: How Grooming Feels in the Beginning
They welcome you in with warmth, with open arms [...]
Stay Safe in Uncertain Times: The Top 10 Benefits of a Crisis Safety Plan You Can’t Afford to Ignore (FREE Plan Download)
Safety Plan Crisis WorksheetsWriting down and r [...]
These Skilled Silencers Are Good At Keeping People Quiet (infographic) UPDATED
It's essential to foster a humane and inclusive [...]
Little Book of Affirmations for Women on the Rise (ebook)
LINKLittle Book of Affirmations fo [...]
New Read: The Handbook of Research on Trauma with Children, Working with High Poverty Schools and Communities
LINK@supreme.neck.protector #Trauma #Yo [...]
Your Vocal Power: Podcast Selections for Survivors this Week
From WE Survive Abuse podcast. Stories of inspi [...]
Difference Does Not Erase Consent: What Prince’s Refusal Teaches Us (w/audio story)
I've listened.
Far too many people within the LGBTQ [...]
Women Should Try Being Kind to Other Women Too
“There is a special place in hell for women who don't [...]
When the Mourning Is Selective: A Reflection on Silence, Justice, and Sacred Courage(audio version included)
updated from 2022LISTEN HEREBlack women als [...]
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My Health and Safety Matters Too: Why “Assigned Female at Birth” Sparks Backlash
Explore why women's rights groups argue that th [...]
The Truth About Catfishing: It’s Not Harmless. It’s Harm.
Catfishing isn’t just a little lie or a “lonely perso [...]
That Joyful Girl Journal
That Joyful Girl Journal
For the girl who still [...]
Spotting the Red Flags: Early Warning Signs of Manipulative and Abusive People (audio/podcast)
Manipulators don’t wear name tags, but their ac [...]
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Autonomy in Dating and Partner Selection is Our Birthright (audio/podcast)
Autonomy in Dating and Partner Selection [...]
Even Pain Has a Purpose: A Call to Men Who Have Lost Women They Love to Male Violence
The Transformative Power of PainMen, your pain [...]
Survivor Affirmation: I Honor My Journey and Reclaim My Energy
Anytime you put your time, energy, and heart into so [...]
Survivor Affirmations: My Female Existence is Sacred and Worthy of Unapologetic Self-Care (podcast)
Survivor Affirmations: I Deserve Peac from Wi [...]
Fear is a Gift: Quotes from Gavin de Becker (updated with podcast link)
Listen to this blog [...]
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Survivor Affirmations: I Love Spending Time with Me
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An Infographic Explanation of the Word “No” (infographic) w/ audio
🚩Because people who can't take "no" for an answer [...]
Book Shelf: Finding Purpose in the Pain: Devotions for Victims of Parental Alienation
I received a link to the book below and it put [...]
The Deadly Danger of Eroding Girls’ Boundaries: Black Women Murdered Among Friends (audio)
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11 Reasons Taking from Girls to Give to Boys is Not Supportive of Equality and Fairness for Girls (infographic) (updated w/audio)
Two children are playing.One boy. One girl.The [...]
By the Power of Self-Protection (podcast/audio)
In a world that often tells women to shrink, to pleas [...]
The Forbidden Truth About Intimate Partner Violence & Abuse Revealed by Wyatt O'Brian Evans
I'd like to introduce to some of you a Survivor who m [...]
How Do Domestic Abusers Know How to Use the Same Techniques of Oppression
‘It’s like you go to abuse school’: how domesti [...]
Favorite Memoirs and Reads on Abuse, Rape, & Violence: Tonya GJ Prince
Greetings Readers,Books are a critical element to h [...]
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Your Ultimate Youtube Content Creator Success Bundle
Perhaps this weekend, as you ponder how you will spen [...]
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Believing Everyone Plays Fair? Here’s How It Backfires (Infographic)
Believing everyone respects boundaries is a hop [...]
How to Get the Truth Around Obstacles of Myths, Lies, & Distraction: Infographics
Let Me Tell ItI once worked as the sexual assault Out [...]
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Stay Safe in Uncertain Times: The Top 10 Benefits of a Crisis Safety Plan You Can’t Afford to Ignore (FREE Plan Download)
Safety Plan Crisis WorksheetsWriting down and reflecting on a crisis safety plan can have several benefits1. Clarity and organization: Writi [...]
Gaslighting and Red Flags: Black Women & Girls and Safety
We will never get another you. Please keep yourself safe!-TGJP “Do not ever apologise for existing or for taking up space in the world.”— Chi [...]
Internet Marketing for Stay-At-Home Moms
Internet Marketing for Stay-At-Home Moms There are many stay at homes moms that dream of making extra money from home while they are taking c [...]
Your Ultimate Youtube Content Creator Success Bundle
Perhaps this weekend, as you ponder how you will spend your next few months, you may want to gather information about Youtube video creation.  [...]
15 I Am Fearless Affirmations Set
Unleash the power of positivity and self-empowerment with our editable PowerPoint on 15 Fearless Affirmations. This dynamic presentation is d [...]
Be Well: 25 Creative Outlets for Your Wellbeing (FREE flipbook)
20 Youtube Video Ideas for Introverts (Product) | WE Survive Abuse7 Days of Journal Prompts and Affirmations (FREE download) | WE Survive [...]
How Vision Boards Help Survivors Reclaim Their Future
For Survivors of trauma, the journey to healing isn’t just about moving on—it’s about reclaiming, redefining, and rebuilding. One powerf [...]
My Daily Self Love Journal (printable)
My Self Love Journal (printable)
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That Joyful Girl Journal
That Joyful Girl Journal
For the girl who still believes in wonder. And for the woman who’s learning to believe in herself again.
This isn’t [...]
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The Healing Space: A Guidebook for Women Rising in Their Power After Abuse
LINK"The Healing Space You Deserve: A Guidebook for Women Rising in Their Power After Abuse"***Includes BONUS 45 Page PTSD Journal and Workb [...]
20 Youtube Video Ideas for Introverts (Product)
20 Youtube Video Ideas for Introverts20 YouTube Video Ideas For Introverts eBookAre you an introvert struggling to start making videos on Yo [...]
🌿 My Self-Soothe Journal
🌿 My Self-Soothe Journal
A Sacred Space to Tend to Your Spirit, Breath by Breath
There are moments when the world feels too loud… and your ner [...]